First dates at someones house? Yes or No?
Q. What would you people say about dates at someone's house when you're only getting to know that person? I met a guy online and our first date went well. He called me two days later and asked me if I wanted to come over to his place that night as he...
A. 27 July 2009: I think you have every right to tell him that you don't want things to move too fast. You have to do what's comfortable for you, right? Just tell him you like him, and you like where this relationship is headed, but you'd like to do a few more ... (read in full...)
He whispered another woman's name during sex
Q. My husband had been sleeping soundly for several hours when I came to bed late. He initiated sex and during the course of having sex he whispered another woman's name. I think he was having an erotic dream. I didn't recognize the name, when I a...
A. 27 July 2009: Well, first i have to say that i very rarely dream about made-up people. The people in my dreams are pretty much 100% people that i have known in my life.
That being said, you'd be surprised what is going on in our subconscious when we dream. ... (read in full...)
Relationship ruined because of a picture of his parts??
Q. Okay. Here is my situation. My girlfriend and I have been friends for almost 3 years now. In those 3 years we have been the type of friends who talk about their relationships with one another. This is my situation. Before we started dating I...
A. 27 July 2009: I would tell her straight up what the issue is. It's only fair to her, seeing as how (if I'm understanding things right) she really had nothing to do with you seeing the picture in the first place? I think what you're craving is reassurance that... (read in full...)
Life has too many curve balls...so unsure of what to do!
Q. Oh where to start with my ordeal. About 8 months ago I split up with my Ex Fiance. For about 6 months before we broke up I had a suspicion that her and a co-worker had something going on. Between the constant phone calls daily and the texts between ...
A. 27 July 2009: I wouldn't read "destiny" into it. I think you are 2 people who were engaged to be married, so you obviously had alot in common and it just follows that, even apart, you both think along the same lines and enjoy doing the same things as one ... (read in full...)
Want to have sex but am afraid of getting caught
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. we're both college students and during the summer its hard to find places to have sex. Sometimes we try to have sex late at night after everyone in the house is in bed ( poor college ...
A. 27 July 2009: That's what the back-seat of a car was invented for. I was in a similar situation when I started dating my best friend's sister. We didn't want anyone to know about us, so we got very inventive with where we had sex. We lived in a small town ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my sisters behaviour anymore. Should I cut her out of my life?
Q. I don’t want to know my sister anymore . She has turned out to be : selfish ,cold hearted , nasty and manipulative. She gets jealous of anyone and everything . Sadly her current boyfriend changed her beyond recognition . My eldest sister (C...
A. 27 July 2009: It' definitely a tough decision to make, cutting a sibling out of your life. I'm agonizing over the same decision right now.
Really, all you can do is what is best for you. At some point we all grow up and have to live our lives.
... (read in full...)
Does lack of sex kill a relationship?
Q. My friend just told me that her husband had filed for divorce which I am really shocked by as they seemed to get on so well together. When she talked to me about the things that were happening that she didn't like in the relationship, it sounded ...
A. 26 July 2009: Eh, i'm a guy who definitely hates doing the socializing that my wife wants to do. That being said, i do try to compromise with her alot... I won't go do EVERYTHING she wants to, but i do try to go to more then i don't...I do this because i DO ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to say women can't be bad at sex?
Q. Hey This is going to sound like a silly silly question, but oh well. So many answers about sex say women don't have to do much during sex (obviously more is better but...), is it then fair to say women can't really be bad at sex? :S...
A. 25 July 2009: I think whether a man finds a woman "bad" at sex is entirely dependent on what turns that particular man on (and vice versa most likely exists for women.)
For instance, the best sex i ever had in my life was in a 2 year relationship i had with a... (read in full...)
My first sexual experience and I came almost straight away...Do I have some kind of sexual 'defect'?
Q. Hello to all. I am 27 years old had sex for the first time. I manage doing foreplay for more than 25 Min's but the bad experience is that i cum with in 4-5 movements after putting my pe... into her cu.. Can any body suggest me out whether is it a ...
A. 25 July 2009: That first time always takes us by surprise :P
One thing you can try to do is to masturbate a little bit before you have sex.... To quote the tv show "Family Guy": "Squeeze out that easy one"
Otherwise, practise makes perfect. The more you hav... (read in full...)
He slept with 71 women, I've only been with 2 men - am I over reacting?
Q. Ive just found out that my boyfriend of 5 month has slept with 71 women!! I went out with him the other nite and i heard a conversation mentioned bout the number 71 i asked him and he said i was number 72! I feel sick cos i got the impression that ...
A. 25 July 2009: After that second post: Yeah, you should get rid of this guy.
He sounds horrible!... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to be alone but he slept with someone else a week later. What should I do?
