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writes:I like this girl in college but she does not feel the same way about me, because of this I started to avoid her/ignore her. She would try and talk to me but I would just shun her away. Well I thought that was immature, so started speaking to her again. It's very hard for me now though in college as I don't feel myself and often act horrible/quiet around her but she still speaks to me and tris to start a conversation. Other times it's ok and we get on dead well and she's still touchy feely with me. I wanted to tell her that it is hard for me and that I am acting like I am because I like her so much. Though this could make it a lot worse, so I don't know what to do. I'm just doing what I can at the moment, and when I feel I can act ok with her I do, but when I have a bad day I can't.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Does she actually know you like her? If she did, it could become a great deal easier. She would be aware of how difficult it is for you, and try to help, or, she could express similar feelings, and the whole situation would suddenly be resolved.
I think the easiest option would be to tell her how you feel.
Wow, that sounds cheesy.
But still, dont go on a rant about how much you like her and how you want to be with her always etc etc: that could easily scare her. Just tell her you like her. Quite a bit, in fact. Would she like to go out for a drink? A bite to eat? See a movie? Be cautious, but otherwise, just go for it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): If I were you, I'd explain to her what makes you act that way around her. She might be confused about why you do and it seems like even if you do tell her, she won't not be friends with you anymore. She still talks to you even though you have told her before, so it sseems she's ok with that. If her being touchy feely bugs you because you still like her, just tell her how you feel about it. Not only that, most people dont ack ok with anyone on a bad day. That's why they're called bad days ^_^
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