My friend with benefits seems more withdrawn after sexual dysfunction
Q. I've been seeing/hooking up with this guy for several months. Lately, the last few times we have been together he got off too fast when we had sex and he was embarrassed. Now he seems like he is distancing himself from me. Does he just not like...
A. 29 August 2012: May I ask how fast was too fast? ... (read in full...)
I love him but I hate him. There is nothing I want from him but yet I continue to play the fool in this relationship.
Q. I'm not sure what I feel for this guy anymore. We had been dating for almost three years and both did the other pretty dirty. There was a lot of trust issues, and emotional abuse on both ends. When we were together I didn't even really like him. ...
A. 29 August 2012: It sounds like a strictly physical relationship. Ask yourself these questions: Do you want a primarily physical relationship that you know won't go anywhere? And, do you want to get sucked back into the same love/hate relationship that you walked ... (read in full...)
I really love him but I feel humiliated in this relationship.
Q. Hi.. I am in a long-distance relationship with a guy for last 15 months. I have met him thrice and thought he is my soul-mate. But things have completely changed now. I really love him but I feel humiliated in this relation. He always criticises me. ...
A. 29 August 2012: Okay, let me get this straight. He cheats on you, criticizes you, makes you feel weak and depressed. But you still remain with him? This is where we have to ask ourselves why we are allowing this to happen. Do we like pain? My best advice to you i... (read in full...)
Had a great date last night but now this... shall I just forget it?
Q. So i went on a date last night with a lovely girl. We met on a dating site and i went to pick her up and met her parents so they knew i wasn't going to kill her and dump her body in a ditch somewhere. She was telling me that she had some pretty ...
A. 29 August 2012: Get your game on man, ignore her. Especially if she's blabbing about exes on the first date, and then not replying to you. If the body language was there and she wanted a second date, maybe she was willing to give you some loving on the first da... (read in full...)
I'm 26 and my husband is looking for younger women
Q. I thought I forgot about my husband, maybe ex husband hasn't divorced yet. So technically not yet. I am not into divorce and I think that marriage should be sacred that is probably why I'm still pushing and hoping that we can still get back together...
A. 18 March 2012: Listen, you have to always trust your instincts. Your instincts are almost always correct.
Also, you have to live your life for you, not for some guy that is using you and hurting you.
Find happiness elsewhere, divorce this guy and move on.
Tha... (read in full...)
I feel like I should go farther with my 18 y.o. b/f
Q. I just started dating this guy I've liked for a really long time. He's 17 turning 18 next month and I'm 14 turning 15 in July. I know it's a huge age difference but I do really like him and according to his friends (who are also my friends), he ...
A. 27 February 2012: You're not a bad person, But he is too old for you. Especially right now at your age. You are still in school and he is going out into the world. You should not go any further with him, because it will be a very complicated time for you. Not to ... (read in full...)
Friendly, or flirting?
Q. I started a new job approx 3 weeks ago, in my first few training days there was a guy (cute and around my age) that came in; I was still kinda slow and clumsy at the time but he patiently waited, smiling, as I sorted things out. He came in again to...
A. 27 February 2012: There are three possible solutions to your question. There is no way for me or anyone else to say what his motive is but, the solution is most likely one of these three.
1)He could just be very outgoing, and likes to talk.
2)He might think yo... (read in full...)
Ex told me my penis was too small and now I have serious confidence issues
Q. Confidence. I'm a guy with a average to small penis. I've always been fairly good in bed using what I got. When I was in the process of breaking up with a girl I was absolutely in love with she said "Well you're a guy with too small a dick" for some ...
A. 19 February 2012: She was purposely trying to hurt your feelings. That is a mean thing for her to say. Let it go and push forward! There is a saying that goes, "my hose isn't very long, but at least it it reaches the fire". You don't have to be hung like a pornst... (read in full...)
I deleted him off facebook. So should I message him and explain why?
Q. I have a crush on this guy for three years now. Even though we never got together, the chance we did have was thrown out the window for a number of factor. (he went back to his country + was seeing other women). I decided to be just friends ...
A. 18 February 2012: Don't feel bad, a lot of people inadvertently forget birthdays without realizing it. He is all the way in another country. You both have been apart for a very long time and from what you wrote, never had a real relationship. I have had a girl... (read in full...)
B/f broke up with me because of my behavior. Could we get back together?
Q. So my boyfriend of 4 months (longest relationship of mine) dumped me on Valentine's Day because he was fed up with my behaviour. I won't lie and say what I did wasn't good (when I was upset sometimes I'd threaten to break-up with him, and sometimes ...
A. 18 February 2012: Yes, there is a possibility that you may reconcile. There is always hope, but if you say or do something wrong that causes you to lose your lover, you must apologize for what you said or did. That is the only way to get them back and to make ame... (read in full...)