Q. My question is actually dealing with a break up...My ex broke up with me about a month ago because he needed to be alone to work on himself. We dated for 10 months and lived together for 8 months. I tried evrything to make it work and he just ...
A. 24 July 2009: Well, what it sounds like is: Him telling you that he wanted to break up with you to work on himself is probably something that he thought might make the breakup a bit easier for you. It could also be that by working on himself, he meant having a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dying of jealousy over nothing
Q. The other day my boyfriend had a chat with one of my girl friends and she made the stupid mistake of telling him out of our group of mates I'm the one who always gets chatted up when out with the girls. Aside from not being too happy with her.....
A. 24 July 2009: You had me till you mentioned that you HAD slipped up in the past and hadn't cheated on him "for a while now". He has justification for being protective of you. I think that, if you really want to make him less jealous, there has to be a... (read in full...)
He slept with 71 women, I've only been with 2 men - am I over reacting?
Q. Ive just found out that my boyfriend of 5 month has slept with 71 women!! I went out with him the other nite and i heard a conversation mentioned bout the number 71 i asked him and he said i was number 72! I feel sick cos i got the impression that ...
A. 24 July 2009: Eh, i found out early on that the less that was spoken of about previous sex lives, the better. Especially as you approach your late 20's/early 30's, you just have to start assuming that people have sexual experience, and the odds are good that ... (read in full...)
When is it ok to sleep with a guy?
Q. When is it ok to sleep with a guy? first date, second? a month......just when i like a guy i get so sexually frustrated i want sex with them as soon as.......
A. 24 July 2009: In my opinion, anything after the first date is good.
Every girl i've ever dated has slept with me within the first 3 dates.
The only time i really judged was if it was on the first date. Desperation is just not attractive.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to talk to my friend on Facebook?
Q. me and my boyfriend broke up a few months ago, within that time i talked to a guy i had only kissed before (years ago) just catch up, what have you been up to etc my bf then hacked into my facebook and read the messages between us. this didnt ...
A. 24 July 2009: You definitely weren't wrong to talk to a guy on facebook! For goodness sakes, you were broken up! So that's point 1 in your favour that it was really no business of his who you talk to.
Point 2 is that it doesn't sound like it was really a... (read in full...)
Do I start an affair with my student or keep it stricly professional?
Q. Hi aunty, I have been following your forums for a while..I am 25 yr old female-single teacher,I teach Computers for 12th grade boys school in USA..I often were tight dresses and mini skirts to school, i have a decent figure as I am fitness freak!!! ...
A. 24 July 2009: The fact that this is even being considered scares the hell out of me.
Don't you watch the news? This is the sort of thing that ruins lives.
100 times no, and i think you have to grow up.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and my mum are not getting on, but I feel like we should be trying to keep my mum happy!
Q. Dear Cupid I have been going out with my girlfriend for 9 months now and I have been seeing her for almost a year. She is a strict vegetarian and she is currently living with me and my mum for a few months till i can find a job and move out wit...
A. 24 July 2009: Your gf sounds like she needs to grow up a bit.
I think your instincts are the correct ones. You are living RENT FREE at your mother's expense. I think i'd try to show a little gratitude. She sounds like she's completely disrespe... (read in full...)
Is it bad to be friends with a teacher after school?
Q. Hi Earlier I had a conversation with a friend. We were talking about teachers. I had this teacher who I really appreciated and respected. From her behaviour, she seemed to appreciate the student I was and was always trying to help me no mat...
A. 24 July 2009: I don't think so. I know many people that stay in touch with teachers after they graduate. Heck alot of teachers probably consider their students colleagues now!
I wouldn't get too worked up about the darling thing, either. If i had a dime for... (read in full...)
Men: What do you look for in a girl when you want a long term relationship?
Q. Quick question for men: what do u like from a girl at the beggining ? What is the thing that u look for a girl that u think in a long term relationship with her?...
A. 23 July 2009: Eh, personally i look for someone that will A) have a similar sense of humour to my own. I have a very biting, sarcastic sense of humour that can be mean sometimes. I need someone who can match that and understand when i'm being funny. After t... (read in full...)
I have same name crushes, am I crazy?
Q. Is it weird that I keep crushing on guys with the same first name? I'm fairly sure it's just co-incidence but has anyone else ever found the same thing happening to them? There are two guys that I have fancied for a few a years and they are both...
A. 23 July 2009: I knew a girl who was very interested in me for MANY years..Nothing ever happened (the age gap was a bit extreme, especially when we first met thru work).. Then one day she calls me up and tells me she's dating a guy with the same last name as me,... (read in full...)
