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writes:Can people really change? A friend of mine has recently asked me out on a date, but I know he cheated on his last girlfriend ALOT. He keeps telling me he's grown up and changed but it wasn't that long ago he was cheating on her. They've since broken up, but I don't want to get hurt. He is a really good friend and I'd hate to think he'd do the same to me, but I've always thought if it's in somebody to cheat they will cheat no matter what. So what should I do? Once a cheater always a cheater? Reply to this Question
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (19 March 2010):
 If a man is known to be a habitual cheater, stay away from him, odds are he wont change and will just do the same to you. If someone had one bad night that lead to them cheating because of emotions, alcohol, drugs, or any combination of the three that's completely different. This guy has either emotional issues that leads him to feel like he needs to cheat a lot or he just is doing it because he wants to and at his age this is the most likely of the two.
He could change as he gets older and realizes he pushes every women that cares about him away but that may not happen for another 10 years or more. It all depends on how long it takes for his hormones to slow down and for his life to hit the social rock bottom before he decides to change. For now please stay away from him, if in 10 years or you have reason to believe that he has changed for good in the future maybe reconsider.
But keep in mind that this question alone proves you dont trust him and how can you hope to have a relationship with someone you dont trust and make it work effectively. It wont last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): yes, Im afriad so. He will cheat on you as well.
He's just telling you the standard lies to get you. Who knows maybe he is sincere but I doubt it and personally I wouldnt take the chance.
Keep him as a friend, and definately dont date him.
Besides friendships are important too
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