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4 January 2011: You are at work palms all sweaty thinking about tonight and part of you wants to just say,"forget it." Everyday you are falling for him and you know where this is leading. You want so bad to make this work but your past is holding you back. When ...
Why sex is important in a Relationship
This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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3 January 2011: You can only hold hands for so long and then its time to get down to business. A lot of women serve as the problem with sex in the marriage. The only thing they focus on is the wedding, the family , and not the husband. Its like big poppa comes last ...
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Her longing for sex has increased. Is she just playing me? Or are we a normal couple again?
Q. After recently breaking up with my girlfriend due to paranoia issues and depression problems on her behalf, we agreed last Friday to meet up and clear the air. We met in an neutral place and she turned up wearing the shortest skirt I've ever seen...
A. 19 March 2011: Due to your girlfriends depression and paranoia issues....and now they just seem to disappear? well i think either she is on some new medication or she really wants it to work out. But don't just jump right back in it. She could be sexual with you ... (read in full...)
Her longing for sex has increased. Is she just playing me? Or are we a normal couple again?
Q. After recently breaking up with my girlfriend due to paranoia issues and depression problems on her behalf, we agreed last Friday to meet up and clear the air. We met in an neutral place and she turned up wearing the shortest skirt I've ever seen...
A. 19 March 2011: Due to your girlfriends depression and paranoia issues....and now they just seem to disappear? well i think either she is on some new medication or she really wants it to work out. But don't just jump right back in it. She could be sexual with you ... (read in full...)
Birth control/sex question!
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning on having sex after 3 years together. We will use Ortho Options Gynol II contraceptive gel and Trojan Warming sensations condoms. My first question is what would the effectiveness of these together be? and secondly ...
A. 21 January 2011: oh come on if you waited three years..you can wait one more month for your appoinment for proper birth control...dont take a chance just because he horny ...or you feel pressured...wait......you know what.....you wont be the only girl in this guys ... (read in full...)
Birth control/sex question!
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning on having sex after 3 years together. We will use Ortho Options Gynol II contraceptive gel and Trojan Warming sensations condoms. My first question is what would the effectiveness of these together be? and secondly ...
A. 20 January 2011: girl dont be silly get real birth control....a shot..preferably ....and why you having sex with this guy just because of three years? Think about it ...and watch MTV teen mom...and tell me you still want to take the chance of getting ... (read in full...)
Why sex is important in a Relationship
Q. You can only hold hands for so long and then its time to get down to business. A lot of women serve as the problem with sex in the marriage. The only thing they focus on is the wedding, the family , and not the husband. Its like big poppa comes last ...
A. 16 January 2011: I wrote this article to tell women that they need to do more to have a good sex life in the relationship.What the man has to do is like minor its nothing for them to wipe out a busy moms schedule so they can get down to business.My article said ... (read in full...)
I want some kind of commitment other than our 1 year lease together!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and we have lived together for 4 of those years. We have been talking about marriage for the last 3 years (it was mostly me asking when we were going to get engaged). I boldly stated that two ...
A. 11 January 2011: I say go....only commitment you are going to see is from a wedding ring which you should of gotten first then live with someone...... (read in full...)
Partner of 11 years won't live with me.
Q. I've had the same partner for more than eleven years now. He asked me to marry him (ring included) six months into our relationship and I happyily accepted. We lived together for a brief period but for the past 6 years we have lived apart. He ...
A. 11 January 2011: Okay I don't know where you been this whole entire relationship but sounds like you have been in the land of Denial. Please do yourself and the world a favor and ditch this guy. He is dragging this out for some reason and its not a good one. He has ... (read in full...)
My fiance is keeps changing his mind on wanting a baby!
Q. Hi I am 18 years old and been with my fiancé for nearly 2 years everything was great. I have always wanted kids as u come from a very big family. In april 2010 we had spoke about having a baby and he agreed to doing so. So the following weekend i ...
A. 9 January 2011: Lord take a hint, if a person changes they mind like that then its best to leave the issue alone...but while you guys were dating before you got engaged, shouldnt you have dicussed that upfront? Shouldnt you have known from the beginning if this ... (read in full...)
It's been 10 days after our date and my neighbor still hasn't called!