How can I be happy being single?
Q. Does anyone have any advice on how to get over a girl who has a boyfriend? And any advice on how to be happy being single? I have lots of friends and I'm busy with interests but have been single for 2 years now. I'm not happy anymore. I'm not acti...
A. 17 February 2012: Hello,
Dealing with loneliness is a common issue for many people. First, realize that you are not alone. Then, think positively and you will meet a girl that is right for you. There are many girls right now who are feeling the same way as you.... (read in full...)
What is a squirting orgasm?
Q. dear cupid, this might be a really stupid question, but at least it will be short and sweet. well, actually, it's two questions. if anybody wants to have a go at answering, i would appreciate it greatly. ") 1. what exactly is a "squirting org...
A. 15 February 2012: There is an area called the "Skene Gland" located about 1 inch inside of the vagina, facing towards the pubic mound. It is a sponge-like mass of tissues and nerves, that some people refer to as the "G-Spot", named after Dr. Grafenburg. When stimulat... (read in full...)
Is he addicted to porn? And is this the reason why we don't have sex anymore?
Q. hi this is really difficult to write about but i hope someone can give me some advice on how to deal with my bf of two years. After a long time of wondering about our sex life, I've realised that my bf is addicted to porn. We get on really wel...
A. 14 February 2012: "In the last 4 months, we've had sex once"...
And you have been together for just 2 years. Maybe you can talk to him and find out what the problem is.
If I were you, I wold work on myself, and what you want in life.
Maybe he isn't cheating now... (read in full...)
I love her but she has a husband!
Q. Need more help please advice my friend whom i love more than anything still hurting me. Me and my friend r coworkers. She was my schoolmates for two years but we don't know each other very much. when she joins she has a boyfriend who is...
A. 13 February 2012: Okay, you must be respectful of her marriage. And beware of the jealousy that could arise from her husband. What do you think the consequences would be if you tried to come between her and the husband? Not a good thought.
I would say, remain frie... (read in full...)
Boyfriend having a hard time staying erect.
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a couple months now. Everything is great and we have a great time together,he's very sweet and thoughtful. But there seems to be a problem in the sex department,which I have just recently found out. We were not se...
A. 13 February 2012: If you are both willing to talk about it, you can convince him to see a doctor and get a prescription to one of various erectile dysfunction medications.
Viagra lasts only 4 hours, while Cialis can last 36 hours or longer.
Then maybe he can lear... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex, who hurt me or wait for him to contact me?
Q. I'm curious if any men out there ever wished they could get their ex back after leaving them for someone else and then a yr. or so later realized you had made a huge mistake or the one you hooked up with ended up dumping you? Were you too much of ...
A. 13 February 2012: If you want to contact him then yes, do it. Life is short.
Maybe he is afraid to contact you because he knows he was wrong, or that you might not want to speak with him after all that has been done.
But, if he was aggressive enough to drive by... (read in full...)
Obsessed with my ex!
Q. I'm happily engaged to a man who loves me. I do love him, more than I love anyone else in the world. (With the exception of my little brothers) He gives me everything I ever wanted and any normal person wouldn't be on a relationship forum ...
A. 9 February 2012: You have to move on. The ex was not even a fraction of a relationship. You cannot live in the past. The ex used you, you used each other, you are not doomed. Take all those thoughts of the ex, and put them in a box in your mind, close the box, and ... (read in full...)
Breakup up, becoming friends and getting back together?
Q. Hey guys, I have a few questions regarding my relationship. I would love to hear your opinions. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years after a nasty argument because "she couldn't love me they way I want her to" - She studies a full time post g...
A. 9 February 2012: Flowers are always a great way to win a woman's heart. Definitely send her flowers and a card on Valentine's day.
Just a simple gesture like that will go a long ways.
And, when her exams are over, I can almost guarantee you that she will be payin... (read in full...)
Should an ex still be attending family functions?
Q. Is it proper for My Husbands Ex to attend his neices Quinceanera (Sweet 15)? They have a 12 year Son together and he will be in the party? (kinda like a groomsmen) They were only married 1 year and we have been together 13 years (married 9). We have ...
A. 9 February 2012: It is proper because they have a child together and her son will be there. ... (read in full...)
Not feeling a physical attraction...
Q. I am currently separated, divorce should be final in a couple more months. I met someone on an online dating site and we've been on four dates. This is the first man I've dated since my separation. My problem is that he's perfect for me in every ...
A. 5 February 2012: You decide. Ask yourself a few questions. Is he worth the effort of having a relationship with? Can you handle the fact that you're not attracted to him? Can you see yourself spending your life with him, even someday if you get past the physical ... (read in full...)
Why did boyfriend's face go numb during sex?
