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writes:I started talking to a girl i knew my senior year in high school and had a class and sat by her all year and we got really close. She was one of the few people i honestly missed from high school who i didn't get to see afterward. I always liked her as more then a friend but i really didn't know if i should act on it because she was grounded for an entire year because she had been sneaking to see her boyfriend at the time because she wanted more private time then what she could have at home around her parents and they caught her and he dumped her shortly after they cracked down on her socially because of this even tho they didn't do anything more then what you would see in a pg13 movie. He was older then her by a couple of years at the time. I knew her during the year she basically only had a social life in school after this guy broke up with her after she got in trouble for trying to see him more. So i dint think it would do much good to act at the time. What i didn't know at the time was she really liked me possibly loved me but because she was a sophomore and i was a big scary senior she couldn't bring herself to say anything. Well we started talking on and off all day over cellphone through voice and text and over yahoo with webcams from time to time and talk for a long time every night about random things till were both exhausted and feel like going to bed. Well short story short after a about a month or more we were still talking like this and she confessed she loved me and had since senior year but never acted, i a few days later confessed that i had fallen for her. We kept talking like this till today so its been nearly 3 months or longer.Her mother will not let her date anyone older then her even by a year date her because of the past event as if them sneaking around for a few weeks had something to do with the age gap which it logically doesn't. Teenagers do things behind their parents back, maybe they shouldn't but they do its just how things go most the time. She mentioned me to her mom and she liked the way i sounded but as soon as she asked my age and she told her i was 19 going on twenty she said no immediately and said its never going to happen even tho their is only a 3 year difference which is less then a lot of couples. Im in my first year of collage and she is a jr. I started school a year later then most because of my birthday. I said first thing i would talk to her mom once she confessed this so i could maybe meet her parents and get them to at least give me a chance and let me see her in their house so they can supervise if they see fit. She didn't want me to because she feared they would cut off her ability to talk to me and ground her for another year if she tries to talk to her mom into letting her see me and explain how i am. So i would talk to her but she didn't want me to. She started wanting to sneak to see me and that quickly fell apart and now she cant stand not being able to see me and is willing to have me try to talk to her mother about letting me at least see her at their house where it could be supervised and we wouldn't have to sneak which i don't like to begin with. If this doesn't work we decided we would go our own separate ways until collage because she is planning to go where im going. We both hate the idea of having to do this because we don't want to risk loosing the other to someone else. She has made it clear she doesn't want to let me go but hast tried having a relationship with another person she could almost never see and she couldn't handle it she just felt alone most the time. I know her number im just waiting to call in the next couple of days and think of all i should say i know i should be polite and set a good impression and just try to get to meet her parents. Then do the same and try to make friends with her parents or at least make peace and make another good first impression. What should i say to her mother when i call her to try to make her more at ease with me aside from her over protectiveness of her daughter and set a good impression? How should i go about relating to her parents and socializing with them when i meet them to set a first good impression?I'm just afraid if I screw this up I'm going to lose her and she is one of he most important women in my life and is one of the few people who accepts me for who i am and i love that about her and the maturity she has about her that her parents seem blind to. Please help Aunts!
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (19 March 2010):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question This situation just got worse! Her mother wont even hear me out for 5 min so i can say what i need to. I feel like this isnt right, denying me her because of my age is like saying no due to my race!
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