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writes:Hi i am blair and i am a 13 year old male. For some reason i had a fanasty of being attracted to a specific player on my hockey team. I dont know why i was attracted to him and i couldnt get the stupid thoughts out of my head. I kept on staring at him but i dont know why i was. He told other players on my team and now the whole team thinks im gay. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): The early teens can be a confusing time sexually, so you're bound to feel wierd things don't let this one incident get you down mate! YOU! know who you are, so as long as you're comfortable with yourself you can just pass all the comments from your team off as jokes. Then again if its getting you down try and talk to your coach or a close friend in the group. Alternatively become the best player on the team and i cant see them mocking you then!! good luck dude
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): This happens to everyone, its wierd and makes you feel very uncomfortable. But you simply cant help it. Yes I am speaking from experence and no I wont say who lol.
Only you know whether you are gay or not. Every man has fantasised about other men and every women has fantasised about women too.
Our minds are curous things, and you will often think of strange things from time to time. So dont worry bout that.
Ok the easiest way to solve this, is to start talking to girls and dating them. Also you could fight the guy in question and that would solve it too, but the dating option is better long term.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 I wouldn't worry about it, mate: it'll probably all blow over in a while. If they're poking fun at you, just laugh along and let it slide: they'll get bored eventually. Plus, if you pull something amazing off at a hockey match, they might just completely forget about it (Y)
If it's not that, however, and they're actually whispering things behind your back, then I would seriously suggest turning your attentions towards a girl. I'd avoid confronting the rumour head-on, as they could just claim that you're in denial. Getting a girlfriend is probably your best option, or at least make it known and obvious that you like girls, or a certain girl in particular.
Good luck, mate: all the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): You can either do
a) stare at all the guys on the hockey team to freak them out
b) stare at all the girls you can see, to prove you're not gay
c) find a particular girl to stare at, freak her out about it, and then that will be the topic of discussion, and not this male hockey player
d) ignore what everyone thinks because you know better
e) get a girlfriend (usually that requires getting to know a girl well and asking her out)
f) say you are bisexual, that means you like boys and girls, or say you are bi-curious, that means you're straight but curious about what it would be like with another boy
Relax though, in some time this will blow over and people will have other things to worry themselves with.
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reader, Kassi (Nova) +, writes (11 February 2010):
 I don't want to make you feel bad about yourself, but if it wasn't a dream, and it was a genuine fantasy, you might be wrong.
Now, there are exceptions. If your fantasy wasn't sexual, but more admiration, like your favorite pro sports player, then it could be simply that you think he's good at hockey and a cool guy. However, if your fantasy was about what he looks like, be prepared. It's hard to admit, but in the future you might find yourself attracted to men, or simply attracted to both men and women.
Don't feel bad about it. You have nothing to be ashamed of. And you know what? If it turns out to be true, or even false, at least you'll know for sure.
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