Q. Let's start with I am overweight! However I've been with my boyfriend now for over a month and we have sex everyday at least once, mostly two or three times sometimes more and it's great. However last night we had our first argument and he wa...
A. 5 February 2012: He definitely needs to see a doctor. Anytime you have chest pains, numbness, and feel like that, it is serious. I'm not a doctor, but I would highly recommend for him to see one before he strokes out on you. Also, you can have him check his blood ... (read in full...)
If a married man and a woman have an affair, can the woman be blamed as well?
Q. If a woman and a married man have an affair, is it the woman's fault as well? Obviously, it is the man's fault, but is the woman to blame as well as a home-wrecker? I have heard the defense of the woman saying "It was his choice to go after m...
A. 5 February 2012: Good question. I was recently having a discussion pertaining to this very topic with a friend of mine.
And, my response was, "it takes two to tango", because my friend was blaming the married man for infidelity with other women.
I wouldn't blame he... (read in full...)
Breaking down signals
Q. This is one of those times where your stuck trying to analyse everything to figure out what they mean... but it's driving me insane, so I guess I'm looking for opinions to see if any of this is means that this girl likes me or not. I met this gir...
A. 5 February 2012: You're over analyzing. Since you see her regularly, just wait until the next time you two are at swim class and talk to her. Don't have unnecessary expectations. Just enjoy her company, relax, stay confident and be a gentleman.
You will be fine... (read in full...)
What do I do when I made a mess of things?
Q. I have been pen pals with a chinese guy for 3 years . I am 19 and he is 23 and he came to my country 2 weeks ago to meet me this is his 6th time in a year he has came to see me. We had a really good time together and i spent a whole week with him. ...
A. 5 February 2012: You didn't mention what part of China that he is from. There are several other languages in China besides Mandarin. China has good areas and very dangerous areas. It is true that you have to exercise extreme caution when traveling to another ... (read in full...)
Can I believe her? Did she cheat on me? Where to go from here?
Q. I am currently in a 4 year relationship with my first and only girlfriend. Up until recently our relationship has been great and there's been no scares of infidelity or anything of that nature. It was a true love story, to make a long story shor...
A. 3 February 2012: Do you need a notarized letter? You basically caught her red handed, she just hasn't come right out and said, "okay we had sex". You decide. Do you forgive her and trust that she won't ever see this guy again? Or, do you walk away? I wouldn't stay ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you rather be approached by an interested man?
Q. As a woman, which way would you rather be approached? A. At my university, I see an attractive woman, so I say to her, "Excuse me, do you know where building F is?" She then shows me where it is and I say, "Actually, I know where building F...
A. 3 February 2012: Ok, I'm not a lady, but I am an established man of the world and always have been successful with women. I totally agree with Celtic_Tiger. Those are not good approaches.
Your approach can be more like this: Fist of all, don't stare her down! Here... (read in full...)
Life is a confused wreck. My partner broke up with me. Help, how do I emerge from this OK to go forward?
Q. My world came crumbling down on december 31. I was enjoying myself at a new year party, and i decided to,,check my facebook. The first thing that popped up was the,lesbian,i used to like. I found out she had a boyfriend. When i found out, i felt ...
A. 3 February 2012: Time heals all wounds. Think positively, and soon, the sun will shine again for you. Break ups are difficult, but this is a temporary difficult time and you will find happiness.
I have had failed relationships, one in particular where I really love... (read in full...)
He can't maintain an erection during sex now...is he cheating?
Q. Your Open Question: Why can't he keep his erection long anymore? is he cheating? Wow I've just been told my bf has been cheating on me. I asked him if he's ever cheated on me he says no. He says he loves me. But I'm not sure.. Am gunna have...
A. 3 February 2012: There are many reasons why a man has erectile dysfunction. At his age, it is most likely psychological. At 22 if he cannot keep an erection, there is either a physical health issue, or a psychological issue. Is he in good physical shape? Have you ... (read in full...)
I am thinking of contacting my ex G/f again and telling her that I am the one who screwed up and am really sorry..
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend about a year ago now. I had an affair and started an open relationship with her but it really did not work out since she had too many head problems. I continue to think of my ex girl since she was the best thing that ...
A. 1 February 2012: Just tell her how you feel. What do you have to lose? I'm sure she thinks about you. A little communication can go a long ways. No one is ever offended at the prospect of love.... (read in full...)
I am thinking of contacting my ex G/f again and telling her that I am the one who screwed up and am really sorry..
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend about a year ago now. I had an affair and started an open relationship with her but it really did not work out since she had too many head problems. I continue to think of my ex girl since she was the best thing that ...
A. 1 February 2012: Just tell her how you feel. What do you have to lose? I'm sure she thinks about you. A little communication can go a long ways. No one is ever offended at the prospect of love.... (read in full...)
I think I may have a porn problem!
