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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey,Well about 1 month ago me and my girlfriend of about 2 yearas (not quite) borke up, on good terms. At the time it was more of a break, to take one step back. Anyway, as most relationships say, we made a promise to always be bestfriends / friends. So for the last month we have been seeing each other as friends. (no sex, no dating stuff etc just come friends). Talk when we need to, watch movies and yea. We are still both in love with each other, just dont want to be with each other.Anyway, fast forward to today, she starts talking to some random friend, and now she wants to meet up with her, and see whats there. Basically, she wants to see what else is out there in the world before commiting to me. She told me this and asked if it would be okay if they met up etc. TBH I kinda feel like she wants me to be here for her as an option if her 'dating' doesnt go the way she wants. And me, being the idiot I am said it doesnt bother me.I understand wheres shes coming from, with both of us only being 19. Is it stupid for me to think that our friendship will last? Is it stupid for me to wait for her to see whats out there? During uni sermester I have pressure to achieve high marks so most my time is spent dedicated to that, and I dont spend alot of time going out etc, so I have no options to go out....I honestly just want to do whatever i can just to see her, however i dont want to throw myself at her, begging to get back wtih me etc...BTW this is my first relationship (serious anyway) so i am new to all this. Right now, the way i deal with this is to ignore it...
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reader, aisforacting  +, writes (4 September 2009):
 From a female's point of view I'd say look around. You should go out and put yourself out there.
It is unfair of her to ask you to wait for her forever. You are better than that.
But, it you really think she is the one. Wait, see what happens. If she wants you back(which mostly likely she will) go for it!
Goodluck!
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (3 September 2009):
 I seen the same situation before, to be honest she could be doing what you expect using you like a insurance policy so that if things in the future fail she can come running back to you in a few months to years.
I also know many couples who do the limbo of lets be together, lets not, etc. Back and fourith until they date again and then then one wants space and screws around and comes back so you are not alone by any means.
In the end its up to you, and dont grovel that could very well make her loose interest im you, shows a lack of self-esteem in thier eyes for some reason, i wonder why lol. If you like her that much well wait and see but do it within reason, and keep your options open like she is , you never know you may find yourself likeing someone more?
Good Luck!
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