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writes:My boyfriend and I are planning on having sex after 3 years together. We will use Ortho Options Gynol II contraceptive gel and Trojan Warming sensations condoms. My first question is what would the effectiveness of these together be? and secondly are thinner condoms more likely to break? (If I decide to get a different kind) I want to try to make it special for both of us with this aspect of it, so any other suggestions would be wonderful!Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOKAY,
So, I moved my appointment to this week. I've been planning on getting Implanon for a while, so I'm glad I'm doing it. I'm TERRIFIED of pregnancy soooo
I think that'll be good
My boyfriends been great, we waited this long and its fine.
I know sex doesnt equal love, but I think giving him my virginity is special either way because I'm choosing him.
I already love him and he loves me. He's like my best friend. We do other stuff and talk about everything so sex wont change that :)
He's involved and hes going with me to my appointment just because he's gonna be the one doing stuff with me and he asked to go just to be there.
So I'm happy.
Mostly just curious
What do those stats mean?
What accounts for the 2-3% failure rate? just wondering!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm sorry, I forgot to mention something.
And most people I know just say use a condom and your fine. I have a hormone imbalance (Too much progesterone)
So most birth control I think wont work.
Does any one know anything about this?
Just wondering
And actually I was the one who wanted to wait, he respects that, and I decided I want to with not even suggestion from him.
I think I could wait but I wont be seeing him for a while, and I'm actually mostly just curious now (Since I managed to move my appointment for implanon to next week)
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 If you have waited 3 years then one more month is not going to make much difference! Just wait the extra month - birth control is so reliable and really you should not be having sex without it, so just wait one more month and you will be fine.
The problem with the effectiveness of the gel and the condoms is that if you put the condom on incorrectly then it could slide off/break. Or the condom could even break without you knowing during sex and the sperm could leak out.
The only way you can be 99.9% (no contraception is 100% effective) certain of not catching an STD and not getting pregnant is to use birth control and a condom - simple as that. No other combination is as effective as the combination of a condom and birth control.
My advice - wait one more month and then you will be as safe as you possibly can be.
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reader, lija30 +, writes (21 January 2011):
 oh come on if you waited three years..you can wait one more month for your appoinment for proper birth control...dont take a chance just because he horny ...or you feel pressured...wait......you know what.....you wont be the only girl in this guys life......so please dont think this will be forever.........dont have sex...just to have it....take precautions get on the pill or shot......if you going to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never said it was just because we were together for 3 years.
Thanks though :)
I am planning on getting Implanon, but I could not get an appointment until next month so in the mean time would this be ok?
I heard that spermicidal gel and condoms could be just as effective as the pill? The gel is meant for use with condoms
Anyone who uses only condoms and what is the effectiveness of this? Just wondering!
Thanks!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (20 January 2011):
Now I'm not sure about the gel - the condoms should be fine but ALL condoms can break, and if they are not put on properly can be ineffective. However they should ALWAYS be used to prevent STD's.
Check that this gel is a water based gel (that is the only type of lubricant that works with condoms, any other type destroys the condom and stops it working).
The only real way to prevent pregnancy and STD's is to use 2 methods of contraception:
1. Birth control - this is very effective (if taken properly) at preventing pregnancy. There are many forms, including the pill, the contracpetive injection, an IUD....and many more. Visit your doctor and they will find the best one for you.
2. Condoms. These are the only way to prevent STD's.
It is great that you are planning this so carefully, but to be honest I think the gel is a little unnecessary and could actually stop the condom working (depending on its ingredients).
The best thing you can do is visit your doctor and get birth control sorted out, and then use a condom too. That way you will be nearly 100% covered and unless you do something drastically wrong (like put the condom on wrong or forget to take a pill etc) then they will work together perfectly.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): I don't know about the gel and I don't know about thinner condoms breaking more often, but I do know using two forms of birth control is definitely recommended. Always. Unless you're wanting to have a baby, which I doubt you are since you're concerned about the contraceptive. I would suggest at some point going on the pill and using condoms. It's probably your best option. But congratulations for not giving in too soon and waiting until you felt it was the right time. I wish you two the best!
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Thinner condoms do break easier, but trust, even using just a plain old nothin special regular condom will be fine. You don't need warming or ribs or anything like that to make it special. It's sex! With someone you love! it's already special and going to feel really good, just because of that. Plus, often the fancy types of condoms, like ribbed and thin, break much easier.
I'd grab the pill if you're going to be having sex regularly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): Of course, you will do the right thing. Right?
Wear the damn condom.
We can't tell if you are pregnant, you have to buy a test and follow the instructions.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Thinner can obviously break more often; which is a factor in effectiveness. There are statistics on the net for ideal contraception use and it's actual efficacy under "normal" use - and these statistics are going to vary!!!!
Don't do lambskin until you are married - they are the best for sensation but they aren't protection against HIV. Good for you for taking this seriously and taking charge of your life by using 2 forms of birth control.
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reader, lija30 +, writes (20 January 2011):
girl dont be silly get real birth control....a shot..preferably ....and why you having sex with this guy just because of three years? Think about it ...and watch MTV teen mom...and tell me you still want to take the chance of getting pregnant......just answer me that....and ill leave it alone.
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