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writes:I think I may have a porn problem.Basically I have always watched porn for the last 6/7 years while being a teenager but I have recently noticed that I have been watching a lot of hardcore porn.I've had performance problems in the past and I don't get the easily turned on and I think it could be due to watching too much hardcore porn. I am by no means addicted and I don't watch porn excessively not even daily. I am just thinking that when I do I get turned on more by the rough/hardcore stuff than your normal stuff most people watch. This kind of worries me a little because I have only just noticed tonight that some of the things I watch are a bit too hardcore... but I wont go into detail.Anyway do you guys think that it is probably best that I stay away from porn and maybe take a brake for masturbation too? I have thought about it while not aroused and I don't like watching all this hardcore porn and I believe it is going to affect my arousal with others in the long term if I don't cut it out.Any advice on this situation would be great.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (1 February 2012):
 If you have no regular partner, then masturbation is important, it's not good for you to go around sexually frustrated. Again, like everything else in sex, not too much and not too often. Also like you have been doing, keep a close watch on the types of fantasies you use for masturbation purposes.
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reader, unknown2u  +, writes (1 February 2012):
That depends. Are you seeing anyone now? If so, then sure, quite masturbating as well -- turn all your attention and efforts to the relationship. If you're single, well, your call, but sounds like being frustrated for nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of the advice you guys have gave and I totally agree with you all.
At Miamine, I agree, I don't see it as giving something up. I think, I will be happier and more interested in other things when I stop watching it.
It is nothing I am addicted to so it wont be a challenge.
Do you guys think I should break from masturbating for a while too or just as said 'use my imagination'?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (1 February 2012):
Feeling uncomfortable or disgusted by the type of porn you watch, having issues with sexual performance, yep, that seems as if there's a problem.
So give it up, no problems, why continue with something that's not giving you pleasure and making you dislike yourself. Do something else instead.
Don't focus on porn at all, that makes it too important in your life. Instead go to the gymn (should make you too tired to worry about sex) start checking on friends you haven't seen, develop an imagination for when you need to masturbate. If you got a girlfriend start spending more quality time with her.
Don't think your giving something up, instead think of all the nice and positive things your doing instead. Your not addicted, but porn can get boring after a time, and it's best to give up rather than keep chasing more extreme things.
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (1 February 2012):
Porn today is free and easy. You can get off effortlessly. That's OK if you're single, but it can seriously get in the way in the RW.
The good news is that if you stay away from porn for a while, what's in front of you gets a lot hotter. If you're worried about performace issues, definitely stay away from porn. After a month or two, when the highlight reel in you head is becomming threadbare, a real girl in the RW takes on a whole new meaning. Yes that means you have to put in a whole lot of effort -- you have to make a relationship, get to know her, make a friendship, to the point where the both of you want to have sex. Without porn you're more motivated to put in that effort, with a much more satisfying payoff if you've successfully created a decent relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): I used to have a problem like you, but I got over it by getting other interests and kind of getting sick of it.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (1 February 2012):
Have you considered trying lucid dreaming?
It can be a very healthy release from internal sexual tension, but it does take some practice and work.
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reader, MajorDisplayerOfInternationalPlayerBehavior +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Yes, you have to control what you feed your mind with. People tend to be curious, experimental and go through stages. But, you are thinking right when you talk about slowing down on certain behavior. Don't let yourself get addicted to abnormal practices. You know what is right for you.
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