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writes:I was at a restaurant with my girlfriend and her best friend who was with her boyfriend, and everything was going well.We'd been out as a foursome before, so there were no problems there up until now...That day, I had to go the bathroom, and her best friend's boyfriend followed me into the bathroom, I thought nothing of it until whilst I was washing my hands he was telling me how sexy he was and said to me "Dump the loser b*tch of a girlfriend and have some cock with me, you won't regret it!". He said we'd make a great couple, and I'd be good in bed with him... (yeuch!). I'm not homophobic, I just find his actions repulsive.I thought he was a nice guy, but now I can't trust him, I even thought he was a friend at one point, but now this is just too weird.He said to me not to tell anyone about this, and said what they didn't hear, hasn't happened.I feel like I should tell my girlfriend but I fear she'll never believe me.Obviously her best friend's relationship is not my concern; how do I handle this situation sensitively?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): Wow. Yuck!!! What a shocker!!!!
I would have told my GF and his GF right there in the restaurant. No niceties after that disgusting proposal.
I would have chosen to say a good many expletives right there as well.
No ands, ifs or buts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): I think you should be able to tell your girlfriend anything and I think she has a right to know. Also, I would recommend never being in the same place as that guy again. That is not only weird, it is very disrespectful to both you and your girlfriend. The guy is a freak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): I'm kind of a dinosaur about these things, but my response to that would be to punch him hard in the nose.
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (23 July 2009):
I think it all depends on what you're most comfortable with. If you can put it behind you and pretend it never happened, then go that route.I had a friend who had something similar happen to him (only the guy who hit on him actually tried to kiss my buddy in an elevator!) My friend told me because i guess he felt he had to tell SOMEONE, but then he begged me to keep it to myself as he just wanted to forget the whole event ever occurred.If you find it's eating at you, though, and making you uncomfortable i wouldn't hesitate to tell your girlfriend. I can't see why she wouldn't believe you. This is one of those situations that seems too strange to have made up, ya know?I do agree, though, that her friend's relationship isn't really your concern. I'm not sure how your gf would react if you told her. Maybe she would go to her friend? I don't know, but i don't think i would let it worry me too much.Do what makes you feel most comfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): he sure was jealous of u and wanted u both to break up so he did this and he knew ur gonna tell ur gf someday and ur gonna fight so it will lead u to a break up if she didn't believe u but tell her that's what really happened i never want him to go out with us again and u should believe cz that's the truth and if u don't trust me then why did u accept to be my gf in the first place say that if she didn't believe u
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