How can I get my husband to masturbatein front of me
Q. How can I get my husband to masterbate in front of me. Hes gotten more comfortable with the idea and will now do it for a like 30 seconds then he stops and we have sex...but I want him to do it untill he finishes so I can see him climax and his c...
A. 16 February 2021: Tell him you want to do it together. It can be very exciting for the both of you. If you are interesting enough in your part of this partnership, he will have an orgasm and so too can you.
I do not see anything at all wrong with you asking f... (read in full...)
My husband's small penis doesn't satisfy me
Q. I have been married for 7 years and 2mths. I love my husband, but as of lately, the size of his penis bothers me. In fact, for quite sometime I wished he had a larger penis. He has been the only man I have ever had sex with, he makes me orgasm ...
A. 5 February 2021: You’ve been married 7 years. Unless you’re willing to end it or are willing for things to stay the same, things need to change. If you watch porn together, ask him to recreate the foreplay in the video. You might start with some that have finger... (read in full...)
My boyfriend rarely will perform oral sex and when he does he's terrible at it
Q. Hey everyone! Can we talk oral for a hot minute? I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, we’re very much in love and have a very healthy sex life. However I can count the times he’s gone down on me on my hands, and each time is because ...
A. 26 January 2021: The fact that you praise him for lazy oral sex is interesting. I’m wondering if you praising him for minimal effort reinforces it. You might be able to cajole him into it and it might be more difficult than that. First you need to know yourself on ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is lying to me about something so inconsequential but because she's lying I want to end things
Q. Hi, This feels so stupid but please read the whole thing. I dislike social media and it annoys me that its done this however it has caused an issue for my relationship. Through out the relationship my girlfriend of 7 months has mentioned the na...
A. 20 January 2021: You’ve gotten some good advice in here and I will just reinforce some of it.
She kind of slipped up by saying that something was wrong that she was also doing. Basically, it would hurt her feelings, if a guy she was dating was online friends ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife close her eyes during anal sex?
Q. I have noticed that my wife closes her eyes during anal sex. They are open during vaginal sex. I don't think it's because she hates anal because she agrees to it, and often has an orgasm a few minutes after anal, when we have switched to something ...
A. 16 January 2021: I’m going with the advice of others that you should ask her.
Contrary to what some others have said, some women like that a lot. I’m a male that doesn’t care for that type of sex but married someone that likes it a lot. Even though it isn’t so... (read in full...)
He earns three times more but wants to split the bills 50/50
Q. my boyfriend has recently asked me to move in with him. we had a conversation about our finances and his expectation of what i should contribute to the household expenses. He wants to split everything 50/50. We got into an argument over this because ...
A. 28 April 2018: I'm torn on this. Overall, the agreement is negotiable. If you can't come to terms that you can live with, just don't do it. Having said that, something Fatherly advice said made me think a bit differently and should be factored into th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is all about himself during sex, but never about me.
Q. Hello, I was hoping I could ask for some help regarding my sex life. I have a wonderful 2 year relationship with my boyfriend. Genuinely feel like I've found the one for me, I think he's amazing. However, he's the first person I've slept with...
A. 21 April 2018: In the first place, when you were a bit angry and frustrated, you lashed out. No one wants to know they weren't good for the other in bed, so now his feelings are hurt. In the second, you're a grown woman. Get what you need. Make him lick yo... (read in full...)
What do my husband's cuckolding fantasies mean?
Q. My husband has lots of cuckholding fantasies and imagines watching me with other men. I have told him this will remain fantasy as I'll never do this in real life so that's not my question here My question is whether I should be worried that he ...
A. 14 April 2018: It's not that uncommon a fantasy as you can read in this article. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/what-secret-male-sexual-fantasy-is-surprisingly-common A quote from the article states, "As so many other autho... (read in full...)
I feel like I am being pressured into having sex.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together about 2 years now, at first we were having sex all the time whenever possible, as it usually is when youre with someone new. Now it has calmed down a bit and I am completely okay with that but he is not. Its ...
A. 31 March 2018: As others have pointed out, you do not mention the frequency that he desires and the frequency you desire. It's my opinion that, in general, men desire sex more often. Is there a possibility of compromise here or is the relationship broken? ... (read in full...)
Why does he only stay hard in certain acts?
Q. Why does my boyfriend only stay hard if I give him a blow job or give him a hand job?? ...
A. 11 March 2018: I assume you imply that his dick doesn't stay hard when you have intercourse. Please ignore the advice that postulates something is wrong with your lady parts. It's pure BS. Alcohol, tobacco and drugs, both prescribed and illegal, can ... (read in full...)
Married two months and not enjoying it!
