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writes:Okay so i am not a virgin. I lost my viginity at 13 (young i know). I have had sexual partners and i felt alot of pressure when it came to sex. My first sexual partner wasn't my B/F he was just a friend. We was going to have sex but i said no and he got realy annoyed and kept saying things like: "stop been stupid laydown". It was like he was angry. I was scared very upset with the situation but i did it anyway. Last year i had a Bf and he was very foward when it came to sex. I had known him 2 years before our relationship. He was trying to have sex on the first date. I manged to avoid sex with him. On the second date he was evan more forward and we ended up having sex. I was scared to say no i think its because i was scared of his reaction. I wasn't with him long.All of a sudden the thought of someone touching me or the the thought of having sex. Realy worries me because i don't want to do it. Im going to wait antil i fall in love. But i am worried incase i do get in a relationship with someone, its hard to explain that i want to wait when i have already done it. Are my feelings towards sex because of my first experiance? Reply to this Question
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reader, Love4Life  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 You need to be honest from the start. If he wants to date you be honest with him and tell him that you are not going to have sex until you fall in love. If he wants you for who you are and love he will understand. If he just wants sex well he'll move on and then you didn't waste your time with a loser. If you say no and they keep up that's rape where I come from. if you stand your ground they should back down. I hope you find that special someone we all look for. I hope I've helped....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): You have had bad sexual experiences and yet you are so young, it sounds to me like you have been pressured into sex with both of these boys.Like SteveS said you could be giving off the wrong signals with your body language but lets not forget that the first boy you had sex with has probably told other boys who might get the impression that you will do it with them too. Dont worry too much you are being sensible by telling yourself to wait for the right person or love, DO NOT GIVE IN TO ANY MORE BOYS PUTTING PRESSURE ON YOU FOR SEX THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO DO IT AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TO OBLIGE.Your feelings towards sex could be down to your experience so far but it could also be to do with the fact that in mind and body you are still not ready for sex yet, dont forget the sex you have had has been through pressure and every one is unique when it comes down to being ready for sex some are ready at your age (it's a bit young though)and some arn't.You are young and have your whole life ahead of you so dont worry too much about sex just yet trust me there is more to life than that. I wish you all the best for the future
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (24 April 2009):
 yeah hun probably i mean you were pretty much raped like!he forced you to do stuff you didn't want too!and so did the other guy!you are clearly going to be scared about how they will react especially if they get angry like.just stay off guys for a while if you're scared and also tell your parents what happend!i mean it's not your fault like he forced you really.wait until you find a really NICE DECENT guy and wait until you ARE sure that he is one you can trust not to force you into anything like.you're a young vulnerable girl.don't be scared though just take your time finding the right guy.Hope this helps hun.
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