I feel like I should just give up on ever finding that special relationship
Q. So I've only had one girlfriend in my life. We were together for six months then she broke up with me. That was six months ago. I know that her and I are not meant to be. Everyone says that it will get better with time and that I'll find someone ...
A. 20 September 2009: The first break up is the worst. My advice is to surround your self with friends. Don't try to forget her but cherish the memories. Just don't spend all your time dwelling on what might have been. Besides if you focus on losing her you will truly ... (read in full...)
How do I answer his email...?
Q. My BF sent me this email and i don't know what to answer him, he stop talking to me 10 days ago without any reason and today he sent me this email. He works in Iraq as a project manager, i work in a neighboring country from Iraq so i do understa...
A. 7 May 2009: Me and my friends actually had a discussion on this answer and we all agree that he is probably stressed and feels guilty for taking work or his stress out on you. It sounds like he loves you and is tired of hurting you. He wants some time to clear ... (read in full...)
One night stand can turn into a boyfriend?
Q. a few months ago i had this really hot one night stand with this guy he called me 6 times over the next week. i blew him off made up stupid excuses and stuff like that. so lastnight my recently dumped friend made me go out. this one of my exs was ...
A. 6 May 2009: I would be honest with him. If you like him and would like to try a relationship honesty will answer your question. Tell him how you feel and that you want to take things slow cause you do like him and would like to get to know him better. If he ... (read in full...)
Its scary to start a relationship after all this time!
Q. i have been single for 61/2 months. i was married for 22 yrs. to my first bf. one month ago i met this wonderful man, we get along really well he has already told me he love me and i feel the same way about him. do you think this is poss. it's scary ...
A. 6 May 2009: Go with your gut. You were married 22 years that was a long time. But you also have a life time of experience. Don't be afraid to take that step. Anything is possible with love. You have 22 years exp. of what to look and look out for. So trust your ... (read in full...)
She is so withdrawn and it worries me
Q. There is a girl Ive been with for a few months now. I have never met anyone like her. Theres no way to describe it but I love her. I assure you its not infatuation, far from it. I think the feelings are reciprocrated because shes told me she love...
A. 6 May 2009: First off I sense that you have fear from past relationships as you stated. You have to remember that every one is different. I have been hurt multiple times by allowing my heart what it wants and then being denied when I thought it safe to let that ... (read in full...)
I either want him or I want to move on from him
Q. hi right this one is a longish one.. lets call my ex Jo.me and jo broke up 3 years this aug 8th after 2 and a half yrs 2getha. i experienced everything with him for my first time so to finish after he cheated on me was heartbreaking. we both moved ...
A. 6 May 2009: This is really hard to answer so I'll try my best. I know how it feel to lose your first love. You don't want to break up his family cause it will eat at you and you'll never forgive your self. I think you should start dating not for a relation ship ... (read in full...)
Getting back deleted history on the computer?
Q. Dont know if any of you out there can help but i have been wondering how can you get back things that have been deleted on the history on my computer?...
A. 6 May 2009: The way a hard drive works is when its deleted the computer pushes that information aside and will eventually copy over it. Your computer doesn't acknowledge it's existence but it's still their if it hasn't already been written over. The only thing ... (read in full...)
Am I beating my head against a brick wall here?
Q. This is an update to an earlier question. "Jill" and I have been dating for the past three months, and things really took off for us. Before that, we had been friends for several years. It feels like we have such good chemistry, and we just fit ...
A. 3 May 2009: You answered your own question. You have a choice to make. Right now she seems to not know what she wants. It sounds like she finds comfort in hanging out with you. I would try and stick it out but be weary cause she might decide your not the one. ... (read in full...)
My wife touched his privates to check out his problem..did she go too far?
Q. I need a little advice, or maybe just reassurance, or maybe someone to tell me i'm being dumb. Or maybe I am right and this is nothing. My wife has her 2 year degree, and about 2 years ago we decided that she should pursue a full degree to get ce...
A. 3 May 2009: I think you should tell her how it made you feel. I mean it's one thing for her to be at a actual hospital and have to do something like that but she could have came to the same conclusion just by asking questions. If they are close friends it's OK ... (read in full...)
First time (69) , clueless... please share your experiences.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend wants to try a (69) and i'm up for it, the thing is I never gave him or anyone oral and I'm pretty inexperienced, unlike him so how should it go? I don't want to be under so that he doesn't smoother me and at the same time I dont ...
A. 2 May 2009: First you should try to give him oral just so you get a little comfortable. On a 69 I and my wife find it easier if she is on top as to I have a pole sticking out and she does not. So I would not want to smother her if I were on top. Also it's ... (read in full...)
Do you think he cheated?
