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writes:Eugh ok so i am 20 years old and i've never been kissednot that i've not had chances too i have! but i just can't bring myself to do it, in some ways i want too but others i don't, i want to so i will stop feeling like a loser! and perhaps gain more confidence with boys and think kissing is nothing. and other ways i don't because i don't want to mess up and have them think i am rubbish. silly i know but these are the things i think about.i met up with this guy recently and he was really lovely and stuff and i know he wanted to kiss me (no not being big headed) he told me before hand that he wouldn't know how to not kiss me because he does that with girls he likes.anyways cut a long story short i was too shy to make eye contact because i was afraid of what it would lead too and i know it would be a kiss and i told him i wouldn't kiss him not the fact i don't like him but purely because i am too shy! he said that was fine and when we met he told me he was restraining himself from kissing me i felt more awkward then. anyways as i dropped him home he went in to kiss me but i couldn't let myself go so i let him kiss my cheek.i felt so bad but i've told him i am really shy and he said he understood and he made me feel more awkward when he said he was trying hard not to kiss me i didn't know what to do. can someone help me overcome this?any advice would be grand.btw the guy and i are seeing how things go :)Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthan kyou guys!
you've really helped me!
i'll just have to give it ago if not
drink lol!
so i become more relaxed :P
thnk you all so much
really great to know im not alone.
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reader, amber_schram  +, writes (4 June 2009):
 Hello doll,.. hmm since he knows your to shy to kiss him then maybe you can let him kiss you and you just might end up kissing him back! or you can always practice with a pillow or somethin! i dont really know! i was to shy for my first kiss to but i just let him kiss me and soon enough i was kissing back easy squeezy lemon peasy! lmdao! but yeah hope i helped at least a bit! good luck hon! -xo AMBER
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (4 June 2009):
 Im almost 19 and i just had my first kiss a month or so ago, why it took so long was because im shy i guess you could say as well.
i over think things and worry about stuff until i just cant do it anymore, and my first kiss probably wouldn't of happened except that i was exhausted and all jacked up on caffeine and wasn't worrying about a thing, and things went great and i just did what came natural, and she was really surprised when she found out that was my first, she couldn't tell at all. Guessing most people screw it up lol.
What im trying to say is just let it happen, and don't worry yourself to death and avoid it as much as possible.
"A kiss is not a contract, but is very nice"
Just because you kissed hm doesnt mean that you have to do anything more, its just that a kiss showing that you care about him. He seems to be a nice guy as well if he wasnt mad about the whole situation, seems like you have found yourself a keeper!
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): Wow, you're in like the EXACT same position as me, well I was.. And I mean EXACT lol but mind you I'm 17 but that's still besides the point.. Basically, I was too too shy to kiss the guy I like aswell, I gave him the cheek three times. I told him I was too shy, he told me he really wanted to kiss me but he was stopping himself and it was hard for him to do so, don't wanna go on about my problems, but seriously, it's not that big! You will feel so much better when you do it, I was so scared when it was about to happen, because I kissed him last week. I didn't wanna turn my cheek for the 4th time, well actually, I did want to, but I just went for it. I closed my eyes, and just didn't think too much about it. Being shy is not a bad thing, but trust me, when you do it, and its over, you're gonna think what the big fuss was about. Just relax, be calm, and it's good to think about something else, because that's what I did for the first few seconds of the kiss, then I started thinking about him. But because I wasn't thinking about the kiss when it happened, my lips naturally started moving to match his, it just happens babe.. Even if you are shy, try go for it, because once is happens, you won't wanna stop.Hope I helped! :)
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