Q. I have a real problem.. I got married to a man 2 months ago but I'm. Not enjoying being married. We have become boring and don't have much to talk about anymore. Everytime I suggest doing something fun or exciting he makes an excuse and we end up ...
A. 11 March 2018: The first year is the hardest and that never seems to change. Two months is not enough time to get upset. Usually, it gets a lot better. For starters, you don't have to do everything together. Do things with friends and have other interests.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is unemotional and giving me the silent treatment!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm living with my bf of 3 years , and he is nice most of the times, but he is very unemotional and practical and had not told me he loves me yet, though I said couple of times and no response So I got pregnant , we both agreed it...
A. 11 March 2018: Wow, you are in a very bad situation and it's time to try to get out of it. After three years and he cannot even profess love says a lot.
There is indeed someone better for you other there and you won't find him while being with this guy. I ... (read in full...)
Is something wrong with me that I’m aroused by evidence of my wife’s cheating?
Q. I found out that my wife reconnected with a former boyfriend after 28 years via email. They were exchanging email and vivid sexual chats. When I confronted her, she said that it was just imagination and nothing. Although she apologised, she refuses ...
A. 11 March 2018: There are many that feel the way that you do. I'm one of them and have always been this was from as long as I can remember. Is it a seed planted or a natural inclination? I sure don't know. Back before even being a teen, I stumbled onto so... (read in full...)
I’m losing hope for finding my match!
Q. It's been almost about 10 months since my ex and I broke up. It was the most crushing, devastating breakup I'd ever had. I thought we were in love and meant to be. Since then, I've dated around. My past few attempts have all ended badly. Since our...
A. 11 March 2018: Ha, I still regret a breakup from nearly 40 years ago. It happens. There has been great happiness since then and more than likely I'm over romanticizing the lost relationship.
You are youuuuunnnnggg, with most your life in front of you. Before ... (read in full...)
Do I try to Facebook this aquaintance from my past? Or is it really awkward or inappropriate?
Q. Yesterday when cleaning.. iv found some old pics of me and my old dance teacher,he was a gay guy we got on well. I was wondering..should I friend request him on Facebook? I’m female and I was not attracted to him!! Im also gay and ...
A. 11 March 2018: Sure, of course it's okay. I'm an introvert that leans toward being anti social. Recently, I've been messaging people that I went to high school with saying, hey, remember me?, and then becoming facebook friends with them.
You can do this too... (read in full...)
I keep getting erections around this school friend!
Q. I attend an all boy high school. I am a junior and always consider myself straight. The problem is that I keep on getting an erection around one of my friends at school. I don't know why I get an erection around him when I am straight and I f...
A. 25 February 2018: I remember being your age. The more you didn't want an erection, the more likely it was to happen.
Then on top of that, erections would come at the worst time for no reason.
I'm a long way from 16-17. As much as I hated the random erect... (read in full...)
I can’t shake the things he told me! Am I being unreasonable and paranoid or is he lying?
Q. So from a very young age of around 13 I was always strongly attracted to my teacher he was a lot older than me but there was just something. Fast forward 7 years and we start speaking every day problem is he’s married. At first we talked very ...
A. 25 February 2018: Rule 1. Don't screw other women's husbands. It doesn't matter if they don't get along, or if they're separated or if he has filed for divorce. Until there is a divorce decree, hands off.
This man is not your friend. He is a predator that hit... (read in full...)
Is it possible to still be a rebound if a guy left his ex to be with you?
Q. Is it possible to still be a rebound if a guy left his ex to be with you? My boyfriend and his ex broke up after she found out about us on Facebook. He’s with me now but he still entertains his ex and is still in contact with her....
A. 21 February 2018: If he cheated to be with you, he'll probably cheat on you. Maybe it will work out. Maybe it won't. Relationships that started in a sordid manner may not end well either.
He left her for you and he may well leave you for her.... (read in full...)
Can I come out of the closet without answering anybody's questions about my sexuality?
Q. I am unsure about my sexuality but right now I think I want to identify as gay. I just now realised that I do not I have a problem with coming out of the closest instead I have a problem with answering the endless questions people will have once I ...
A. 21 February 2018: To what end? Apparently your past relationships have not gone well. Why then do you feel a need to announce your sexuality? Particularly since it is something you are not sure about. How specifically is it you want to come out? "I think I'm gay ... (read in full...)
How soon should I contact her for a 2nd date after a great first date?
Q. Hi , I'm a single professional guy of age 40. I met a cute/beautiful woman ( she is about 37) at a food meetup about 3 weeks back ( it was a group setting) I was sitting diagonally across he and we chatted quite a bit. I was definitely interest...
A. 21 February 2018: She may be a very busy woman which might explain why it took her several hours to text you back. Respect that and maybe even mention that you know she is busy.
