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writes:So, I've been trying my best to have my mom get me on Birth Control... I called up to the help department and they said I could come in there by myself but you know a young girl always wants her mom there with her... I dont know why she is being so lame about this. I wish she would listen to me and stop thinking about what only OTHER people would start thinking about me! Reply to this Question
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reader, tayty1 +, writes (10 September 2009):
tayty1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys!I wish she understood that most teen girl's dont talk to there mom's about birth control and everything!She doesnt think im being smart. She said im being dumb for even asking a question like that:/!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): Why on earth would your mother think that "other people" would know about such a private thing?
I commend you for talking to your mom about this. I wish my daughters were so wise! The other reply is just right on. Your mom should feel proud that your relationship is so strong that you'd approach her about this. You're wanting to be careful and responsible, and you've shared an intensely personal part of you with her. From what you've said about her reaction, as a parent, I'm just thoroughly disappointed with her.
If the need for birth control is going to be an issue in your immediate future, then go to the clinic whether your mom gets onside or not. And remember that there's more to it than pregnancy -- make sure he uses condoms so you don't have to worry about STDs.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 I know this is difficult for you to understand now, but you are her baby. The little, innocent girl that she held in her arms. Now, imagining you having sex... not nice!! You need to help her go through this phase of accepting you are growing up. You need to let her know you are being responsible about the whole thing and how important it is for you to have her on your side. That maybe other people would think it is not right for her to go with you but at least she can be sure that you trust her enough to talk to her about it.
Also, you should consider making a "trade" with her. If you are not having sex yet, maybe you can both decide how much to wait (six months, a year). That way she feels that you are being responsible, mature and are taking a well thought decision.
Best of lucks!
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