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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been friends with a guy for about 3 and a half years now. We always talked on the phone and texted each other, and he made it quite clear he liked me. However I wasn't very responsive to his flirty texts and meaningful things he would say such as I miss you. I would only talk to him like he's my friend ( I am shy i think of him as way more). Something happened in between where a girl i know started saying things that I apparently said about him, she made it out like I claimed he was chasing after me and that i'm playing hard to get etc.. (it was all lies). He went mad and nothing has been the same since. He ignored my calls and texts and told my friend he's moving on. I don't know why he did this but he said he was never interested he never saw me that way. I Finally got the guts to tell him I like him only by a text. He was very surprised and shocked like he couldnt understand this. After this we had a two hour conversation, he finally picked up my call, it was how it used to be. Most recently i sent him a jokey text, and he ended up very angry and called me a fake bitch and told him to leave him alone. These fake comments have been ongoing ever since the incident with the girl, I do not understand why he thinks im fake. He's obviously angry at me. I don't know how to convince him that I've only ever really liked him and i want everything to go back to how it used to be and that I am actually a very sincere person and not fake. Especially after he told me to leave him be.
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reader, Main event  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Wel darling you should always be open to him no secrets make feel he is the only guy in the world dont be scared to kiss him in public if he is wil introduce him to all your friends all in all he should feel he knows you like an open text book.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (6 January 2011):
Very simply, there's no right way to tell him that can convince him; only your actions can truly show that. Maybe, in person rather than over the phone/text, you could sit him down and explain the whole situation to him (much like the paragraph you wrote on here) and hope he believes you.If he still doesn't, then that's on him and its his loss. You can give it a shot, but ultimately you can't choose to convince him, you just have to hope he hears you out and understands.
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reader, lija30 +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Well ms. shy ....you put him out there and of course if he had feelings it was between you and him and not everybody else....so his natural defense is to outcast you by any means necessary. He opened up to you and tried to get you hints he wanted more than friends...and then you give off this attitude like he chasin you so how did you think it was going to turn out...not you out a boyfriend and a friend......See this is how the good ones get away.....you will kick yourself when you get older....the only thing you can do now ..is to let him know you still there for him .....and if he needs you ..you are there for him.......anytime.......and he will come around........you'll see........so the lesson is ...close the would gently and nobody will get hurt...
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