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writes:Ok,i am going to have my 2nd child in 2 months time and am worried about what"damage" this may have"down below".My partner says that after the birth of our 1st child he felt no difference,but i'm not so sure as i can feel with my fingers that there is a big difference....though i don't feel a difference during sex,but its different for men,its quite important to be tight for them isn't it?Anyway i suppose i'd like to know from other men who's partners have had one or more children if there is a difference and is it very important??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Who  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 "My partner says that after the birth of our 1st child he felt no difference,...i don't feel a difference during sex"One last thing. If he says no difference, take him at his word. If you don't feel a difference, you two are good to go. If either feels a difference, you have several options, as listed in the responses below. (But squeezing during sex, give that a try no mater what.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): A year after reconstructive surgery to repair damage done by childbirth, I was pregnant again and elected to have a c-section, not to undo the surgery. It worked for me! 32 years later and everything is just like after the surgery! After the birth of my son...I decided to have a tubaligation. They say c-section births are a lot less traumatic for the baby. And it is nice because you can make an appointment to go in! You can actually set your childs birth date! Although that part didn't work for me because my son had other ideas and my water broke 2 weeks early....the only time in his life he hasn't been late!!!
Talk to your gynocologist about your concerns.
Good Luck!
Britt
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): I had 2 kids and 2 more recently. (No sex yet since the last twins). After first child felt "loose", but adapted quickly. After 2nd child, my wife told the doctor to sew it tighter. Seem to work. Felt "tighter", but lasted only few months. Yet to try after my recent twins. (We have customs here for 1 month abstinence).
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reader, Who +, writes (22 April 2009):
And another thing about squeezing. You can do it constantly or in rhythm (squeeze on the in stroke and release on the out stroke. Experiment and see what works best for you two.Best of luck in everything.
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reader, Who +, writes (22 April 2009):
My wife had 2 children naturally (no incisions, scissor snips or sutures) and yes it was different afterwards but not bad. My wife said sex was better and easier for her after the first child; less struggling to get in and get started.This sounds sappy but I believe it to be true; love, caring and respect causes lovemaking to be good, much more so than any mechanical aspect like tightness.Having said that, the suggestion of Annalisa below is a good one. In the old days it used to be called a “snap dragon.” You don’t have to squeeze the whole time, just pick and chose critical times. Like when he is doing something you like and you want him to keep doing it. Or right when he is about to finish.
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reader, Love4Life +, writes (22 April 2009):
 I would have to agree with Annalisa their are exercises you can do to tighten up. Pelvic exercise is the best for that. my ex did them and she had three kids but except for a couple stretch marks I couldn't tell. It will take a couple of month but you will finally see a difference.
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