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What happened to just falling in love?

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Article - (2 January 2011) 6 Comments - (Newest, 30 January 2011)
A female Canada age 26-29, partyprincess2011 writes:

it used to be about finding your soulmate, whoever they might be, whatever they might be like - blonde, redhead, blue eyed, mixed race, it didnt matter if you loved them. Now days people care more about looks than personality and it bothers me, why should it matter if someone is not the best looking on the outside if inside they are the most beautiful person in the world? I think people are really judgemental, you see someone reading and they automatically become a geek, someone buying loads for the kids, they become spoilt brats. But when did we inherit the right to go round judging people on first impresssions, yes everyone says that first impressions are the most important, but they shouldmt be because when you first meet someone you dont know whether they are pretty on the inside, that takes time. So all im asking is for you to think before you laberl or judge someone, and think about beauty inside as well as out xx

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A female reader, layla26 United Kingdom +, writes (30 January 2011):

well mabey we can bee picky to like we dont wont a shorter guy than us or stupid,is the stupid choice that we do as a single mather i can fell it first guy i liked after my divorce he flirted and flirted and we got nowhere second at list was true,you got kids,ouch that hurt anyway,mabey same of us dont have soulmate,and then you think adam had eve and if you do pray you migth get one

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A female reader, casey-jane  United Kingdom +, writes (20 January 2011):

casey-jane  agony auntPeople in this day and age do tend to look at a persons appearence before they even consider going out with them, I beleive this is because even if the person is the most beautiful person on the inside, if you dont find them in the least attractive, then there isnt much of an attraction. Many people may disagree with me but i think there needs to be a balance between the two. Everyone has different tastes and intrests, i do beleive there is someone for everybody.

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A female reader, Angela Switzer United States +, writes (9 January 2011):

I agree with everything you have mentioned. Love isnt about being good looking; etc, its about personality and who that person is today. I dislike it when friends of mine both men and women are so judgemental of the opposite sex; it makes me want to vomit. I dont judge anyone I just let my heart and soul do the work. Being patient is what my spiritual ways are today.

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A female reader, Shini United Kingdom +, writes (6 January 2011):

Shini agony aunt"It used to be about..." I don't truly believe that it ever used to be like that, maybe in a fairytale. The really old ones. Actually then again the prince charming loved Cinderella when she was wearing a beautiful gown... her sisters thought she was ugly wearing torn robes. In a way I'd say it's not the new generation suddenly caring about looks and not caring about personality it's that the older generations hid it better.

The world would be a better place if we didn't judge but I know that when people persecuted me for being me it only made me stronger.

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A female reader, lija30 United States +, writes (3 January 2011):

lija30 agony auntI know wouldnt it be cool if you could tell someone all that is wrong with you and they accept you for who you are and love you unconditionally but for some reason its not like that. I have wanted a relationship for years but no luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011):

I completely understand where your coming from.

Take example my past love life: 1st Boyfriend, A jerk to my friends but sweet to me. I had never seen him even to this day.All i cared for was how sweet he was to me.

2nd Boyfriend, I dont even know how to explain.

3rd Boyfriend, Dated for 11 months and i couldnt handle lying for pity anymore.I swore i wouldnt leave him and we'd be forever. I left him.

My current and i hope and pray to every God you can think of he is my last and my only from here on out. Been friends for 5 years.Loved each other for roughly the same time. Id like to just say lol love at first game (ALL LDR)

My point is, If every one would learn to love a single person for who he or she is, we wouldnt have to take sooo much time out of our day to stay "pretty".

I hate how all the teen singers and actors look like best damn thing earth has and a lot of people look at those people and think -OMG I JUST HAVE TO blank blank-

To be honest, i think that if people would take less of caring on looks and more on finding that person that loves them, everyones love life would be in balance.

When I see a 'hot' couple i think. Oh god..are they really in love? Eventually it'll matter more, yknow.

Everyone wants some one to love but everyones trying too hard.

I spent my love life finding my Best Friend in people that i thought i loved.I shouldnt of. I finally put my shovel away and quit digging my hole of trouble.

Xoxo

You cant love if youve never felt it

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