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| Latest articles: Same-sex rape: a real and important issue
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20 June 2009: This story is my experiences as a same-sex rape victim. Female on female rape statistics are very hard to find. The overwhelming number of rapists are men, and so most rape and sexual assault information on the internet is geared to the victim of...
Let's Talk About The Problem With Nice Guys!
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9 June 2009: "I was so nice to her but now she's going out with someone else!" "Women don't really want nice guys, they want assholes." "He never even noticed all the wonderful things I did for him!" If you've ever said any of these things, you might be a ...
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Do you think he's shady or I'm just paranoid?
Q. I have a male friend who is in the air force, he´s stationed in Alabama. I met him 1 year ago in one of his TDYs. Since then we´ve been keeping in touch as friends by email and for special holidays on the phone. He´s married, but we have never ...
A. 24 May 2009: Your friends are reading too much into this. It's not a crime to suggest that a friend see an air show. Technically he didn't even invite you. Now if he said, "we can watch the air show from my bed together" that would be a different story!... (read in full...)
I'm tired of people asking me if I'm pregnant!
Q. Ever since I was in middle school, people have constantly asked me if I was pregnant. It gets on my nerves. In church when I was middle school age, this woman came up to me, put her hand on my stomach, looked at me and said, "Are we having a little ...
A. 24 May 2009: People are just rude sometimes. Since you can't smack them with a sock full of quarters, just say "no" and change the subject. I honestly do not know what makes some people think they can make comments about your body. Maybe they have some kind ... (read in full...)
Recovering from anorexia but still have concerns
Q. Hello. I am currently recovering from anorexia, and I feel like I have reached a bit of a hurdle. I got to a very low weight and was nearly hospitalized, but I managed to turn things around with the help of my mom and psychologist and get better. ...
A. 24 May 2009: Congrats on your recovery. That is a really strong thing to do.
Have you told your psychologist your feelings about your period? S/he may have some good suggestions for you. Maybe you could not be quite so strict with yourself and give yourself... (read in full...)
I have proof that he is cheating!
Q. Kay I have poof that's my husband is cheating on me with a co worker. I found out by reading his emails. He stopped being wanting sex for a while and that just got me thinking there's something wrong. When I read one of his emails. It said that he ...
A. 24 May 2009: I would talk to him about it first. Tell him what you found and give him a chance to work on the relationship. If he doesn't want to work on it, leave. If he does, try counseling.
I know this is hard and I'm sorry this happened to you. Good lu... (read in full...)
Guy asked me out and then disappeared
Q. I've been talking to this guy on the internet for about a month now. We get along fine and flirt a lot, we have everything in common. We met once already and he asked me to a movie this weekend. I said yes. The day before we were supposed to go he ...
A. 24 May 2009: He might have freaked out about going on a second date. Give him some space. I'd drop him an email if I didn't hear from him in a week, just to say hi. If you don't hear back from him after that, then I would definitely say it's a lost cause.
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My ex or my good boyfriend?
Q. Heres the deal I dated this guy when I was 13 and he was 15. We'll I ended it then becuase he cheated on me. We stayed friends which may seem weird to some people but it seemed to work for us. Thing is even after 8yrs, I still have feelings for him. ...
A. 24 May 2009: Tell your boyfriend you're not ready to be married. It wouldn't be fair to take a vow to love him and nobody else while you're still thinking about your ex-boyfriend.
On to your ex. He straight out told you he is not leaving his wife. You know... (read in full...)
How do I get her to go on the pill?
Q. this is awkward... but anyways we've been having sex for quite some time now --i wear condoms when we have sex --i tell her to be on the pill, but she doesnt want too --she doesnt want to be on the pill because she would get the pill through i...
A. 24 May 2009: You can't make her go on the Pill if she doesn't want to. It's her body and her choice.
Hormonal birth control sometimes has unpleasant side effects. It can affect your periods, your skin, your circulatory system (which is why you shouldn'... (read in full...)
I'm alone in my world and no one to love me
Q. Everyday, it's the samething for poor lil' ol' me: I eat, sleep, play (video games), use the internet a lot, and that's it. The only times I ever really go outside are when I need to buy something and when I have an appointment. Sad, but true. H...