Q. Here is my dilemma... Back in December my husband went to Japan for military duties for 2 weeks with 2 other guys. When he came back I found that he emailed to these 2 guys a picture of a local girl....I asked him who that was and he said she was ...
A. 1 May 2009: I would say your looking into it to much. I don't know all the detail but let me tell you what I see. First off I have a lot of buddies some witch are dogs and cheat on their girls. I also have buddies that are totally faithful. I noticed that my ... (read in full...)
Shaved or not shaved?
Q. well,this is kind of eeky but i need to know the answer..do guys prefer a clean,shaved bikini area or is it ok to have hair down under?...
A. 1 May 2009: Honestly as long as you keep yourself trimmed and not bushy I think most men wont complain. Most men do prefer shaved only cause you don't have to worry about hair in your mouth when your going down under. I myself don't really care as long as she ... (read in full...)
How do I start to move on?? We have had so many problems.
Q. In a long distance relationship, been together for quite a few years. He just started this new job in another state four months ago. I see him every other weekend. We have had our ups and down believe me. This is just another bump in the road which ...
A. 1 May 2009: The grieving process is different for everyone. It will hurt and I would wish a heart break on no one. I am glad though that you have the courage to move on. Its the first step and the hardest. But like you said you are a good person and deserve a ... (read in full...)
Porn - I want to be the only woman!
Q. I know this has to be a common complaint, but i found porn on my boyfriend's computer. I wasn't even looking for it...just came up when i was typing in a website. Well i checked his history then, and found porn were all the top sites. The probl...
A. 26 April 2009: I don't think your overreacting if he's actually communicating with another girl. You have to remember though he might not think it's wrong. Some guys just think as long as I'm not actually with her it's alright. (I'm not one of them). I would first ... (read in full...)
I'm lost for sex turn ons and ready to give up... Advice Please!!!!
Q. I dated my wife for four years. She believed in no sex before marriage so we didn't have sex even though she wasn't a virgin. On our wedding night we had sex and she seemed to enjoy it. In the following months we had sex once or twice but she just...
A. 26 April 2009: Thanks everyone for the good advice I'm still figuring it out but have some new ideas now. Again Thanks Every one who answered gave sound advice.... (read in full...)
"Boys don't work like that!!!"
Q. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time snuggling and we haven't seen each other for the last week so I asked him if he was missing our cuddles and he said boys don't work like that. Is that right or am I overthinking things and being worried for no ...
A. 24 April 2009: I have been with my wife for six years and not a week goes by that we don't at least cuddle. Some guys are different but I would always trust your gut. Do you feel its as he says or does your gut tell you different. I hope this advice helped...
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How does one classify romance/lust verses friends with benefits verses the friend zone?
Q. Hello! I wonder if someone would kindly tell me once and for all whether there are two distinct states of relationship i.e. romance/lust vs the friend zone and can one move from one into the other and vice versa. A hybrid version of this is of co...
A. 24 April 2009: Well first off usually friends with benefits come from two people who have known each other or have been friends but don't want anything else from each other but sex. Next you have to ask your self do I like her more than a friend? If you do you ... (read in full...)
The thought of sex really worries me now because I was scared to say no to my former boyfriends! Please advise.
Q. Okay so i am not a virgin. I lost my viginity at 13 (young i know). I have had sexual partners and i felt alot of pressure when it came to sex. My first sexual partner wasn't my B/F he was just a friend. We was going to have sex but i said no an...
A. 24 April 2009: You need to be honest from the start. If he wants to date you be honest with him and tell him that you are not going to have sex until you fall in love. If he wants you for who you are and love he will understand. If he just wants sex well he'll ... (read in full...)
Met a guy online, he said he was 21 but he's really 17!
Q. Hi im 19 and from the UK, and i met this guy from Canada on a game. to play the game you have to be 18 and he said he was 21. we've spent every night tongether for the past 4 month talking for a minimum of 5 hours per night and over this time ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well I have two opinions the first is he did lie to you and you need to be carful not to get played. Second is he's only 2 years different if their is love their why throw it away over age. If it seems a problem you can always just keep the ... (read in full...)
We like each other and I want to tell her how I really feel about her. Any advice?
Q. My name is Chris and there is this girl i like. i dont think i've ever felt this way about any other girl before. We've know each other for about a year and we're really good friends and i'm ready to become more than friends. But i sometimes get ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well it's simple. I wrote my Wife letters. I used to say or confuse what I wanted to say but it never came out right. So I started some love letters. I was able to say what I wanted to say and she would reply. I was 25 and she was 23 at the time. It ... (read in full...)
What can I tell or write to my ex wife's parents to make things less awkward after the separation?
Q. I have a question I would like to hear any feedback on. I am currently separated and not in love with the mother of my kids. I can get into details but I will just say that I am not willing to go on pretending that I want to be with this woman. ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well I would have to say it takes a strong person to realize that its their fault as much as their spouse. I don't agree with divorce but If their is none stop fighting it's better to leave than let your child grow up in seeing violence. I would ... (read in full...)
