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writes:Hello aunts and uncles i really need help my boyfriend and i are having problems he is selfish and unaffectionate a smartmouth asshole but he is the only man i want and can think about he is my first and i care about him a lot but everyone keeps telling me that he is cheating on me and he is using me and running me over so every time we talk out one problem somebody comes along and put these thoughts in my head.....i was on vacation last week and he spent the ladder part of the week with me his phone would ring non stop but it was like family and friends however sometimes the phone rang the ringtone set for this person was like a love song and it made me want to question who it was but i didnt because he never asks who im on the phone with..... Also when i saw my boyfriend at the club he did not acknowledge my presence at all he danced with a few girls but that was fine he was with his friends mostly... And i didnt hear from him the entire next day.... Should i let him go because i really do care about him Reply to this Question
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reader, HxExAxTxHxExR  +, writes (24 January 2010):
i am in the same situation and don't know if a should stay or go but looking at your question made me realize that there is no point in being with someoe that doesn't make you happy. If you carry on being with someone like that you are only going to get hurt and if you leave it too long it will hurt even more, because you will feel more attached. Go out and enjoy the single life for a while see what you have being missing and when you want to start dating, you might meet your guy Be brave and don't put up with his crap!!xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): Be honest with you, most men are the same. 'unconsiderate assholes' (Inbetweeners tv programme) They care about themselves and only about themselves. Go and have fun with your mates and enjoy freedom before they take over ya life! From a woman thats having serious problems with a man
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (19 January 2010):
 Im pretty sure everyone clearly said no here, dont try to change men you will be the one who is changed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice eveyone i know i should let him go but its hard i really feel something special for him.... Even when im with a guy that treats me the complete opposite and treats me like a queen my boyfriend is still on my mind..... Do u guys think this is something that can be salvaged or definitely not
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reader, vivien dowton +, writes (18 January 2010):
I had a lovely boyfriend once, but i was young then he wanted to marry me but i had to back out because the timing wasnt rite, i met someone else who had been married who had kids, i did marry this man big mistake as he had the snip didnt tell me till we were married, he wantened kids with me but couldnt... blamed it on me... thats a bastard..............
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (18 January 2010):
Leave him now, dont say ill leave him tomorrow because tomorrow will never come. My first love did the same stuff your doing now, rationalizing her relationship with her asshole of a boyfriend who ultimately raped her, got her pregnant and continues to treat her like shit, cheat, and basically leave her and her family to take care of the kid even though he is supposed to as well. Her friends screamed at her and gave her so much shit because she hurt me and went back to him to only have the above happen.
Its not worth it, get out and you will find someone else theirs a 0% chance u cant find someone else you will like more then him if you look in the right places, namely the opposite of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): Let this man go, he seems no good! And girl you get out there and meet a nice man who will be affectionate, and care about everything, and never want to see another women in his mind, he's out there somewhere, get looking!
hope this helps 3
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 Ask yourself WHY you want a guy like this. And no, love is not the answer, it is an excuse.
Usually there is something wrong with the person in your situation where they are attracted to the wrong kind because...
well there can be a lot of reasons:
Not knowing any better, is this what you have grown up around?
Low self-esteem.
Unwilling to commit (rather handy to date a guy who doesn't want to commit if you don't want to)
I doubt you truly care for him. You don't call the person you love an asshole.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): Yes let him go. He isnt respecting you at all. You need to be giving your love and attention to someone who deserves it and wants to give the same back to you. What you have with this guy isnt a proper relationship and if you stay with him you will end up feeling worthless and used. So move on, swiftly x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 January 2010):
God yes, let him go! In your own words he is selfish, unaffectionate, and a smarmouth asshole, he dances with other women and ignores you and all your friends are screaming at you that he's cheating on you and using you. Girl, you can do better! Please don't waste your time.
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