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41-50,
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writes:Hey, I'd love your advice on how to stop myself from wanting to be in contact with/actually with my bf every day. We've been together 4 months, started with hanging out together, then he asked me out, and things have been great since then-I wasn't looking for a relationship, and he's taken me by surprise with his all-round awesomeness:) He recently told me he loves me, and I think I'm falling for him, too. So, the problem is that I really kinda crave his company. The funny thing is, he told me a few weeks ago that he wants me to crave him and to miss him when he's not around. At that point, I was pretty cool about stuff, and just enjoyed his company when I did get to see him, but things have changed a little now...I think maybe the change came after he told me he loved me?So I see him 2-3 times a week usually (we both work crazy shifts), which is good, but I miss him the other days-on those days, I usually wait for him to make contact with me, like by texting me, 'cos I don't want to appear too clingy. But if I see he's been on Facebook or something, I always wish he'd sent me a message or texted me. Stupid, I know. He usually does text me at the start of the day, which makes me smile:) or sometimes I'll text him. I was happy being single before I met him, and am a pretty independent person, and have friends/hobbies/work that I am involved in, so I have plenty of things to occupy me. I'm not sure why I want more frequent contact from him-I trust him, but I wonder if contact is somehow reassuring, like, it kinda reassures me that he's thinking of me from time to time, or that he misses me like I miss him? Or I wonder if he's playing me in some way? I don't think he's done that in previous relationships, but it does worry me-not sure why. I know this all sounds silly, and it's not a big deal and I don't want it to affect our relationship by me talking to him about it, so I guess I'd like some advice on how to not wish for more frequent contact from him. Thanks :)
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reader, Main event  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 K like look please get a hobby cause no guy likes an over protective girlfriend you can call him every once a day just to keep the mystery alive
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reader, lija30  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Well its obvious that you need to find yourself something to do besides chasing your boyfriend. Girls that chase the man never keep the man. So go find your self an activity and build your own life without him always in it. You should be sculpting your future right now ...not chasing some silly boy.....but of course you will learn this later in life...and when you get pregant,4kids, no job , and no college ...then you will kick yourself....for chasing a boy that didnt want too much from you in the first place....*good luck hun*
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