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writes:Hi aunty, I have been following your forums for a while..I am 25 yr old female-single teacher,I teach Computers for 12th grade boys school in USA..I often were tight dresses and mini skirts to school, i have a decent figure as I am fitness freak!!! many of my students flirt with me,as they think i am young and good looking..well recently there is boy in my class around 18-19 yrs, he used to irritate me a lot,always fight with me..we had arguments..I called him to my staff room couple of times to discipline his behaviour..recently he has started flirting a lot with me and purposely gets low grades,he insisted I take extra class after class to teach him..last week i went to the beach, I was wearing a swimsuit and he was there too,..he kept starting at me and then came close to me and began flirting with me..now I started taking extra evening class for him and he is the only student,he is young handsome,i am also attracted to him..what should i do, go for an affair or keep the relation aside?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): I'm not going to judge you in any way. I say go for it. If you feel an attraction to this student then start an affair. When people say that you can lose your job or any negative things, try your best to ignore them. They are not in your position and only you know what you really want. So my advice would be to enjoy the time you spend with this student and if one thing leads to another, just go for it. And if he flirts with you that means he is intrested. Have an affair with him!
Good Luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): If you are a teacher of anything writing like that, you should be fired for that alone. If you start an affair with your teenage student, you should be fired and ashamed. At least wait until he graduates or, better yet, reaches drinking age.I'm being judgmental because I think this story is a total lie. A teacher who doesn't know the difference between "were" and "where"? Ugh.
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reader, Love is all you need  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 No u cannot have an affair, he might be trying to getyou in trouble when you do do something, even if he wasn't if you got caught you would lose your job and not be able to teach any where.hope i helped...xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): You are not a "professional" if you are even asking about this boy. No, do not. I repeat: DO NOT. I teach HS as well and I was once not too long ago 25, I too was the "hot teacher" and to some still am even 10 years later, but I would never ever ever even entertain the idea of getting it on with a student. Still even though my first students are well into their 20's, when I run into them I still see them as students I taught -no matter how good looking they have become. There is no place for that in the teaching profession so get it out of your head now before you get in trouble. This one may be 18 but what happens when a "hot" 16 yr. old flirts with you next? Do not open Pandora's box.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Since he is in high school and you are a professional teacher you have to keep it professional. If you're young and hot go for someone else that is mature and not a career-risk.
How did you get a BA and passed teachers college and be considering going for a Darwin award?
Go to places were you can meet more men. You are already wearing the bait so it should be easy to get flies.
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reader, taboo669 +, writes (25 July 2009):
If you want to do the right thing, then leave it alone but if you just want to be naughty then go for it. Just make sure he's of legal age or you deserve to lose your job and go to prison. Keep in mind that if you do have sex with him, expect the whole school to find out about it... trust me on that.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 What's your native language? Because it certainly isn't English. I expect this is a question designed to wind us aunts up and elicit strong opinions, but what the heck, I'll have a go at offering my advice.
When you signed your employment contract, there should have been a conduct clause in there somewhere. Take it out and have a look. Generally, schools frown on fraternization between teachers and students, even if they are all of legal age, because of the conflict of interest.
So if you'd like to start an affair with this student, by all means, do so, but only after you notify your employers that you are resigning your job due to this conflict of interest. I expect it might be difficult to obtain the next teaching job if it becomes public that you sleep with your students.
Take care.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 If you have an affair with ANY student you will lose your job and never be allowed to work with children again. Because that is what he is, a child. You will be branded a pervert and a paedophile by all in your neighbourhood and will be alienated by your friends and family. Is this really what you want?
You are a teacher, they are your students. You are supposed to help them to learn and develop academically, so they can go on to achieve all their goals. Can you imagine what his parents would think if they found out their child was sleeping with his teacher? They would think that you forced him into this, that you abused him. And absolutely no-one would take your side - you would be completely cast out of society and the event would go onto your police record for the rest of your life.
Why risk your career, your life, for a boy? I think you love the attention from the students because you are struggling to find a relationship. By wearing provocative outfits to school (where that is completely innapropriate) you are asking for it, you want the boys to look at you and flirt with you. I think you should be ashamed of yourself, these are just hormone filled children and you should know better!
If you are so attractive then go out and find yourself a man who is much closer to your own age and one who you wouldnt go to prison for dating. Start dressing more sensibily, you are there to teach not to provoke the children that are studying there. If you want to dress like that for a living then you should work as a dancer not as a teacher. You have responsibilities in your position, I am suprised the head teacher of the school has not already pulled you up on the way you dress.
Start acting like a teacher and take your job seriously, instead of acting like a slutty teenager.
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (24 July 2009):
The fact that this is even being considered scares the hell out of me.
Don't you watch the news? This is the sort of thing that ruins lives.
100 times no, and i think you have to grow up.
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reader, bobbles32 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 Do you want to lose your career? Didn't think so. Just leave him alone. If he loves you or you love him then maybe it can happen long after he graduates, but as of right now it sounds like lust. When teachers date students they get fired. You have a duty of care to each of your students. Was that not explained to you when you got the job?
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