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41-50,
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writes:hello everybody. my husband and i are married for 4 years then had a baby now 9monhts old. So hes mom doenst approve of what i do.. complains about everything and her son is treating me very bad. if i would ask please can we do this (vacation) this weakend he will say no i already told my dad we are going there. When we are there i have to do everything cooking, cleaning and then he alks mostley to his mom and dad he only talks to me when he wants something to drink.I do not feel like going there anymore He treats me different he doesnt kiss me , hugg me or sms me but his phone is always out of airtime. i have a very high sex drive and love to do this every night, he doesnt tuch me nor will he if i am really tired do it from his side to hae sex. Couple of months back he hit me very hard. My love towards my husband is still the same but if he doesnt realise that im niot the cleaner but his wife and the mother of his child he will loose both of us!! Yes i have talked several times then he says i dont have time to listen to this nonsense. i sended a text message to him wrote letters nothing works. ITs only his way or leave him alone. He is most of the time infront of the computer or tv then we may not disturb him not even sit by him or talk to him. it breaks my heart to pieces.i so baldey would love to have a hug or say my wife how were your day One night i went to bathroom and our baby wakes up crying i asked him please pick up our baby our baby doesnt want to be close to him , i sayd yes its because you barely give any attention to our child. But at the end of the day i sleep everyday about 4hours becaue i have to cook,clean, bath our child, make baby bottel dress baby put baby to sleep. he would not even help me by dressing baby , so 10pm at night im still washing the floors about 11 to 12 midnight im getting the clothes for next day ready after that i can shower/bath then havesex and sleep. Tell me where do i go wrong please? Oh and i dont have anymake up or women stuff because im not allowed to buy any he says it iscrappy stuff and rather buy him beers to drink.......
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (7 August 2012):
 He don't really love you he seems to just tolerate you as the baby mother not queen wife goddess type sorry but he may be a mommas boy so you have another child in the family
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2012): Hi there im the person that asked the question. Well you see i have a job! But the last week things were perfectly fine. Ysterday hes mom just called to say hows it going after that he treated me like crappy and was very very rude with me! When our child cry he will let me stay in the room with her and if i go to another room he will shout at me and says he is going to hit me so hard that my teeth will fall out! I just went to bed without saying going night to him. he doesnt even wants to buy me supper or a cooldrink . But i get slips that he pays lunch enought for 4 people during the day he will not eat take aways at night saying its a waste of money so i say you eat alot during the day of take aways now i must suffer because of that. He says to me its got nothing to do with me he doesnt talk to me i actually feels like telling him i have ahd it but then i think of our child please help
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reader, mpumie +, writes (20 July 2012):
 The only advice is for you to get a job. I know for a fact when you are unemployed your husband will take an advantage of you and treat you like a doormat. The best thing you should do is to get a job. I'm 100 percent sure that he will respect you and appreciate you as a woman. Not all man are like that but some men when you depend on the financial and other wise they lose interest and take you for granted cause they know you are nothing without them. Its hard sister but don't ever dare give up on yourself. At the time being keep yourself looking good and visit your family, friends have something to do that will keep you busy. Wishing you all the best!
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