Q. I asked my neighbor out for drinks because I was noticing him looking at me and saying hi. I asked him out because he seemed shy and I was becoming impatient plus Xmas and new years were approaching. I didn't know if he was excited about the date ...
A. 9 January 2011: Do not push your self on this man, if he wants to contact you he will. Maybe he didnt like what happened when you guys went out did you ever think about that? But you and I both know if a man hasn't called or text in about ten days after a date then ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get past a 3rd date?
Q. I have been trying to date for a good 6 years now and no one has ever showed an interest in staying with me past a third date or so. I am 28 years old and have been rated an "8" on a looks scale from 1-10. I make close to 6 figures in a good ...
A. 8 January 2011: Well it seems you have looks and the money the only thing is you lack personality and interest. Confidence is sexy, A good looking man is sexy, a screwed up personality is not sexy.Where are you going on your dates? Are you bringing sex up too soon? ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble finding a female that wants me and not cheat on me what do I do?
Q. im having trouble finding a girl that wants to be with me for me and not want to cheat on me all the time every girl but one has cheated on me . . . i need hints and tips on relationships from females and males! please help me...
A. 8 January 2011: Do a mind check......Do you meet the same girls all the time?...If you meeting the same kind then its time to change it up. Then look at what are you doing to cause them to cheat on you. Hot girls will cheat if you can't interest them. So look at ... (read in full...)
I slept with a prostitute and now feel regret
Q. OMG.I slept with a prstitute and I was so sexed up and curious I asked if I could have a look at her pussy.part the lips and look in between. she consented and I was so overwelmed, impulsively I kissed her there. just a peck. I didn't lick or put my ...
A. 8 January 2011: The only reason you went to that kind of trash is because either you lonely or your wife/gf is not giving you no sex. Well anyway sleeping with those kind of women only bring disease and babies. If you want the world to know you got a woman on the ... (read in full...)
I have fallen out of love with my wife
Q. Hi. I really need some help.I've been married for 3 years now but have been with my wife for almost 9 years.we Were high school sweethearts not so much anymore. we have a 6 year old daughter That we had when I was 19 and a 4 month old.we fight alot ...
A. 8 January 2011: Do your wife and the world a favor and don't drag this out if you have fallen out of love...but since you didnt try to even reconcile or communicate how you felt about your marriage and you have already started cheating really there is nothing left ... (read in full...)
I'm so terrified of getting pregnant it's ruining my sex life
Q. Ever since i've become sexually active, (about 2 years) i have had a huge "phobia" i guess you could call it, of getting pregnant. I'm on birth control and take it like i'm supposed to but once i have the 7 day break to have my period, i get ex...
A. 8 January 2011: save your self some headache and get the shot.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't know how to show affection, but the other guy does!
Q. I have a problem I have been married for 6 yrs and have not been in love going on 5. I think I married him for all the wrong reasons but I do love him very much. But here is the thing I met someone else and he is 12 yrs younger than me and I have ...
A. 7 January 2011: Sweetie ...come close to the screen ....mm closer.....ummm get a divorce!!! dont sit there and drag your husband around and cheat on him. that is so much disrespect...dont be a whore be a lady and admit its over and done...and move on with your ... (read in full...)
I love her but I'm afraid we're at a dead end
Q. Weve been dating/going out for about a year and a half now, at the start, it was great, now there is no spark between us. A few weeks ago she said im not as happy as i was when we first started going out (in general) Yet i dont feel like i have ...
A. 7 January 2011: Baby you still young its okay if you guys are not in love no more..... you will grow and move...on its a part of life...women will come and go until your true love comes walking down the street. If she has fallen out of love with you ....then tell ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to lose weight!
Q. Help! My boyfriend has a problem with my weight. I think I'm pretty hot though, and not overweight at all. I am 5'6 and weigh 132 lbs. His problem is, I've gained weight since we've been together. When we first met, I was a professional dancer and ...
A. 7 January 2011: oooooo girl you can't be serious..no way .....leave his trifflin butt and don't pick up the phone.....as you grow and get older you not going to tolerate ignorance so dont even let this guy cloud your mind. You are perfect the way you are.....if you ... (read in full...)
Does this count as sex?
