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*ballchic09
writes:It all started when I took this guy I work with home, we flirted constantly at work and we fooled around every time I took him home (I would go down on him and him on me). I then left work for two weeks to go down to NC to visit my father for christmas, we texted every day all day, then he brought up us having sex, when I got back we did it. The other day we did it again when I took him home after we got off of work, but during the process he talked about us having a threesome, I told him no but he asked if I had a friend of course I said yeah. He had the nerve to ask me if she was skinny, so in so many words I guess he called me fat!A little more history on him when we first met he had a gf, then he broke up with her, that's when we started this, he got another gf but it wasn't anything serious so we kept fooling around and then he got engaged and I don't know whether to stop or what because he keeps referring to her as his gf not his fiancee. After we had sex we went to a gas station (I had to go to the bathroom) he came in with me so he could talk to a lady he worked for and when i came out they were talking about her and a man asked if i was his fiancee and he said no, duh. Then he said i tried to have one but idk. Sorry the question was so long but I don't know whether or not to break it off or keep having sex with him (we only did it twice) any advice? I'm really confused.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Good for you im glad to hear it! I hope life continues to treat you well and you learned a little something, Good luck!
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reader, vballchic09 +, writes (2 March 2010):
vballchic09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your input on my situation. After replaying it over and over in my head I figured it would be better for me to just dump him. And I did!!! it feels great, and after I did that everything seemed to fall into place for me. My life is wonderful right now. So, thank ya'll again. be blessed!
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reader, jadena +, writes (19 January 2010):
No, do not have sex with him anymore. He is using you, he is keeping his options open. You are a sex toy and he is the one playing. You deserve better. I wasted too many years on a guy like that. In the long run, I felt empty. Save yourself from a predator like this, please.
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reader, Bethany42  +, writes (18 January 2010):
I have to agree with the only responses on this. This man is using you for sex. He may like you, is probably attracted to you but he does not love you.
You need to stop seeing him before you get too involved. You need a man you respects you and cares for you.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (18 January 2010):
End it now, this is the kinda crap that honestly makes understand the impulse that created the arranged marriage norms and "save sex till marriage" beliefs. Women need to realize that because a guy has sex with you it doesn't mean he actually loves you in 99.9% of the population. All it means as a rule of thumb is that he was attracted for some reason and wanted to have the release of sex that's it. If you want to be used because you like to feel like the victim or trick yourself into believing he wants more, even when its clear he doesn't. Leave him and save yourself from falling into the trap of being a typical female that im far to used to dealing with....
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reader, AuntieGeorgia +, writes (18 January 2010):
 Ok ...
Do you really want to be involved with this guy?
He is engaged, which means nothing is going to happen between you other than sex.
And even if he ends things with his fiance, he has already cheated once (or maybe even more times) would stop him from cheating again.
And have you ever considered that you may not be the only girl he is cheating on his fiance with.
I dont think you should continue having sex with him, I think you should wait for the right guy, or atleast one that isnt involved with anyone else!
I hope my advice was helpful, and just do whatever feels right to you.
Good Luck x
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reader, MetalMike +, writes (18 January 2010):
If you're looking for a fuck-buddy or a screww-buddy, and that's all ya want, then ya, keep doing him. At least you're getting an orgasm now and then. But if you want more of a commitment, then you need to sit down and talk to him and tell him your feelings. If he wants a more serious relationship, he'll tell you. If not, move on. Though, if he's asking for a threesome, he seems to be the type of guy who doesn't want a commitment, more of a guy who just wants to play, and who will fool around on his wife/girlfriend if given the opportunity.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 January 2010):
He's broken up with one, then used you. He's then had another girlfriend and cheated on her with you, and now he is engaged and is still cheating with you. He is using you. He will continue to use you. End it with him and find a guy who respects you.
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