What's the nicest way to turn someone down?
Q. I have been getting to know this guy for a month or so now, I really like him, and I know he likes me back. But last night my best friend told me how one of friends (who we have hung out with recently) fancies me. I don't like him, only as a friend, ...
A. 24 April 2009: I agree with satin. Just be blunt in a nice gentle way. Like Satin phrased it. It sounds a little hard to be truthful but if you lie or putt it off you will hurt their feelings more. Just remember don't make up a lie cause it seems easier but will ... (read in full...)
Wishful thinking or the Real thing?
Q. Is it possible to feel a connection to someone you have never met but have conversed with via e-mail, IM and phone for the past 6 months? Has anyone had this happen before? Also, what are the chances upon an initial meeting that there will be no ...
A. 24 April 2009: Yes but you have to be careful. People will say and act the way the want online but in life could be different. I would suggest rent the movie "You've got mail" It's a great movie and does have some tips in their about meeting online. Just remember ... (read in full...)
Can't let go of my married man because he's good in bed.
Q. hi im 18 and i am seeing an 21 year old guy who i really like and care for but the problem is he is married i tried leaving him before but always go back to him i dont expect him to leave her and im happy with him am i doing the wrong thing he also ...
A. 24 April 2009: It sounds like you know what to do you just need a push. Like you said he's married. He's not leaving his wife meaning you'll never have a true relationship. It's also not fair to his wife. I can honestly tell you that just because hes the first man ... (read in full...)
Weight! should I drop it or him?
Q. Dear Cupid; I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and lately our relationship is very rocky. We just recently got the internet, and since then, our communication has virtually come to a hault. I work at night and he works during the...
A. 24 April 2009: I don't usually sound this harsh but he sounds Like a dick. I personally think that the way hes coming off he doesn't care for you the way he should. You don't deserve to be talked down too. He has told you that he'll break up with you if you don't ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my abusive and demanding man? He says he'll leave me as soon as the sex stops anyway.
Q. "I have been living with a man that I am very much in love with for almost 4 years now. We are both nurses and he is 52 and I am 39. I have had some problems with drug addiction but have gotten help and continue to go to meetings and have a sponso...
A. 24 April 2009: I would with out a doubt say the problem is him. First off I'm a man and even I know that a woman body is totally different. He does sound like he has a sex problem. You have been more than reasonable with a compromise. It sounds to me as he only ... (read in full...)
I feel so betrayed that he watches porn instead of having sex with me!
Q. my boyfriend told me since he's been with me he hardly ever watches porn. i was fine with it at first, but now it really eats me up. when i look on the computer and find out he's been looking at it, i fell like i'm not enough, i mean i do everything ...
A. 24 April 2009: Rule # one We men are dogs. We try not too be but we are when it comes down to it. My advice is be honest with him. Let him know how it makes you feel. I myself will look at porn but it's usually when my wife is neglecting me. I have told her this ... (read in full...)
How can I apologise to my wife for the blunder I made 10 years ago?
Q. I need help to stop this major fighting I'm having with my wife. We're married over 10 years, and I did something stupid over 10 years ago when we were first married (no I didn't cheat). One of my stupid friends who's known us since before we were ...
A. 22 April 2009: WOW....That is crazy. I know your sorry and to you it was something that happened ten years ago but for her this is new. Evert hing she thought she knew has been Violated. Your not going to win this fight. But I would do some major sucking up and ... (read in full...)
He cheated but says he loves me so he will change. Should I believe him?
Q. Hi, I wrote earlier about playing mind games with my boyfriend who cheated on me. Two nights ago, he confronted me why I don't hug him anymore nor kiss him. I said to him I am losing interest for a fact that while he is with me, he may be thinking ...
A. 22 April 2009: I would if she doesn't know. Just try to remember she might not take it well. I mean you and her both put your trust in this man and he has violated that trust. She has every right to make her own decision but at least you gave her a heads up.... (read in full...)
This is the relationship I was trying to avoid! I want it over!
Q. I need advice badly. I've been in a "relationship" with this guy for almost 3 months. And I need to get out asap, but he won't leave me alone. At first everything was fine. Then I stopped seeing him. And when I tried to leave he went pyscho. calling ...
A. 22 April 2009: I would have to agree with all the other responses. Call the cops get a restraining order. If you weren't willing he has raped you. If you let it slide he could take that as you wanted it and keep coming back. I work with criminals and they feed on ... (read in full...)
How do I win her back when she is going through such a hard time at the moment?
Q. I was seeing this girl called Emma we get on good together we argued once but it was my fault as I was tired and angry as my baby died that week one yr ago and I said sorry, we have split up 4 times with the first time was a month and 2 weeks ago as ...
