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writes:i went out with this guy for 4 n half years and he cheated on me twice and continuously broke my heart, In the end he left me to be with the girl he cheated on me with, that was nearly 5 years ago and since then they have had a child together.It took me a good few years actually getting over him and getting on with my life but deep down i still really love him. I haven't really stayed in relationships long because i always compare them to the way he used to make me feel (before he broke my heart and cheated on me) and recently i have met someone who i really really like.He's great, no kids or baggage as i call it, treats me sooooo nice and i get butterflies when i talk to him. He's great, i'm actually surprised at myself for staying with him for these past few months because usually i would've got bored by now, but i really really like him. However my ex called me the other day and asked me to meet him, i really don't know why i did it but i did then he started to say all these things to me. Things like he will never love his girlfriend as much as he loves me and that he hasn't stopped thinking about me and would i ever consider taking him back. He said that he would actually give up living with his child to be with me and that he realises that he made a mistake all them years ago and is truly sorry.I told him that i have moved on and that he has a life now that involves a baby i couldn't get used to that. It pains me to see him and that child together but he says that he's wiling to give it all up if i just take him back. I really don't think i could go much more of the pain that he will cause me if i do get back together with him and i told him that i am happy the way i am now, and told him that i don't love him but deep down i will always love him and since i seen him i haven't been able to stop thinking about him. I really don't want to ruin my relationship that i have now, even though it has only been a few months i am happy the way i am and i trust my new boyfriend 100% which is more than i can say for my ex. i just don't know what to do because all i do is think about my ex when i'm with my boyfriend and i know that isn't fair, i don't know if i should just cut him outta my life altogether or continue answering his calls and being his friend??
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 He is an ex for a reason! Hes clearly a jerk if he is willing to ditch you and then ditch the women he cheated with so he can use you again. Forget your ex and move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 February 2010):
You have a new boyfriend who hasn't hurt you and is great. You have an ex who cheated twice, has a baby with another woman who he is willing to DESERT. The truth is you need to cut your ex out permanently and leave your boyfriend and really think about what you want. You have gone from one guy to another without ever stopping and spending real time getting over this crap ex. Until you do, you can't go out with any guy because they will always be second best and that's not fair to them. But don't go back to your ex either. You know he's a liar, a cheat and is willing to desert a baby and a woman he has used. How long until he does it to you? Sit down by yourself, stay single adn work out what it is you want.
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