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*ailey_heartbroken
writes:hi right this one is a longish one..lets call my ex Jo.me and jo broke up 3 years this aug 8th after 2 and a half yrs 2getha. i experienced everything with him for my first time so to finish after he cheated on me was heartbreaking.we both moved on, both lived our lives and for the last year now i cant stop thinking about him, its gotten worse lately..but he has a gf and shes just had their baby 2 months ago and i love him enough to be happy for him i do but i dont know how to let him goi seen him when his baby was a week old and i told him over a drink how i love him still and he told me the same and that it is hard not being together. He has told my friends and friends of friends how he loves me still and how he'll never love anyone like he loves me and its so hard because i want to be with him so bad,,,i would never split up a family but i have never wanted anyone the way i want him, i cant seem to move on and when i meet new people i shut them out because they arent Jo and no one can love me like jo does/did. When me and jo first split up i started self harming and now 3 years later i am still doing this he is inside my head like a disease i cant get him out and i either want him or i want to move on from him problem is i dont know which to do? or how to do either of them??can some one please help
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reader, hailey_heartbroken +, writes (7 May 2009):
hailey_heartbroken is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks but he isnt even allowed to be my friend, his gf wont let him because shes paranoid there is something there still which there is..he did cheat ye but i forgave him everytime he cheated so i cnt use that against him if u no what i mean x
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reader, Love4Life  +, writes (6 May 2009):
 This is really hard to answer so I'll try my best. I know how it feel to lose your first love. You don't want to break up his family cause it will eat at you and you'll never forgive your self. I think you should start dating not for a relation ship but just to meet different guys. You never will forget your first but I thought after my first love that life was over and I would never find any one to take that place in my heart. I have found someone new and even though I love her I still and will always love my ex. She was my first true love and will never lose that. Just like you she cheated on me. I could never trust her again. It's not my fault but hers. I still love her but with out trust their can never be a peace to that love. Will I ever forget her.. NO... But we are still friends I just had to move on. It took me 2 years and several counseling sessions but I put myself out their again and have found love again that I would not trade for any thing. Time stands still after a hard break up and sometime we just want to hurt because we cant feel any thing unless we do. I found myself cleaning to that throbbing in my chest and came to like being hurt. But theirs a time we have to stop and move on. I hope this can help you I know how it feels to lose that first love. I wish with all my heart you find a man that deserve your love as you deserve to be loved by a great man. I hope this has helped a little..
Miah
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