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sammi star
writes:So my bf knew I didn't like facial hair on guys and found it unattractive. He grew a beard. I had to admit though that with his messy mop of dark hair it actually really suited him and he looks great.My bf knows I hate long hair on guys. So he announced just the other day that he intends to grow his hair.I had to ask if he was trying to put me off him by doing all the things he knows I don't like! He found this ammusing and assured me that no, that wasn't the case.Now, we're always completely open and honest without fear of upsetting each other so I told him I was afraid I'm not going to fancy him as much with long hair as it's always been a turn off for me.It didn't go down well and after much discussion my bf decided that I'm a very shallow person.His conclusion amazed me A)because I'm not!! and B)because of the previous days events...I'd been having a 'fat day' (we all know the ones right girls?!) and couldn't help complaining about it to my bf to which he replied, "Aww you know you're not at all fat hun, I wouldn't fancy you if you were"Women spend much of their lives being judged by their looks and comparing themselves to others, so are all men of the same opinion? The one that means they're allowed to have certain physical things that they find unattractive but as soon as a woman voices a similar opinion she immediatly becomes shallow?! Anyway, just thought I'd share with you guys! :) Reply to this Article
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reader, Confronter  +, writes (20 December 2009):
Men are pigs, plain and simple. They are hipocritical pigs. There way or the highway ALWAYS.
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reader, unzola +, writes (4 December 2009):
hi, i think ur article is quite interesting. i think its quite typical for a female to think shes being judged by her looks.Naturally woman want to attract a little bit. ithink its true some woman compare themselves with others, also the media has a massive effect on how people want to look.you alays want what u cannot have!! woman should be able to say their opinions.whats the point in living in a world where everything comes from the 1 side. take advantage of both female and male views.Compared to olden times where woman where in a sterotypical habit where they would stay in house, not work i feel makes the males feel more maculine and good about themselves. but i don't know for sure am not male or an expert in this. XX
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reader, bitch  +, writes (3 December 2009):
I think that in all honesty we all like to have our mate looking their best. It helps with feeling physically attracted to them. I guess it is human nature. Not much we can do about it. We can't deny that we like looking at attractive people in general. I think your partner in particular didn't put much thought into what he was saying about you being shallow when he said it.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (27 November 2009):
sammi star is verified as being by the original poster of the question I think you may be right about that, I guess it is out of the ordinary or a woman to put across opinions like that to her partner and that might be why she would be labelled as shallow.
Just for the record I didn't title this article and I don't actually like the title...it was intended to be a light hearted article and I'm not of the opinion that all men judge women on looks and women aren't shallow at all which is kinda how the title makes it sound lol.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be +, writes (26 November 2009):
 The assumption that men judge women entirely on their looks is mislead and, in most cases, untrue. Unfortunately, you only ever really hear about the situations where a guy may have broken up with his partner because of a physical attribute.I think women are perhaps labelled differently to men because they tend to put all their effort into maintaining a relationship, and whilst the guy cares just as much, he tends to be a little more laid back.Therefore, if a woman does something out of the ordinary, such as make said opinion heard, it is often the case that people will think "wow: she's just done something out of the ordinary... perhaps it means she's shallow?"Just a thought: make of it what you will, lolGood article, though! :)
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