Boom, just text her again and tell her how much you enjoyed the last get together... (read in full...)
Unrequited love for a sometimes FWB and I'm feeling second best
Q. I’ve been seeing this guy for just over nine months. When we first met I fell in love with him, and at first it was reciprocated. I am still in love with him, however his feelings have changed and we have moved to more of a situation where we are ...
A. 21 February 2018: I dated a girl for two years that I never had any serious feelings for. She was a great person and awesome in bed but the chemistry just wasn't right.
Eventually, I walked away because otherwise, she would be there for whatever crumbs I spared... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lack of initiative worries me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2+ years. I am his first serious relationship. Overall we have a good, caring, fun relationship. We are generally compatible in personality and values. He is caring, responsible and of good characte...
A. 21 February 2018: There is no reason you can't lead the relationship. In many marriages, it is the woman that does. If you're going to be bitter about what he is, that man needs to run.
Usually, when you meet and fall in love with a person, at that point, t... (read in full...)
My husband said he would have broken up with me if we weren't married
Q. I had a huge fight with my husband - married 1.5 years but toegthwr 5 years. He just told me that he would be broken up with me if we werent married. I asked him if he really means it and he said yes. Im 6 weeks pregnant so he calls me up just...
A. 21 February 2018: I don't know what the fight was about but a 6 week pregnant woman can be a challenge and that's really being nice about it. A 6 month pregnant woman is awesome but six weeks, well not so much.
There were times when my wife was in early stages o... (read in full...)
I treated her good but she ghosted me, I still want her back.
Q. Asking for advice,over a year ago, my ex girlfriend ghost me, no contact since, she didn't even say goodbye,I didn't do anything wrong, but treat her special,what I am asking is ,would it be stupid, in my part to try to contact her,I know every one ...
A. 20 February 2018: Don't waste time chasing someone that does not want you. Pick yourself up and get on with your life.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't understand how important my sister is to me.
Q. My husband recently lost his job. I told my sister immediately. My husband is now angry at me and said I should have asked if he wants me to make it public. I told him he cannot control me and that I share everything with my sister and also that my ...
A. 20 February 2018: You've embarrassed him and hurt his feelings. At the end of your post, you said, "How do I make him understand that my sister is the most important person to me". That probably hurts too. Do you ever remember replying to the affirmative to s... (read in full...)
My partner cheated on me, can we make it work?
Q. My question is simple. This is something I'm trying so hard to move past, for around the last 6 months now. I feel like I have progressed, but in real baby steps! Is it really possible to forgive and continue a relationship with someone who chea...
A. 20 February 2018: I couldn't the first time a girl cheated on me. We tried to work it out but I was too hurt and the relationship was spoiled. The second time a girl did it, I got over it pretty well. I was more open sexually. Then almost exactly a year l... (read in full...)
My husband is a hopeless cook who thinks he is great
Q. My husband likes to cook but is bad at it. I am a great cook since I’ve worked in the restaurant industry for ten years. I want to teach him and have him start by helping me chop the vegetables and take care of the kitchen first before doing the ...
A. 20 February 2018: Nothing I can add to the barrage but, Dear Miss Kitty, (Honiepie) Please do not inflict on a cooking instructor and a class, this anal retentive woman. Please withdraw your suggestion they attend a cooking class together. It is guaranteed not to ... (read in full...)
Is it ever okay to date a mates ex?
Q. Okay so there is this guy I work with (X) and I've always found him attractive but he dated one of the girls I work with (Y) that I'm mates with. I'm not best buds with her but we're pretty close. I've always seen him as off limits as he's her ex.. ...
A. 20 February 2018: Run away. Be true to your friend and don't date anyone where you work.
All guys can be nice in the beginning but that doesn't tell you how he might be in a year. He isn't the only good guy in the world. Stop acting like this is your only cha... (read in full...)
I feel jealous and insecure around my 10 years younger girlfriend
Q. I'm dating my girlfriend for almost 3 months, she's ten years younger, very sweet and caring, but there is a few issues that I'd like to share. She's still in college, sometimes I get worried and jealous about other guys hitting on her! She u...
A. 20 February 2018: Your insecurity is going to kill this relationship. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. 10 years difference at that age is huge and given what you've said, is unlikely to work out.
Maybe you should walk away before you're any more invested... (read in full...)
My husband is my mother’s suspect because he’s a recovering addict!
Q. My husband is a recovering addict. We live with my family at the moment and yesterday my mom wanted me to check the pockets of my husbands jeans because she found that she’s missing 4 pills. This is the 3rd time in the past couple months that she...
