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writes:Should I break up with my Fiance because of the way I am treated by his mother? heres a few examples:-When I go to her house she completely ignores me / gives me dirty looks.-she has kicked me out of the house and has no respect for me-she tells my fiance "you dont have to stay with her"-when I found naked pictures of his ex gf on his laptop and got upset his mother said I have jelousy issues.- when me and my boyfriend got engaged she asked him " youre joking right"- she tries to copy what I wear and then calls me down. :S which really confuses me lol shes 53 btw .. a 53 year old shopping at sirens.. weirdo- She manipulates my boyfriend so bad , whenever I feel like shes mean to be or my boyfriend notices shes mean to me she will cover it up by saying somthing like " well she just says hey to me and thats it" and alot of times she will pretend to be nice to me infront of him .- She has his ex gf on her facebook- " no one will ever be good enough for my son"- When my boyfriends grandma died, i went to their " celebration of life " gathering at a community center, his mom wasnt even thankful i came... instead she told him behind my back that she didnt like what i wore. uhm i wore jeans and a sweater with ugg boots.. it was casual dress btw and no one dressed all fancy, it wasnt a funeral. ANYWAYS the list goes on. My boyfriend doesnt seem realise that his mother is being a manipulative betch towards me. He doesnt understand how stressed out she makes me by treating me like crap. He even expects that I can sit in the same room as this woman . its to the point now where i left him because i cant stand being treated like this. I broke up with him after he was at my house texting this girl hes " friends " with and she was being dis respectful towards me ( his mother knows this girl too by the way). I cant stand his mothers evil ways. My boyfriend DOES tell her he loves me and that im the girl he wants to spend his life with, but shes still a bitch. I feel like if my boyfriend cant grasp the concept of me not wanting to be around this woman who treats me so bad ... then i have to get rid of him in order to get rid of her. am i right ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2012): Mommy's boy has to draw the line, and if he can't do that,he will never be independent from her. Do you truly need this tug o war with this sissy? Real men are selfless,comforting, powerful, and will cherish you forever. My wife is the joy of my heart.Find a real man.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 March 2012):
 You guys are quite young… if your boyfriend is not yet ready to stand up to his mom for you, then I think you really had no choice. The saying is
A daughter’s a daughter all of her life, a man’s just a son till he takes a wife.
His loyalty has to be with you. He needs to be able to be strong enough to stand up to his mother and defend and support you. Does he SEE and HEAR the things she says and does? And allow it? If so then I think you did the only thing you could do.
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reader, yazanco  +, writes (9 March 2012):
If he loves you he wouldn't have let his mother treat you this way.
breaking up is better than living this misery life.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (9 March 2012):
 I'm guessing it's because you're essentially taking her man away. Obviously not in a steal your boyfriend way, but that's her baby boy, and she holds high standards for him. Most mothers do. They sometimes tend to hate their sons girlfriend.
For example, my little sister has a boyfriend she's been with for a year and some odd months. I remember in the beginning, her boyfriend's mom hated her, was a total bitch, but eventually she just got used to my sister, which is good for her, but my sister stayed strong and didn't let his mom get in the way of their relationsihp.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2012): I'm in a similar situation, only it's with my bf's sister. she even punched me once. I think you did the right thing, his mother isn't going to go away but you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2012): yeah I would run! Sounds like a momma's boy. Unless he is willing to move 3000mi away from her. I have an evil mother in law that does similar things. Strange is right! It is almost like she is competeing to date him and she is his mother. There will be a time in your marriage that you will have to stick it to this momma's boy and say it is eather her or me. He will be making vows to you so it is you he will have to please not her. Wed only if you plan on living 3000 mi away from her with limited contact.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 March 2012):
 I have to say yes. He should not suffer his mother to treat you this way.
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