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writes:ok, here at home, there is a little dilemma going on between my mum and my 25 year old brother: my mum does not want my brother bringing his gf over into his bedroom because she says that them sleeping together is "sexually immoral." she says that because she is the "head of the household" (i hate it when she says that), he should obey. my brother says that it's none of her business as to what he does with his gf in HIS bedroom, as long as she's not the one being sexually immoral, and i agree. i'm with my brother on this one. so who is the right one here? should my brother listen to my mum and cease bringing his gf over into his room to copulate or should my mum quit being a religious freak?! input to be appreciated and tell me something other than that he should get his own place. Thanks... Reply to this Question
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reader, AdviceGiverandReceiver  +, writes (24 May 2009):
Well being honest, your mother is 'the boss' here as it's her house so it's understandable if she doesn't think he should be having sex in her house.
Stopping him having sex at all isn't really her choice but your brother should consider her feelings on the matter.
It's her belief and if she decides no sex in her house then that is what he should abide by. Once he's out of the house he can do whatever the hell he likes but as long as he is living under your mother's roof, he should accept her feelings on this arguement.
My mother says that as soon as I move out I can do what I like, but as long as I'm under her roof, I will abide by her rules. It's fine by me, and it keeps me in line...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbtw, my brother does chip in as far as the rent is concerned. My mother doesn't want him bringing his gf over b/c now she's one of those people who think marriage first and then sex. She even has told me that I can't bring my friend over anymore to watch wrestling because she says wrestling = violence! My point is that she's crossing the line. Thanks for your input people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): why is the 25 yr old freloading with your mum still. if he is old enough to have sex and disrespect the rules of HER HOME, then he is old enough to foot the bill for his accomodation.
she who pays the bills and the bond is queen of her castle. everyone else should tow the line or move out. the queen of your castle has spoken,she means business when she says no gf sex under her roof.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (23 May 2009):
 It's your mom's house, and actually she is the head of the household. As long as he is living there he has to respect that. Unless he is paying rent he's staying there only because of her permission and he doesn't have the right to do whatever he wants.
If he's living in someone else's house he has to accept limits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): If she pays the rent/mortagage, its her house and what she says goes. Should a 25 year old man be able to sleep with his girlfriend in peace? Sure. But then, if he wants to be an adult, let him get his own place! If I had kids, I wouldn't want them f*cking in the house I live in! It's just crossing boundaries. If your brother is such a big boy, let him pay for his own house! :)
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (23 May 2009):
 while to an extent i agree as long as he and her keep their sexual trysts down to a level where she cant hear, i also agree that, if he has chosen to still live under his mothers roof, he should respect her rules. after all, would u want to hear ur own mother moaning aloud in bed having multiple O,s?
probably not, and she does not want to know her sons personal happenings in his bdrm. so i think he should respect it, or move out where he can find all the privacy he desires and no mom hanging over his shoulder. age does not mater here. the fact remains shes ur mom, and she does not want to hear her sons give their gfs orgasms at any time of the day. maybe one day when u have a family of ur own, u will understand what privacy means. and respect. good luck bro
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reader, DanniBaby +, writes (23 May 2009):
Well tbh your brother should be able to bring his girlfriend round since he is 25 years old, your mum can't really tell him what to do, however shes got the last say because its her house i'm guessing not your brothers..
Have you got any younger siblings in your house? Because this could maybe be the reason why your Mum is being withdrawn from wanting his girlfriend to stay over perhaps.
But seriously you should tell your Mum that your brother deserves his own space too as long as he doesn't start making noises too loud LOL.. good luck! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): Its your mums house and i know u dont want to hear it but im 19 i have my own place i said to my dad im going to get preg to my bf and there was nothing he can do about it. He said yes, there is GET OUT OF MY HOUSE. I actually think your bro should do the same
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