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writes:Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 9-10 months and he flirts with all of my friends. He knows I'm sorta pissed at him right now-but he doesn't know why. So he's trying to think of a way to make it up to me. I love him and care for him, and he says he loves me...but putting your arm around my bestfriends...ha! I'll believe that lie when you stop flirting! So what'd do y'all think I should tell him?BTW-I'm called a flirt as well for some reason-but I don't see how I could be.
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reader, Fornorina  +, writes (14 February 2010):
 First question, do you really want to be with this type of guy?
Because to me, you will just end up hurt.
And considering you've been on and off for 9-10 months now, would suggest you aren't really, together, together. If you know what I mean.
From where I am standing, one day, or one night at a party, you will see your "boyfriend" kissing and getting up close with some of your closest friends. I've seen this happen so many times, he's seriously not worth your time and effort which you are clearly putting into this "relationship".
If you want him to be your proper boyfriend, tell him how you feel and that you hate seeing him around other girls who kind of are your friends too. You need to let him know what is bothering you, other wise, he will never change.
He could of course be a complete jerk and blow you off.
If you decide you don't want to fix everything because he's really not that worth it with how he acts around you and your friends, then just tell him straight up that you have had enough, before you end up getting even more hurt than you already are.
Good luck,
- Fornorina
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 February 2010):
I'll call your attention to your first line, which reads that you've been on and off for 9-10 months. A couple who are in a good place don't go on and off, they stay together. And certainly when a guy is putting his arms around other women whilst flirting, that's not a good sign. You need to think about whether you want this to continue or not. You don't want to end up hurt.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be +, writes (14 February 2010):
 What I don't understand is how you expect him to make it up to you when he doesn't know what he's done wrong! I think you need to make it clear to him that his flirting has to stop: it's getting on your nerves.
As for the btw bit, maybe if this is how some people see you, this is why he's flirting so much? Maybe he doesn't see the harm in it.
You just need to put your foot down on the issue and establish why it's happening at all: together, I think you can work it out.
All the best!
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reader, kelsey18 +, writes (14 February 2010):
 well first of all,9-10 months is very quick to be saying that you love somebody, and seeing as your so young could also be seen as not very convincing. I'm 18 and even i havent experienced REAL love yet. Love is a very misleading emotion it can be confused with many other feelings such as infatuation. Chances are your probably not as in love as you think, you've just formed an attachment.
Secondly there isnt any particular reason that hes behaving this way, hes just immature probably due to how YOUNG the two of you are. Your gona meet lots of boys in your life,some good some bad. a guy putting his arm round your friends isnt gona be the worst thing a boyfriend will do to you. If i were you i'd just enjoy being young and go with the flow. if this boy carries on flrting with your frends in this way speak to him and if nothing changes tell him where to go,look out for who your frends are. if they were tru friends they would tell him to get lost! hope this helps a little x
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reader, heather016  +, writes (14 February 2010):
the same thing happened to me! well kinda.. try talking to him about this. let him know. see how he reacts. if he does apologise and what not, and if he's figuring out how to make it up to you, just tell him that you dont wanna see him going around flirting with your friends.
hope i helped!
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reader, Matty.x +, writes (14 February 2010):
well i would tell him what he is doing wrong because no girl like to see there boyfriend flirting with there friends, once i was going out with this guy and he was dlirting with my best friend all the time givin her hugs and constantly talking to her in private but i ended it because he was a bit of a player,
hope that helped :D
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