Q. so first off my boyfriend and i have never had sex. okay two nights ago my boyfriend and i were messing around on the couch (like he was rubbing himself on me but not going in) and he kind of slipped and went in maybe an inch or so but n...
A. 6 January 2011: girl i think you just almost got pregnant....dont play with your body like that........if he sticks it in and you say no....then he will be mad and take it from you .....so dont waste your life or time with this guy its not worth getting pregnant or ... (read in full...)
He's been seeing me since October, but he told me not to tell anyone. Why is he doing this?
Q. A guy and I have been talking for a while at school, he always sits by me, and smiles when he sees me. but he won't admit to his friends that he likes me. i don't know why, and it's not like i'm just somebody to stay away from, he told me to not tell...
A. 6 January 2011: it sounds like he is either using you for something or that he is embarrased by you...so take a hint or clue and leave this guy alone its not worth it...trust me....you should be more confident and aggressive not to let this guy walk on you like ... (read in full...)
Why is it that these guys love me at the beginning but always end up breaking up with me for another girl?
Q. hi, so recently for the second time in a year the guy i was with decided to break it off because they were interested in another girl. they both claimed that they loved me then suddenly (out of the blue) it just stopped. both relationships were long ...
A. 6 January 2011: well look around and check yourself...maybe you too clingly and being young he probably just seen another cute girl and left you. its not like you married to this person ...you are young boys come and go...and you will see that when you get ... (read in full...)
What motivates a man to say "I love you"?
Q. Hey, sorry if this question sounds stupid. I'd like your advice on guy's motives for saying I love you. I've been with my bf 5 months, he's great-caring, kind, funny, sexy, intelligent, thoughtful. He told me last week that he loves me, and said ...
A. 6 January 2011: ummm sex does...lol....come on ...u knew that........ (read in full...)
Can an online romance ever turn from friend to lover?
Q. I recently met someone online who pursued me like crazy for about a month, we had a great mental connection as he could even finish my sentences for me. Well before meeting we ended up having virtual sex online. Just describing what ...
A. 6 January 2011: I have been online for ever and all I can tell you is 86 percent of all people you talk to online are fakes and phoneis..these people waste your time with false promises and crazy ideas....and wild fantasies...If you love yourself...just go out and ... (read in full...)
How do I move up the social ladder when I'm at the way bottom?
Q. I need some serious help here. I'm 17 yrs old, a junior in high school and I have never been on a date or kissed in my entire life. I don't know anything about boys. Also, I'm a "social outcast". I don't have any let's hang out friends. I spend my ...
A. 6 January 2011: What come on .....Get out the box you in and be you... Embrace what makes you different and find people who have similar interests........kids are so weak now, its crazy ..... be you own trendsetter...you dont have to go around looking for ... (read in full...)
I don't know if hes only using me for my body.
Q. I like this guy hes 17 and im 15 he kissed me, and felt me up the other day and wanted to go further, this does not suprise me because we have talked about going further. But i didnt, i just didnt feel as if we were ready to take that step. Later we ...
A. 6 January 2011: Wow ....don't do anything with him..... you will have lots of guys your whole life trying to get to your goodies......dont let this jerk ..be the first ....... wait .....you will see what i mean later in life....or you will end up pregnant ...and ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from wanting to be with or be in contact with my boyfriend all the time?
Q. Hey, I'd love your advice on how to stop myself from wanting to be in contact with/actually with my bf every day. We've been together 4 months, started with hanging out together, then he asked me out, and things have been great since then-I wasn't ...
A. 6 January 2011: Well its obvious that you need to find yourself something to do besides chasing your boyfriend. Girls that chase the man never keep the man. So go find your self an activity and build your own life without him always in it. You should be sculpting ... (read in full...)
How can I keep my boyfriend's erection?
Q. Hey, i really really need some help at the moment. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins, we have done everything appart from actuall sexual intercourse. We both love each other and are ready for this. Not long ago we attempted to have sex. Usually, ...
A. 6 January 2011: Glad you are using a condom...but what does he do before he has sex with you? If he drinks or does drugs...then he probably wont be able to stay up very long anyway. Then again he is young so he probably wont be able to maintain this anyway. To me ... (read in full...)
