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writes:Ladies, how would you react if your boyfriend was complimenting another girl in your presence? In my case, the girl was not a close friend of his but rather someone he knew, like an acquaintance. I didn't know her at all and he told her that she looked pretty tonight in front of me. I felt uncomfortable as i think its weird for a guy to be complimenting another girl in front of his girlfriend. If i hadnt been here, that would easily been taken as him hitting on her. I told him about it and he was like "whats wrong with telling someone they look good?!" as if i'm overreacting. I think there's a slight difference between "you look good/great" and "you look very pretty". Am i right to feel slightly irritated? Reply to this Question
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reader, ElgieR +, writes (30 December 2012):
He is being a jerk and is trying to evoke a reaction. Basic boy behavior. OP, you can try telling him but that only plays into his hand and gives him the opportunity to go all "superior" on you. The best course of action is to give him a dose of his own medicine. Compliment a handsome guy to your boyfriend. And then feign surprise when your boyfriends' nose gets outta joint! If his goal was to make the other woman feel good about herself, he could compliment her out of your earshot. He'd feel good, she'd feel good, and you would not be hurt.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 June 2012):
 I agree with Ciar. You do have the right to feel whatever you feel but I think he was just stating a fact and being nice to someone...
I think you are over-reacting... do you feel insecure about your relationship?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 You can feel whatever you like, but I think you're over reacting. He paid the woman a compliment and left it at that. He did not pursue her, or make excuses to continue talking to her. If he had you'd have mentioned it in your post.
I don't see anything wrong here, besides you being a tad sensitive. Having said that, I hope he is as easy going if and when you pay another man an innocent compliment.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (1 June 2012):
 I think your insecurity is showing. Telling someone that they look nice isn't necessarily "hitting on" them, nor would you be bothered by it if you weren't insecure. Your boyfriend was right, in my opinion, you're overreacting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): I wouldn't like it myself. But to some people, there's nothing wrong in that. You could try asking him how he would feel if you did something similar, complimented a guy or something.
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reader, mpumie  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 As a woman I would say if both knew her I wouldn't have a problem but in this case its unacceptable. At least you told him how you feel and maybe next time he knows what u don't so don't worry next time he will make sure that he respect your feelings. Just make he knows what u don't like and stand your ground. All the best!
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