I was in danger and could of died, but he couldnt care less because he needed his sleep!
Q. My boyfriend and I had a rocky beginning. I loved him more than anything and it wasn't mutual. I did let him go and it took me dating another for him to realize he loves me. We've been together for five years and I thought everything was fine but ...
A. 23 July 2009: Yeah, i agree with Sincerely. What was the danger?... (read in full...)
Why put on a dating website "just looking for friends"?
Q. So, I have a profile on a dating website. I found a really interesting guy so I messaged him. We messaged back and forth for a while, until I noticed his relationship status was "unknown". So it turns out he has a girlfriend and is just looking for ...
A. 23 July 2009: Eh, it's possible that he REALLY is just looking for friendship. I've known the odd guy like that. However, i've also known guys who this is one of their strategies for landing women. They play up the whole "Unavailability" thing. Alot of ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling bad about when he masturbates?
Q. So my boyfriend and I are in a committed relationship and the sex is extremely satisfying and frequent for both of us. I definitely have a higher libido than he does, but I can really easily coax a higher libido from him when I want it. We talk ...
A. 23 July 2009: Maybe one way you can look at it is:
If he's not using porn to masturbate, then that means he's got some lovely pictures in his head.. And those pictures are most likely YOU.
If you are having incredible sex, then TRUST me.. When he masturb... (read in full...)
He followed me into the bathroom and told me to dump my loser girlfriend!
Q. I was at a restaurant with my girlfriend and her best friend who was with her boyfriend, and everything was going well. We'd been out as a foursome before, so there were no problems there up until now... That day, I had to go the bathroom, a...
A. 23 July 2009: I think it all depends on what you're most comfortable with. If you can put it behind you and pretend it never happened, then go that route. I had a friend who had something similar happen to him (only the guy who hit on him actually tried t... (read in full...)
How can I drive him crazy and reciprocate all he does for me?
Q. This isn't a problem, but I was wondering what does this mean about his "tastes"? My boyfriend loves to go down on me and he will do everything he can to make me cum. He also likes anal sex, and sniffing my used (gross, I know) panties. Now, i am n...
A. 22 July 2009: Asking is the best way, but it could just be that he gets off on getting YOU off.
I'm the same way. Have driven every girl i know nuts because they want to do something for me that makes me feel as good as i make them feel, but honestly... (read in full...)
How come I always pick guys that are like my father?
Q. I need help my boyfriend is just like my father. He is immature, a drug addict, and alcoholic. I didn't notice at first but then in the middle of the relationship I had noticed that they were exactly alike in so many ways. My boyfriend is the same ...
A. 22 July 2009: Eh, i think it's a fairly common psychological trait for women to go for guys that remind them of their father or can present themselves as a father figure (hence why many girls call their man "daddy" in bed, or alot of women seem to go for men ... (read in full...)
Why am I a secret when I'm carrying his child?
Q. My boyfriend and i zak have been off an on for almost 8 months. Well, ous relationship has been full of alot of good things and there has been many heart breaking moments. We just found out that we're having a baby and i told my parents and they're ...
A. 22 July 2009: Could be just a personality thing. I have to admit that when i start relationships with women, it takes me a VERY long time (at least a couple of months) before i even mention it to anyone in my family. Not sure why. Part of it is just tha... (read in full...)
Been together 5 months, and he still hasn't told me he loves me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost five months now, and he still hasnt told me that he loves me. when we are together our relationship seems great but when apart he seems a bit distant and as if he doesnt appreciate me. Im not sure if he really ...
A. 22 July 2009: For some people, the "L" word is really very hard to say... Has he been burned before in a relationship?
I found that after my first TRUE full-on relationship (of 2 years)... After it broke up, i had alot of difficulty allowing myself to get t... (read in full...)
Is his lack of jealousy just a lack of interest?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. He's a wonderful guy and a great boyfriend. He's very loving and kind. The only thing that's been worrying me lately is that nothing ever bothers him. I had some problems with my Ex-bf at the ...
A. 22 July 2009: ....well, i don't know that i'd be comfortable in a relationship where one side is telling everyone he knows BUT you that he doubts you're gonna make it...
Your new post completely changes my outlook on the situation.
I think you have every r... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to make the smell go away 'down there'?
Q. Hi, recently my boyfriend told me when ever we have sex that I dont smell very pleasant down there. I went and had a pap and everything was fine. i dont know what else to do?! any recommendations in how i can make the smell go away?...
A. 21 July 2009: Eh, my wife kind of has a similar issue (though i have never really told her this straight up.)
Not sure what exactly causes it, and have just really learned to live with it. I dunno if you want to try to shower shortly after sex?... (read in full...)
