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writes:My boyfriend and I had a rocky beginning. I loved him more than anything and it wasn't mutual. I did let him go and it took me dating another for him to realize he loves me. We've been together for five years and I thought everything was fine but last night I was in danger and I could have died. I called him several times and he didn't answer the phone. I got home at midnight and he was sound asleep. I woke him up to try and tell him what happened and he screamed at me (he never yells) that he was sleeping and he had to work in the morning at six and to leave him alone. This morning I call him to tell him what happened and he told me that things need to change. "I need to stop depending on him so much" I hung up on him. I have never been so angry before and I never want to see him again. I decided to leave for a week to stay with friends but I don't know what to do. I see it in the future children sick, emergencies, me in labor in the middle of the night and he to selfish to get out of bed because he wants his eight hours. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): You wrote: "I was in danger and could of died."No you couldn't. You "could've" died. Just like you "could've" learned to spell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): we need more information to this danger(as nearly everyone before me has said)to be of any assistance x
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (23 July 2009):
I dont think you are exaggerating. The point is, you felt you were in danger, no matter what the situation is, whether people here or your bf finds it dangerous or not so dangerous, the point is YOU felt in danger, and he should of been there to comfort you. He should of been there to tell you its ok, that you are safe and to give you a hug. He should of been there to listen to your experience. From what you wrote, it sounds like he didnt even bother to listen what happened when you got home and tried waking him up. So he woudlnt of even been able to know if it was 'really dangerous' or not- he just simply didnt care either way!!!This is not a good sign at all. And please, take it from someone who saw all the signs, but made up excuses and decided to ignore them all- pay attention to the signs. If you dont, it will only get worst and will be even harder to leave. Tell me more about your relationship. Do you have any other worries or fears in your relationship? how does he treat you? how long have you been together? what are the good points (if any) in the relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): How could you have died? What sort of danger were you in? There is insufficient information in your post. Also, other information such as how you usually are when you are with him is missing. -----I had a female acquaintance that exaggerated 90% of the things she told me, when we were 'friends'. Her reliance on me was overwhelming and there was nothing she ever did that told me she was a reliable and responsible person, but somehow, all that reliability and responsibility was mine, because I was then, her lover or potential lover. It was a 'test' apparently to see whether I could be "the one" for her. Alas, she was definitely not the one for me. Of course, that is a personal example. You will need to state the danger and potential death experience you could have had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): I believe that the more people who come on here and tell her exactly what she watns to hear.. that he is horrible for doing this.. the less we are telling her what is actually true. I fear there may be a bit of an exageration here as far as she could have died.. please.. take no offense. I just ask that you not settle for the answers already given before giving us more details on your situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): please leave him! he doesn't care about you! that's so mean of him! you deserve much better than that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): this question is truly difficult to answer if you don't give more details as to what the danger was.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 This one is easy, he is telling you he wants sleep more than you, if I had rang anyone and they answered me like that and told me to not be so dependant then I would be answering "fine, I will stand on my own two feet and goodbye and goodnight"
End it before he does, he is a moody man and who needs them.
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (23 July 2009):
Yeah, i agree with Sincerely. What was the danger?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): A real man who is in love will put his life on the line for his family. You're with a selfish little boy. Now you know just how much you can depend on him, and can move forward with your eyes wide open.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): Can you tell us exactly what happened? We need to know the degree of it's severity in order to judge whether he should have cared more or not..
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