How do I let him know he's the only one?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for about 3 and a half years now. We always talked on the phone and texted each other, and he made it quite clear he liked me. However I wasn't very responsive to his flirty texts and meaningful things he would say ...
A. 6 January 2011: Well ms. shy ....you put him out there and of course if he had feelings it was between you and him and not everybody else....so his natural defense is to outcast you by any means necessary. He opened up to you and tried to get you hints he wanted ... (read in full...)
What should I say or do to help him not be teased and to understand him more?
Q. this guy at school acts like a girl and he dresses like a guy . people teases him and call him gay but i dont think they should. i dont know how to approach him asking is he gay or not and might offend him. i personally think he just enjoy acting ...
A. 6 January 2011: Just become his best defense and be a friend to him because when people talk bad about you, you always need a friend for comfort. So just be that good friend that I know you are. But you can't change anybody, some people don't like when people are ... (read in full...)
Now I want to kiss her but I don't know what to do and when.
Q. I am 13. I have a girlfriend. I have been in a relationship with her for about 6months. We hug every time we leave each other and occasionally hold hands. We have had a small peck on the lips but that was just because our friends were bugging us so ...
A. 6 January 2011: This is really sweet but you don't want to seem too anxious. So like do a suprise kiss. When you guys are together and close, and just kiss her....or you could do what older guys do ...play hard to get a lil ...or act like you are totally not ... (read in full...)
Screening Your Date
Q. Screening Your Date I run a huge singles based company in Australia, and I find myself counselling clients both male and female consistantly. I am writing this especially for the females. With the speed of life today, marriage breakups are on ...
A. 6 January 2011: I say screen and google your potential date...dont let anything go unoticed and ask lots of questions even embarrasing ones. Ask about family and friends and all that good stuff. If a person can't answer simple questions then it is best to leave ... (read in full...)
Real love can never happen unless you can trust, give, and communicate
Q. You are at work palms all sweaty thinking about tonight and part of you wants to just say,"forget it." Everyday you are falling for him and you know where this is leading. You want so bad to make this work but your past is holding you back. When ...
A. 6 January 2011: Odds , I understand what you are saying but In my ideal world people would reveal their true self and save time. If a girl told you up front this hair isnt mine..and the toe nails on my feet are not mine ..and oh yea im in debt...this would save you ... (read in full...)
I have a disfiguring condition. Will he stay with me?
Q. I feel so confused... Iv been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, and he was my first love, i was his. It feels so right and we both are very much in love. We started dating from when we were at school, i was always quite shy and he was loud..and ...
A. 4 January 2011: Why would you even question that???? unless you are hiding the condition you have. If he met you the way you are and accepted you then why do you even worry about this. So either he doesn't know or you got more secrets to come out??? Which is it? If ... (read in full...)
Should I believe his phone is still broken and he has no other way of contacting me?
Q. i go on a holiday each year, were each year you see the same people each year and become close for the week there. This year I found myself by the last night getting close to one guy, he spent a lot of time over me and made it very romantic- going ...
A. 4 January 2011: Sweetie, his cell isnt broken or nothing he has another relationship going on. If you feel it then believe it...never ignore your gut feeling. Ask your friends they probably been hinting to you he is a dog for months but you don't listen right? ... (read in full...)
Why sex is important in a Relationship
Q. You can only hold hands for so long and then its time to get down to business. A lot of women serve as the problem with sex in the marriage. The only thing they focus on is the wedding, the family , and not the husband. Its like big poppa comes last ...
A. 4 January 2011: I think the guys just have to be more open and in touch with their passionate side to get what they want out of a woman. Women are such simple romantics it doesnt take a lot to get them wet,hot , and ready *wink*......all it takes is a little ... (read in full...)
What happened to just falling in love?
Q. it used to be about finding your soulmate, whoever they might be, whatever they might be like - blonde, redhead, blue eyed, mixed race, it didnt matter if you loved them. Now days people care more about looks than personality and it bothers me, why ...
A. 3 January 2011: I know wouldnt it be cool if you could tell someone all that is wrong with you and they accept you for who you are and love you unconditionally but for some reason its not like that. I have wanted a relationship for years but no luck. ... (read in full...)
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