A. 20 February 2018: Your mom probably knows how many pills she had. Do you wonder where they went?
Since he has a new job, the best solution is to move out of Mom's house. Quite honestly and I know this might seem harsh, if I lived with an addict, I would have a h... (read in full...)
Why did he block me?
Q. There was a person who messaged me on this app I'm using, he was the first person i spoke to on this app anyway i thought were friends (we talk a lot and joke around) anyway today i said hi to him then he goes like I'm not going to speak to you ...
A. 20 February 2018: As others have pointed out, you don't need this guy. The entire situation sounds peculiar. Just walk away and move on. ... (read in full...)
I love him, but his deception can’t go on!
Q. Hi Aunts! I'm 29 years old and in an alleged relationship with a married man for the last one and a half year. It wasn't intended to happen cause we were only friends, but developed nonetheless. At first, he kept his marital status a secret from me....
A. 20 February 2018: First, stop screwing other women's husbands. As soon as you knew he was married, you should have stopped, but it's not too late.
You've tied yourself to someone that legally and morally should not be available. Tell him it's finished and if h... (read in full...)
Too invested after a few dates?
Q. I’ve been on five dates with a guy. We slept together on three of the dates. We definitely fancied each other, but during date number four he said that his long term goal is to work away. I’ve been in a relationship in the past with someone who ...
A. 20 February 2018: Since you don't see yourself moving in the future, you have indeed done the right thing. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes home goes out of contact for hours and doesn't get it that it bothers me
Q. Im frustrated with my bf. Hes been staying over at my apartment for almost the entire year. I go to med school about 5 hrs from where his dad lives. I like that he lives with me and we dont have many issues, except for every single time he goes ...
A. 20 February 2018: Phones die. It really happens. I would not likely break up over this. Personally, I would call his family and tell them you are concerned because he said he was going to be back and wasn't.
We joke that my wife's phones are for outgoing... (read in full...)
I want my parents to allow me to date
Q. Hi all, I'll just start off by giving a little information about myself. I am 19 years old and just started my second semester in university. I come from a Chinese family where my parents are protective and always seem quite paranoid whenever I go ...
A. 20 February 2018: Looks like you're off to a good start by telling them what you are doing. I'm unfamiliar with your families culture but you've grown up in a different culture. You need to work your way, gently, into getting your parents to understand that. I gr... (read in full...)
Do I ask a friend to ask another friend why he's ignoring me?
Q. I feel silly asking this, but here goes: I have a friend, whom I'll call A, who I was friends with for decades. Over the last few years something has been up -- he has been avoiding me, and doesn't e-mail or call me. We have a mutual friend, ...
A. 20 February 2018: No, don't involve a friend. High School is long behind you and this is a high school activity.
Just contact the guy and say, "how's it going", etc. If he shows little or no interest, you knowing why probably isn't important to him. Move on.... (read in full...)
Is it safe to wear a butt plug for a long period of time?
Q. I have a new BF and he suggested we try anal sex. I have never done this before and so he said it wont hurt if I either relax or i could prepare myself by waring what he called a Butt Plug as this would make intercourse easier. Is it alright /safe ...
A. 20 February 2018: Some women really like anal sex but most don't. Unless he's unusually large, with patience and lubricant, (astroglide is your friend, they say you can park a car in a doghouse with that stuff), it will work and you can give it a try. You can t... (read in full...)
I want to be his girlfriend..not his FWB
Q. Am in a fwb situation..we are monogamous with each other..he tells me he loves me..I tell him that too.. But he says he does not want a girlfriend..he did take me out on valentines day..but next morning referred to me as his fuck buddy...I hate t...
A. 20 February 2018: If you want a relationship in your life, have one. Either with him or someone else.
Tell him it's either time to piss or get off the pot. You're not going to find anyone else while rocking and rolling in bed with this guy. Frankly even if ... (read in full...)
On our third date I felt like the third wheel! Am I being unreasonable?
Q. I went out with this gent twice. First was a coffee date; good times he was civil we got along well. Mutual attraction so on so forth. Second date went out to dinner. We again got along well. HOWEVER he did mention more then once other girls he...
A. 20 February 2018: It's been three dates. Either try to keep dating or walk away. At three dates, it doesn't matter.
I'm not sure I understand the dynamics of why he is mad. Is it because you left? Again, it doesn't matter, it's only been three dates.... (read in full...)
Are we wrong for seeing each other? Or is it just a complex situation?
Q. My dad had been going out with this girl, I met her friend's son, and instantly developed a crush on him which carried on through the years. My dad ended up dumping the girl he was with and getting with her friend, which was the mother of the boy I ...
A. 20 February 2018: It's going to be ugly if you break up. Then you will see each other at family occasions. Otherwise, like you said, you are both adults and frankly, there is nothing immoral about it. ... (read in full...)
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