Is his lack of jealousy just a lack of interest?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. He's a wonderful guy and a great boyfriend. He's very loving and kind. The only thing that's been worrying me lately is that nothing ever bothers him. I had some problems with my Ex-bf at the ...
A. 21 July 2009: Yeah, i have to say that if he displayed jealousy, he'd probably drive you crazy. I was in a relationship where i was with a very attractive girl who was hit on constantly. I had men right and left coming up to me and telling me straight up "... (read in full...)
I'm grossed out by my BFs sexual past with his ex
Q. Hello, I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now and I still get grossed out because he did it bare with his ex girlfriend who doesn't have good hygiene... he told me that he did it bare with her bare when they were together and I've had ...
A. 21 July 2009: So is it the hygiene factor that is grossing you out? All I can think to say is that, after over a year I'm sure he's probably clean. So long as there are no STD's, I don't think I'd worry about it. I do find it interesting that you told eac... (read in full...)
Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking?
Q. Is it true for some people that you don't remember your dreams upon waking? I wake up and remember quite a bit of what I have dreamt that night, and I thought that was quite normal, but many family members tell me that they never dream (or simp...
A. 20 July 2009: When i was younger i used to remember a good majority of my dreams.. Especially nightmares..Probably relates to what satindesire said about only remembering dreams when we wake up during an REM sleep pattern, and the nightmares scaring me awake... (read in full...)
She's way too pretty for me but I like her!
Q. last night i went to the cinema with my friends and and there was this girl who went with us and i ended up stareing at her more than the movie. i think that this girl is way to pretty to go out with me but i still like her has anyone got any ideas ...
A. 20 July 2009: Can you get her msn from one of her friends or something? I would try that route? Aim for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll wind up amongst the stars! ... (read in full...)
My bf says it's wrong for me to remain nice to people I dislike. Is he right?
Q. i'm normally a really nice person, and people know me for this. even if its someone i genuinely dislike for something she did to me in the past etc i am not mean to her, and i remain polite if she strikes a conversation with me. sometimes i tend to ...
A. 20 July 2009: When i was younger, i was just like you..
I would listen to your boyfriend. As you get older, if you aren't up front and honest with people about how you feel, they WILL try to take advantage of you. They don't care if you're really nice or just ... (read in full...)
He replied "maybe you do love me more" when I said "I love you more". What does this mean?
Q. hi there, I am a little confused and I hope you can help me clarify this situation with your responses. Here goes, my boyfirend and I have been going out for almost 9 months now, we are both in our early 30's. He has never had a proper girlf...
A. 20 July 2009: I have to agree with JSBach. I have been caught in a similar trap before... Eventually you just have to realize that us guys don't think much, sometimes, before we say something.. Especially if drunk. He probably didn't want to get into th... (read in full...)
What does my lover mean when he says he wants to rape me?
Q. My lover keeps telling me he wants to rape me and i'm not sure what he means by this ,why say something like that when we have good sex anyway,does it mean he want's to play act with me and if so and i went along with it what if he lost control and ...
A. 20 July 2009: Hmmm...Well as someone who has been known to use that term on occassion: I don't think it means what you're thinking it means. I find "I want to rape you" slips out at an incredibly sexually charged moment where i am very very hot for a woman.... (read in full...)
I'm worried my best friend will hate me for liking his little sister!
Q. Hey, when first started High School I met this guy in my year and we hit it off and became best friends straight away and still are now. I'm over at his house so often, I basically live there (I don't really get on with my family), his parents see ...
A. 20 July 2009: I dated my best friend's sister. It was great while it lasted (2 years), but when it ended, i just could not stand to be around my friend anymore. Too many bad memories and emotions that i just couldn't deal with. It is really important to und... (read in full...)
Is it true that men will have sex with any female who is willing?
Q. Is it true that men can have sex with any female. If female is willing and approaching them , they never say no. Even if they love their partner, but for sex they everready for any female. Male readers plz answer this question...
A. 20 July 2009: Eh, basically i think what it comes down to is how in control of his natural biological urges a guy is. I think, from a natural perspective, a man is just biologically compelled to mate with as many women as possible. Some guys have the self... (read in full...)
What should I do about my girlfriend? She won't tell me what's wrong!
Q. My GF had on and off mood swings which I can not figure out, sometime when I'm with her shes really hyper and happy and that but when I'm at work and she is at home I call her on the phone and she just goes quiet and doesn't really talk. I sa...
A. 15 July 2009: About the phone thing: Some people are just not good on the phone. I've actually had women complain to ME about this because i'm a completely different person in PERSON then i am on the phone. I blame it on the way i was raised.. My grandfather ... (read in full...)
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