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writes:Here's the situation.The guy i've liked for months knew I liked him, and told me he liked me back. (This was a few months ago) But like eventually, he told me he had family problems and problems with his friends and didn't have time for a relationship. (A few weeks ago)Had a talk with him, we kind of decided to be friends cause of his so called 'problems.'I go on his facebook and everything, and find out he has a girlfriend. And I know this for sure. I thought he didn't have time for a relationship, and I believed him, twice. But after all this drama and his stupid lies, I still can't get over that part of me still likes him a lot. What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 February 2010):
He let you down gently, rather than totally crush you. I'm sad to say that he's just not interested in you at all. you now need to be brave and move on. It won't be easy for you, but you now know that he's not the one. So you need to move on.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be +, writes (11 February 2010):
 It sounds to me like he was trying to avoid this awkward situation from the start: rather than do what he thought could seriously crush your hopes, he tried to let you down gently, and used his issues at home (whether they exist or not) as an escape route.
My advice is to move on. It's hard, I know, and you REALLY won't enjoy doing it. You're probably liking me less and less for saying it :L But if he's already in a healthy relationship, then I think you might just end up waiting for nothing.
Don't despair, though: he likes you enough to try and avoid hurting or upsetting you! A good sign! But don't put all your hopes in him, because it could end up that all his efforts were for nothing.
Good luck, and all the best!
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