A. 23 May 2009: I can empathize with you because I have struggled with the same problems. Then I discovered how to turn it around.
1) Even if you're not confident, act as if you are.
2) Smile at the world. Not a huge, dopey grin, but smile as if you are thin... (read in full...)
She's more experienced than me sexually and its turning into a problem
Q. Hi guys. I have a bit of a problem at the moment. I've recently started seeing a girl 3 months ago, she is more experienced than me at sex (dont get me wrong I am too) but recently I seem to be very nervous about having sex with her. Firstly, ...
A. 23 May 2009: When you catch yourself worrying about it, make yourself think about something else. Sports scores. Obama. The price of mangos. If you dwell on it, it will only get worse.
It's natural to be nervous sometimes. And if you start worrying... (read in full...)
Possible yeast infection please help!
Q. I think I have yeast infection for many years now. I didn't realize it first because I was young. I have white/cheesy discharge when I was around 12-15 yo then its stop. It’s kind of on and off. I also have abnormal menstruation cycle (the longest ...
A. 23 May 2009: I can't tell you if you have a yeast infection for sure (only a doctor can). Do you have any clinics in your area that can work with you on a payment plan?
If you're going to use yogurt, the sugar content is the most important. Make sure it'... (read in full...)
My sister and I got in a bad fight and I called her fat, should I apologize?
Q. My sister and I got in a big fight last week, I called her fat and pathetic and it made her cry. But I don't know if I should feel bad and I don't want to apologize because she pushed me until I snapped. Ok, here's a little background so you can ...
A. 23 May 2009: Have you been supportive to her at all? Ever encouraged her to eat healthy with you, shared some new recipes, given her some workout tips, anything? Have you told her how her comments make you feel?
I think you should have a long talk with eac... (read in full...)
Something is missing in all my intimate relationships
Q. I am 23/female and have been with my boyfriend for 9 months. Before him, I was in a relationship that lasted 5 years, minus a few breaks here and there. Before that, I pretty much always had a boyfriend. I truly do love my current boyfrien...
A. 23 May 2009: Your boyfriend sounds like he has control issues. The bad news is, it will only get worse from now on.
I suggest you break up with him before it gets worse, and then make a serious commitment...to yourself. Take time to enjoy being single a... (read in full...)
He loves me but doesn't want to get engaged
Q. hi all.I need some help. I have been with my bf for 2 yrs we always talked about marriage, when i sat him down he told me he wasn't ready to be engaged. So I was ok with it but he got mad cause he wanted me to be devastated. Should I stay with him ...
A. 23 May 2009: I don't think you're ready to be married either.
In your post you talk about your schedule, your desires, your wants...what about his schedule, his desires, his wants? He was honest with you and told you what he needed to do before he was ready, b... (read in full...)
I've Got Standards, But My Boyfriend However Doesn't, Or Didn't.
Q. Hey Guys, So here goes. I'm a 16 (almost 17) Year Old atractive female. My 17 year old boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and I'm very happy. Although... I have only had one other Semi "serious" boyfriend, Being sexualy...
A. 23 May 2009: There's nothing wrong with having boundaries. If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. Don't be afraid to say no and wait. A guy that respects you will be completely fine with it.
Physically, you can kiss, hug, whatever you feel comforta... (read in full...)
I'm married but have a feeling when we meet again something sexual will happen.
Q. When I was 16 I met a friend while staying with relatives for the summer. We both liked each other but were to shy to say anything. We kept in touch .the last 10 years. I am now married with a family and he is recently single. For al long as I can ...
A. 23 May 2009: Have you and your husband been to counseling? Have you had honest talks about what's wrong with your marriage?
I know you don't want to end things with your husband, but breaking up over unhappiness and breaking up over an affair still have the... (read in full...)
Who is right here?
Q. ok, here at home, there is a little dilemma going on between my mum and my 25 year old brother: my mum does not want my brother bringing his gf over into his bedroom because she says that them sleeping together is "sexually immoral." she says that ...
A. 23 May 2009: It's your mom's house, and actually she is the head of the household. As long as he is living there he has to respect that. Unless he is paying rent he's staying there only because of her permission and he doesn't have the right to do whatever he ... (read in full...)
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