Q. I think I may have a porn problem. Basically I have always watched porn for the last 6/7 years while being a teenager but I have recently noticed that I have been watching a lot of hardcore porn. I've had performance problems in the past...
A. 1 February 2012: Yes, you have to control what you feed your mind with. People tend to be curious, experimental and go through stages. But, you are thinking right when you talk about slowing down on certain behavior. Don't let yourself get addicted to abnormal ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly, and I need ways to cope!
Q. I'm in such emotional pain right now, because I think am so ugly. Nobody ever tells me I'm pretty, I am just really plain, and today I realized I'm deformed. I tried on several tight dresses, and my hips are just too big... if I fit into a dress ...
A. 1 February 2012: You're beautiful. Don't ever change! Stay natural, witty, smart, funny, and don't worry about what other people like on facebook. Kids are cruel, and everyone got called ugly at some point in school.
You're not deformed, you are being hard on y... (read in full...)
First Valentines, what should I get her?
Q. I'm debating what to get my girlfriend for Valentine's day. Flowers are obvious but... what else? We have only been together for a few months. We both talk about massages and how neither of us has had one. There's a place here in town tha...
A. 1 February 2012: Don't break the bank. I would get her flowers and the headlamp if you can afford it. You can give her a personal massage. She will appreciate your thoughtful gift, and you can promise her a professional massage later, when you have more money. ... (read in full...)
Great love life but sneaky boyfriend. What do you think?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 9 yrs. We are both late 20's and he is good to me and loves me. However I say he is "sneaky" because pretty much every 3-4 months like clockwork I will discover something that makes me really question my ...
A. 1 February 2012: Well, you know him. And you know his behavior. People generally do not change, so either you can accept this, or don't accept it. He will not change, this is how he gets his kicks. In my experience, people don't change, we have to accept them or not ... (read in full...)
Did I leave things go too long with her?
Q. A few nights ago i went out on a date with a girl, which was kinda cut short as she bumped into some of her friends while we were out and the evening didnt really go as i planned. In the end i left her with her friends (stupid i know). I spoke to ...
A. 1 February 2012: This is never good when they just happen to bump into friends when out on a date with you, and then they choose to remain with their friends. Where did you take her, and who's idea was it to go to the place you went? This may have been her escape ... (read in full...)
28, single and lost
Q. Hi, I'm 28 soon and a single lady. I've never dated, have no sexual experience, nor any really. I feel quite alone in finding a partner and a bit lost. Most of the guys I've liked have been 10-15 years older, I feel comfortable and share the same ...
A. 30 January 2012: Hello,
Advice would be to keep looking and trying. Seek out exactly what it is that you want, and safely go about getting it. Get knowledge, of whatever it is that you want. Then use your knowledge, and as you get older, you will become wise... (read in full...)
Are people that have been in relationships with an alcoholic in the past afraid of commitment and trust ?
Q. Ok I have a question , I was dating this woman for 6 months and things were going really well and we took our time in the relationship , she had basically told me about her past life , it wasn't the best , at 16 she was sexually assaulted , at ...
A. 30 January 2012: Well, it sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders. Especially considering her past. Lots of people have had terrible childhoods and traumatic events in life. Can you specify the type of anxiety attacks that you're having? She gave you a ... (read in full...)
My B/f just expects me to invite myself over to his house to befriend his Mother and I find that totally rude and inconsiderate, especially given how my last visit there was
Q. Hello! Any advice on how my boyfriend is handling his family getting to interact with me and, thus, get to know me is very helpful and I appreciate it all! Thanks in advance. Background: My boyfriend (22 yrs old) comes from a low income family. H...
A. 30 January 2012: You have no obligation to be part of his dysfunctional and odd family. If you like his company, and he likes yours, that's great. But, quite frankly, you really do not have to feel pressured into making a friendship with his mom. I would just go a ... (read in full...)
I think we're exclusive, but I don't know how to ask.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for almost two months now and I am beginning to have feelings for him though I am still not sure whether we are a couple or not. I see him a few times a week and stay over with him at least once a week and txt each other ...
A. 9 January 2012: Your question is one that I have had to answer and ask, many times in life.
It usually plays out like this: Either she will ask me if I want to date other people, because she wants to know if she can be exclusive to me.
Or, I will ask her, if she w... (read in full...)
Differences in views and clingy insecure boyfriend is driving me insane!
Q. I've been in a long distence relationship for almost 5 months now. He is a very nice guy. We get along. He makes me laugh. But sometimes If he's just with me because he's desperate. We met an a convention in the summer. at the convention he had his ...
A. 9 January 2012: Be blunt with him, and tell him how you feel.
This will be far less painful for him in the long run, and may make him take a long look at himself.
It also may help you to see another side of him that you haven't seen yet.
He is probably a p... (read in full...)
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