I just met this guy a week ago and already we fight all the time!
Q. hi everyone. I just met this guy its been a week now, my problem I just don't understand him at all. we suppose to be happy but to my surprise we fight all the time. when we have to see each it must be on the street because where he stays he was ...
A. 18 February 2014: thank you very much for your responses, its an eye opener. may God bless you all!... (read in full...)
We are about to move into a new house but I'm worried he's cheating again
Q. I've got trust issues with my boyfriend as he has cheated on me before. I try to let go of my in securities but it seems hard to let go. Now it seems like he has met someone new. He now takes good care of himself which is something he never did ...
A. 24 October 2012: Thank you zaaleena and and johnsgirl1982. Everything you have said they make perfect sense. I have talked to him and he said that whatever that I'm thinking is not true and even whatever the pain he has caused me he is very sorry and I mean the ... (read in full...)
Feels like he's cheating, looks like he's cheating. But why would he get someone else to send me a romantic message when in six years he's never done that ever?
Q. Hi all. I just want know if its okay of me to think like this. I've never cheated in my whole life whereas my boyfriend has done it a numerous times at once he had a baby with someone else because of that. He can't type and send a romantic sms...
A. 18 October 2012: Thank you very much for your advices!... (read in full...)
I earn double what my boyfriend does so he expects me to pay for everything
Q. Hi all. I earn double my boyfriend's salary and I'm a bread winner At home. He always ask for money and when he bring it back he doesn't bring the full amount. He's very stingy and he expect me do everything for him like give him money to go to ...
A. 21 September 2012: Thank you very much guys, now I know what to do. Today the whole day he has not even spoken to or even just a phone call from him and I'm not calling him either. Thanks for such an amazing advices ... (read in full...)
After years of dating I suddenly find myself questioning his appearance!
Q. Hi all. I've been dating my boyfriend for years and it never bothers me about his height and the looks. Yesterday we both we were watching the mirror so he said' now I see that you are taller than me' we are both 6.2 an I'm maybe 3 inch taller. ...
A. 10 September 2012: Thank you spunky monkey, you really understood my point. I love my boyfriend and I really needed an advice as he never looked at himself and say that he is really shorter than an I've never looked at him and saw a short guy who is ugly. I was just ... (read in full...)
After years of dating I suddenly find myself questioning his appearance!
Q. Hi all. I've been dating my boyfriend for years and it never bothers me about his height and the looks. Yesterday we both we were watching the mirror so he said' now I see that you are taller than me' we are both 6.2 an I'm maybe 3 inch taller. ...
A. 9 September 2012: Thank you cerberus. I was attracted to him cause I was in love. When a person is in love we normally don't see the person's real appearance cause at that time we blinded by love. When he said ''now I see you are taller than me that's when I really ... (read in full...)
He's so much taller than me, will this work?
Q. This guy i've met we get along really well as if we've known each other a lot longer than the past couple weeks, we like the same things so we have a fair amount in common. He's really sweet and fun to be around, and good thing is he's funny in such ...
A. 24 August 2012: This is your happiness and not of anybody. If you love him the continue loving him. I'm dating a guy who is shorter than me and I don't care who says what because its all about me and my happiness.... (read in full...)
I hate this job so much but don't think I should resign
Q. Hi everyone. I just don't know what to do. I've been doing the same thing at work for the past 3 years with no promotion as there are no promotions at the government institutions except if you apply and move out but unfortunately I've tried ...
A. 22 July 2012: Thanks sweet-thing for your respond. In our country its like this you get something when you've got connections and if you don't know anyone you will stuck in a same position for years. There's this one of my co-worker she worked for the same ... (read in full...)
I am not ready to move in with him!
Q. So, my bf is pressurising me to move in with him, and is starting to say things that are really immature and I don't know how to gently keep on explaining why I'm not ready to move in without getting a little frustrated! We've been together 20 ...
A. 21 July 2012: Stick to your guns. If he is serious about this relationship tell him to marry you. 20 months is almost as 2 years. You are correct cause once you stay with you will be a full time wife with no ring. You go girl!... (read in full...)
How do I get him to leave?
Q. My situation is my boyfriend of 2 years is living with me in my flat where I pay the rent and he makes and will continue to make a contribution "when he can" in his words, and the reason for this is that when we were very "in love" in the beginning ...
A. 21 July 2012: Its either you get a new place or call the landlord to issue a notice for him to leave. Talk to your landlord and tell him or her the whole truth and I'm sure he/she will make him to leave.... (read in full...)
I'm confused by his behavior.
