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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I'm currently in high school and I'm engaged to the girl of my dreams. We've been dating for quite a while now. I proposed to her around 2 months ago. Since that we have talked more and more about our wedding. We've decided that to avoid ending up like her parents did we are going to wait until we are actually out of college to get married. That's fine with me. Here is the problem. We've gotten pretty hot and heavy before but we've never had any form of actual sex. We're both virgins and would she would like to remain one until she is actually married. I have no problem with this. The only thing is I'm worried I may let temptation get to me sometime in the next few years and take things farther than I should. How can I keep the temptation of touching her sexually away while still being able to be close to her? Any ideas?
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (26 September 2008):
 Avoid being alone in private spaces. It doesn't matter how much you think you can control yourself, avoid being alone. You can still go over when there is people around and you can still date as you are used to, just remember to keep the lights on, people nearby and decide to stop when you get carried away.
This is a hard decision to take, congratulations for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): Let me get this straight. You're engaged to marry this girl, neither of you is out of high school yet, and you want to wait until you are out of college to get married? Forget it. Your bodies are not wired to work like that. Either shorten your engagement to a reasonable amount of time, or call it off.
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reader, clueless18  +, writes (26 September 2008):
hey anon hope i can help,first of all i think its lovely what your doing :). its nice to see that you still value marriage so highly and with such class.dont sweat the sex issue ... itll be okay this is obviously what you have set your mind on so give your willpower some credit!obviously if you do have urges (im sure she will too! lol) there are different things you can try such as mutual masturbation or massage. that way you can fulfill your urges without thinking youve let your promise down :). please take the pressure off yourself...youll be okay. I wish you luck in your engagementmuch lovex
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