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writes:I dont get it.Why do women tell a guy that they aren't interested in them, they don't feel the same way, reject them... then all of a sudden they end up liking you?I had a girl tell me she didn't feel the same way, it hurt so much i didnt talk to her all summer. but until college started back up again months later, we ended up having classes again and i noticed that she tries to get my attention. So one day, she ends up wearing a sweater that she KNOWS I like. a sweater she wore the last time we hung out. she was looking at me bright red and we looked at each other. it was beautiful.but the thing is, i am not doing the chasing anymore. it hurts too much to risk yet another rejection.we end up going to this field trip and sit together on the bus and talk. and at the end of the trip. i asked her out and said "we should get together next week."but her response was "i dont know."what does that mean? i dont get it. this hurts way too much i dont want to chase her anymore, yet i still feel like something can happen between us.have any of you gone through this before and then end up being with that person anyways? Reply to this Question
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reader, ellie:)  +, writes (17 October 2009):
 ITS CALLED PLAYING HARD TO GET!!!!!!! i personally did dat a lot... i know i shouldnt have! but it was fun:) but if u dont pay attention to her and move on and flirt with other girls infront of her. if she likes u she will ask u out i mean if u still like her. hope this helps GOOD LUCK:)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 October 2009):
I had this once before myself, a few years ago. I ran around like an idiot after a girl, who threw it all back in my face. Then, when I'd moved on, she decided she liked me. The answer is that she liked knowing someone would run around after her. I think this is the case with this girl. It sounds like she misses the attention you gave her that made her feel good. Pay no attention to her.
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reader, Sophiee92 +, writes (17 October 2009):
Well I sort of ended up doing this to my current boyfriend after we split up a while a back. It took him 6 months to get me back. but there was reason for me saying no.Mainly I needed to sort myself out. I have this stupid paranoia problem and because I was scared I said no.Maybe she's scared of getting into something serious too soon? Invite her out just as friends and look at how she behaves around you. Maybe she's just too shy.Maybe she IS just playing games but maybe because she wants to see how much you like her or she doesn't have the heart to say no (but then i dont think she'd try to get your attention) maybe she does just want friendshipI don't think you'll know until you invite her out as friends and make sure she knows that. I think she'll say yes because it's not a date so she's not going to feel uncomfortable and she does seem to like your company. Make it totally laid back and casual and don't try too hard, just be yourself and see where it goes.I think if she says no and doesn't have a reason for it she's just playing with you if so just ignore her, she might come around.Hope this helps :)Good luck
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (17 October 2009):
 Why are you assuming she wore this sweater because of you? Maybe it's one of her favorites and she simply likes the way she looks in it. She still said no to you when you asked her out again, and that is your real answer.
Sorry it's not different, but those are the breaks. I suggest that you move on.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (17 October 2009):
 She's playing games with you like many young people of both genders do.She will tie you up in knots...you can get that treatment by people anywhere. Game players are a dime a dozen.Pay her no mind. She will eventually tire of it if you make her insignificant.
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (17 October 2009):
 Honestly, to me it sounds like this girl just likes the attention she gets from you. Girls are weird like that sometimes, even when we aren't interested in a guy, we still like them to be attracted to us. Obviously she likes you as a friend, but I think it is unlikely that she wants anything else. Sorry.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (17 October 2009):
 wish i could answer but same thing is happening to me actually so dont feel alone on this. I want to know the answer to, becausecthe girl i like has been doing the same thing. Not cool at all..
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