Q. Dear cupid I met someone at a meeting and it seems that he liked me he kept hugging me and staying near me all the time.So we kept contact after the meeting. He asked me out on a date and he coudlnt keep his hands off me at the cinema and kept h...
A. 20 July 2012: He really has confused you. I'm thinking he was trying to make that other woman jealous by being next to you an acting all lovey dovey. If he was into you he would have kept he hands off you and be a little bit shy. Cause he can't be all that when ... (read in full...)
Husband is choosing his parents over his wife and baby.
Q. hello everybody. my husband and i are married for 4 years then had a baby now 9monhts old. So hes mom doenst approve of what i do.. complains about everything and her son is treating me very bad. if i would ask please can we do this (vacation) this ...
A. 20 July 2012: The only advice is for you to get a job. I know for a fact when you are unemployed your husband will take an advantage of you and treat you like a doormat. The best thing you should do is to get a job. I'm 100 percent sure that he will respect you ... (read in full...)
My husband financially supports his ex girlfriend, is at her beck and call; ultimatum or just leave?
Q. My husband sold his whole duplex to his ex girlfriend, even though she hardly ever paid her rent to him for her side when we lived in the other. She's constantly calling needing something, and he jumps, sometimes making me do things for her, too. ...
A. 19 July 2012: This other is manipulative and using your husband kindness. Talk to your man an tell him how you really feel. Maybe this woman has promise to kill herself if your husband is no longer going to take care of him. It will be better to trace this other ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 15 July 2012: Thanks ladies!to bondgirl I was thinking maybe if I focus on the future as I'm 32 years maybe I will learn to forgive an forget. We've applied for that house in february this year an we were so lucky it was approved. But as time go by I feel like I ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 15 July 2012: Thanks janniepeg. Ill wait until we move into the house cause I'm sure he won't be able to pay it he earns R3800 and I earn R7500 an the bank suggested it must deducted on my account then he do a transfer of R1800 into my account. Imagine water an ... (read in full...)
I need an advice on how to deal with this difficult situation at my work place.
Q. Hi all. I just need an advice on how to deal with this difficult situation at my work place. There's a co-worker who treats everybody like we are stupid. Worst part is that our supervisor is dating this guy so she is always on his side. He is our ...
A. 11 July 2012: Thank you very much I'll try to my best!... (read in full...)
Baby on the way. Student loans. Can you help by telling me how to cope with all this pressure?
Q. Hello, I'm 24 (almost 25), married, a recent college graduate, and in 9 months... A dad. I just found out today from my wife (who is almost 21 and who is starting her senior year of college in the fall) that she is pregnant. We are not ready for ...
A. 7 July 2012: The good thing is that you are married. These things they do happen when you least expect them. At least you are still staying with your parents so there might be help from them. Don't worry. There will be a way out of this but not an abortion. Talk ... (read in full...)
Is my husband just trying to be nice to get me to stop the alimony payments?
Q. im so confussed my husband of 20 years left me for a much younger girl. old enough to be his daughter. they are now living together and have been for 5 months since i threw him out. im still very much in love with him and would have him back. he ...
A. 7 July 2012: Most man I like that when they turn 40-50, they are scared of excepting the fact that they should settle down. At that moment they want to go back and live like their 20-30. Let him go. If someone claims to love you but at the same time is with ... (read in full...)
Am I normal for feeling this way?
Q. Am I normal or abnormal for feeling like this. I was dating this guy. While I was dating he had someone whom we were sharing him that woman was 5 yrs older than him and I was 2 years younger than him. As I was dating him that other got pregnant and ...
A. 6 July 2012: At that time, which was 3 years ago. Their separated because the other woman lied to him about keeping her other child a secret. At that time I was still on that relationship not knowing he was cheating on me with that woman. I forgave him because I ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to compromise for what he wants, not what We want?
Q. Hi all. Yesterday me an my boyfriend we had a fight. My problem with him is that when he want something I have to be the one who has to compromise for everything. Yesterday he was off duty at work. He was at his place. I don't know what he was doing ...
A. 5 July 2012: Thank you ladies for the feedback.... (read in full...)
In love with a co-worker
Q. Hi everyone. I think I'm in love with a co worker. 3 months ago I was head over hills but made sure that he doesn't notice. I've tried to think of it as a maybe I'm in love with his looks as he very handsome. I was on leave for a month at least I ...
A. 4 July 2012: Thanks aunt honesty. I'm battling to fight this temptation but I'm hoping maybe I will 4get about him once I know how. But at least you have opened my eyes.... (read in full...)