A. 22 April 2009: I wouldn't say anything right now. If you want to be with her then be their fore her. A person will always remember who is their for them. But in this time in her life she need to heal its like someone has taken a weed eater to her heart and she ... (read in full...)
Second child is on the way and I am worried about the consequences "down there"
Q. Ok,i am going to have my 2nd child in 2 months time and am worried about what"damage" this may have"down below".My partner says that after the birth of our 1st child he felt no difference,but i'm not so sure as i can feel with my fingers that there ...
A. 22 April 2009: I would have to agree with Annalisa their are exercises you can do to tighten up. Pelvic exercise is the best for that. my ex did them and she had three kids but except for a couple stretch marks I couldn't tell. It will take a couple of month but ... (read in full...)
I've broken up with him one too many times!
Q. *Sigh* It's been a month shy of 2 years, and my ex doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. It's really weird but I want to be with him again so badly...despite the many breakups we've gone through. I broke up with him about a week ago over ...
A. 22 April 2009: I just read your second post. I would have to tell you to put your foot down. If he Just wants to be friend don't give him benefits that could lead him to thinking he can get away with using you. You are a person too just cause you messed up doesn't ... (read in full...)
My best friend is about to start dating the love of my life!
Q. hey everyone, i need some help! i really, really like this girl, i have for about a year and never been able to tell her but ive dropped hints for ages, we are really close, and she just broke up with her boyfriend. I was at a party which she rea...
A. 22 April 2009: You have a very touchy situation. You need to talk to your friend and see if he seriously likes this girl or not. If he does you have a choice to make. You can go to this girl tell her how you feel or not. Ask your self is this love or lust. A good ... (read in full...)
He cheated but says he loves me so he will change. Should I believe him?
Q. Hi, I wrote earlier about playing mind games with my boyfriend who cheated on me. Two nights ago, he confronted me why I don't hug him anymore nor kiss him. I said to him I am losing interest for a fact that while he is with me, he may be thinking ...
A. 22 April 2009: I'm a firm believer in once a cheater always a cheater. My first girlfriend and I were dating for 8 months when I caught her cheating on me. I was naive but still confronted her. She told me she was sorry cried real tears and even begged me not to ... (read in full...)
I've broken up with him one too many times!
Q. *Sigh* It's been a month shy of 2 years, and my ex doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. It's really weird but I want to be with him again so badly...despite the many breakups we've gone through. I broke up with him about a week ago over ...
A. 22 April 2009: I would try taking the relationship back to friends like he request. By breaking up with him so many times he is probably emotionally tired and confused. He sounds like he just want a break. Just be his friend and be their for him. That's the best ... (read in full...)
Not had sex for a while and am I little bit scared of going there again...
Q. I've been single for a while (9 months), and by saying I've been single, I also mean celibate. I haven't even dated anyone until now, so am feeling socially challenged to my list of concerns. I am all kinds of nervous about sex with someone ...
A. 21 April 2009: My best advice is to shower before or during sex. I Love to go down on a woman in the shower. Shes clean Im clean and sex itself is a dirty act. But if your fear is you'll smell bad rest assure if you take a shower before you should be good to go. I ... (read in full...)
Is this normal after a break up or am I avoiding the whole thing?
Q. Myself and partner broke up about 3 weeks ago. He moved out of my house. I was pretty upset the first week. We had been doing a fair bit of arguing during the lead up to the break up. This is his third week being gone and I haven't seen him around. ...
A. 21 April 2009: Sometimes we get with a person and we have a physical connection but then realize we are to different. It starts with a disagreement and then leads to slug fest 2000 with our mouths. when its over we feel sad cause we lost that connection but then... (read in full...)
I can't live with my husband but I can't live without him either.
Q. Hey everyone, I'm not sure if I'm "RIGHT or WRONG" I'm a married women and have a child 4 years old. My problem is my husband thinks that he is the boss in our marriage, whatever he says he thinks it should go, ok like when it was his birthday, I ...
A. 21 April 2009: Firt of all a relationship take two people. You can't keep taking the blame every time something goes wrong unless you are wrong. He sounds like a controling man witch isn't bad when you can't decide on dinner and he decides for you... but if he d... (read in full...)
My husband is using call girls and escort services? I am devastated. Please help me!
Q. My husband is using call girls and escort services? I am devastated. Please help me! Two weeks ago my husband received a call from someone at 11:30pm on a weekend. He didn't pick up, but someone had apparently left a message and upon asking him ...
A. 21 April 2009: I want you to ask yourself one question... Are you afraid of being single or just losing him. The subject is very sensitive. If you intercepted his call and saw a should we meet. I would confront him as soon as possible. If he hasn't met her thei... (read in full...)
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