He left his wife for me but misses his children
Q. I fell in love with a married man. We are right for each other. He left his wife and children and moved in with me, but told his wife it was a trial separationn and she has no clue what he has been doing. Now a few months in, he has become depre...
A. 1 July 2012: As a woman I wouldn't be happy for man to leave his family because of me. Please let him go back to his family. Don't be happy to be a home wrecker. In your case you have put yourself in a wrong position how do you sleep at night knowing very well ... (read in full...)
Is it fair for my partner to blame me for looking at his emails when I found out he's cheating again?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half years. We have an 8 month old daughter together. We were starting new and moved recently to a new state because of a job opportunity for him. A few months ago I noticed him acting a ...
A. 29 June 2012: Sorry for that sister. Other man are like that especial if you don't work they would say whatever cause they know you have nowhere to go. He would take you for granted. As for the other woman she might be lying that she slept with him without a ... (read in full...)
Guilty of leaving my wife and son for my mistress! What should I do?
Q. This is a tough one. I been separated from my wife of 10 years for 9 months now. We have a loving 2 year old boy. The reason for the separation is because I fell in love with my mistress. I been living with her now and we now have a relationship ...
A. 27 June 2012: I feel pity for the wife. Choose to do the right thing and choose carefully. Are you going to go for a 20 percent instead of 80 but other man are stupid. You are your wife is kind etc. Then what is you problem? Stop being selfish. When you chose to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a guy to have slept with only one girl?
Q. Hello everyone, I don't know if Im being paranoid by asking this question. Well, is it wrong for a guy to have slept with only one girl? Because when my friends talk or having conversations, they boast or brag about having sex with four or more ...
A. 27 June 2012: I'm from your country and its hard to be a man who knows what he what. You are what women are looking for in a guy. Honestly guys like that are the cause of divorces, hiv aids and std's. You are on the right track, so keep it that way and you will ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him and now he has cheated on me, I feel alone and sad
Q. We are in a relationship living together with one daughter. Known him for six years now. Together for about five of them. Idk where to start my question I guess I feel trapped , and alone. I cheated on him and our cheating/decieveing issues goes way ...
A. 27 June 2012: Its always like that. I'm a woman and I hate who cheats especially I've never cheated. I'm in a relationship whereby the person that I'm dated has cheated on me since then I don't love him the way I used to, its even worse when you as a woman have ... (read in full...)
How can I trust him when this has happened before? he received a text from a woman calling him 'babe'. He got defensive.
Q. Dear all. I was visiting my boyfriend today. We were having a good time until cell phone rang. The first time it rang he ignored it saying it was his friend who want him to go to a party so he's not interested. The phone rang again an there was a ...
A. 24 June 2012: Thanks iloveblue. He called just now saying how sorry he is that's when I told him that I'm so tired of trying something thay will never work. Imagine we even to buy a joint bond as we are growing older thinking we are going to have a future ... (read in full...)
How can I trust him when this has happened before? he received a text from a woman calling him 'babe'. He got defensive.
Q. Dear all. I was visiting my boyfriend today. We were having a good time until cell phone rang. The first time it rang he ignored it saying it was his friend who want him to go to a party so he's not interested. The phone rang again an there was a ...
A. 24 June 2012: Thanks abella. I've been through hell with this guy but still he doesn't want to change. Thank you very much. I'm crying right now cause it hurts. He always checks my fone and tells me that I shouldn't have friends that are males. I listened to him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are being forced to break up for a while... any advice on how to help the heart break?
Q. Okay so here is what's happening. My boyfriend got mad at my mom because she likes getting under our skin and doesn't want us together and posted a status on facebook about it and that set her off. Well I am 15 and he is 18 and by alabama law we ...
A. 23 June 2012: Don't worry. Ur inlove an love can make ppl do things that their not suppose to do. Ull be 16 in six months. If he really loves u too much he will wait. Respect yo parents an do what is right. If ur meant to be together u will be 2gether. Patience ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to buy things for him and I don't have the money!
Q. Hi all. Me an My bf we've got a financial problem. He took a annual leave, worse part @ his work they didn't pay his leave form so he was not paid the full amount he bought shoes unaware that there's no enough money. So now he want me to buy for ...
A. 17 June 2012: Thanx guys for honest advice. I thought I was become but I'm glad to have an advice like this. I will stand my ground. ... (read in full...)
My baby daddy has moved in with a much older woman
Q. OKAY.... I am 23 years old.. had a 5 year relationship with my ex boyfriend... during that time, we had a break up but we were still seeing each other so I became pregnant and that's how we got back... the reason why we had broke up in the first ...
A. 7 June 2012: I know how u feel that's why they say' love is blind' ur in love and only love that u feel for hi. There was a time I could see signs but I've ignored them cause I was only in love and its worse if he was the one who broke yo virginity. To be honest ... (read in full...)
I feel attracted to other women!
Q. Hi, I am a 24 year old male and been in a relationship for 3 years and 6 months now already with the same woman and I have never cheated on her before. She has cheated on me a twice before so I have this feeling she will always do it again, and on...
A. 7 June 2012: its okay to watch but don't think of tasting cause once u start u will never stop. As a woman I've got a feeling that u not only want to watch but to experience as much as ur saying she has cheated twice.... (read in full...)
Should I leave this bad marriage?
Q. My wife and I got married about 7 years ago. Our relationship was rocky from the start -- she was my first girlfriend and I lacked confidence as a single person. She broke up with me several times because she wasn't satisfied with me, but I c...
A. 7 June 2012: That's a sad love story, ur a great guy and u don't deserve to live like this. Yo problem is that u always beg her for everything. Ur the man and u need to show it. Love is not about looks or anything for that matter. only connection, love and ... (read in full...)
My best friend walked in on b/f and I having sex and now its awkward
Q. My boyfriend and I were at home together last night and we both got really quite turned on and horny so ended up having sex on our sofa. I was going down on him- we were both naked and my best friend and my boss walked in on us. Just to clarify, my ...
A. 6 June 2012: Just to show some respect, apologies cause ur sharing the place with him. As long as you will apologies that will show him/her how much you value him. Say things like 'sorry for what you saw an I promise next time we will do it in a private place' ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is paying for all of his ex's bills and I don't think its right
Q. Hello everyone! I need some advice on a situation. I’ve been dating this guy for 1 month but I’ve known him for 5 months. I always said I would never date a guy with kids and when I asked him in the beginning if he has kids, he said he’s doing a DNA ...
A. 5 June 2012: Sorry to tell u this bt somehow yo man is still involved with this women. Its very clear. Why is he paying her bills? Wake up an smell the coffee before its too late.' U take care of some1 because ur still in love with them.... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you react if your boyfriend was complimenting another girl in your presence?
Q. Ladies, how would you react if your boyfriend was complimenting another girl in your presence? In my case, the girl was not a close friend of his but rather someone he knew, like an acquaintance. I didn't know her at all and he told her that she ...
A. 1 June 2012: As a woman I would say if both knew her I wouldn't have a problem but in this case its unacceptable. At least you told him how you feel and maybe next time he knows what u don't so don't worry next time he will make sure that he respect your ... (read in full...)
How do we approach that first kiss?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months. we're both 13 years old. we havent kissed yet..only hugged. i dont know what to do. i wanna kiss him so bad but we both get nervous and we're both shy. he wants to kiss me too but we just dont..we ...
A. 28 May 2012: The best way to kiss him is on the cheeks. Ur both very young to think about kissing each other. First things first, school, school and school. It will start by kissing then leads to sex and after that a teen child. Wait until ur matured enough to ... (read in full...)
B/f blocked me because I complained about his activity with ex on facebook
Q. My boyfriend and i hve been in a long distance relationshp for 6months now things have been ohkay but recently we fight a lot over his ex galfriend who calls now and than,and i told my bf that i hate it when the ex calls,he said he cant tel someone ...
A. 27 May 2012: Sorry to tell u this. This guy doesn't love u at all. Why he would he block u frm fb and why he can't tell his ex-gal to stop calling him? Just move on ur too young to be hurt by some1 cause there's lots of fish in the sea especially at yo age.... (read in full...)
My fiance has x rated photos of his ex on his computer. He promised to delete them but never has!
Q. I am engaged to a man that I love very much and on a day-to day basis treats me very well. About 6 months ago, I was updating and "weeding" out some computer files, when I discovered that he was had hundreds of photos of his ex wife. I think it ...
A. 24 May 2012: Let's u better delete them yourself. I was like u. Dating my bf for 6yrs and only to find a photo of his ex hidden, and the towels still kept on an unused drawer. I'm very emotional so I might says he knows what I'm capable. All I did was to destroy ... (read in full...)
Guys, should I leave my wife for a more attractive, younger woman?
Q. For the last year I've been having an affair with a woman who's ten years younger. We love each other very much. She's got everything I wish I would have found in someone, before I married my wife. She's beautiful and has a great body, my wife ...
A. 24 May 2012: When u first met her u where in love that's why u married her. Why are man like this. Its always about them an their ego. Yo miss perfect is married with kids. To be honest she destroy what she has built just for u. She has a family for a reason. ... (read in full...)
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