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writes:I attend an all boy high school. I am a junior and always consider myself straight. The problem is that I keep on getting an erection around one of my friends at school. I don't know why I get an erection around him when I am straight and I find it very embarrassing. Why would I keep on getting erections when I am around him? How do I stop myself from getting erections around him?
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reader, liddel +, writes (25 February 2018):
I remember being your age. The more you didn't want an erection, the more likely it was to happen.
Then on top of that, erections would come at the worst time for no reason.
I'm a long way from 16-17. As much as I hated the random erections, I miss them now. It's a part of being young. You have no idea how quick it is from 25 to 55. Just cover and enjoy you life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2018): It's just teenage hormones. It's normal, nobody shares that sort of information; but it just happens. There are no girls around; so it's going to happen sooner or later anyway.
Sometimes guys get boy-crushes; but at your age there's not really anything to worry about, because you grow out of it.
If the guy is sort of effeminate or has girlish features; your mind will associate with a girl. It doesn't even have to be that, you're super-charged with hormones and they are constantly rushing through your mind and body.
Usually when you feel one coming-on, think of something that's a total turn-off. Something gross, or close your eyes and visualize the ugliest person you know. If that friend wasn't around at all, it's going to happen. Spontaneous boners happen to guys all the time for no reason at all!
Just change your thoughts and look another direction until your mind shifts thoughts. Everything's cool, you've got nothing to worry about.
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (24 February 2018):
 Well it depends. What exactly are you trying to confirm by coming here and asking this question? The science or your sexuality?Unlike having random erections which tends to happen often as a teenager, you're having erections around a specific person.According to www.webmd.com, "An erection starts in your brain. Something you saw, felt, smelled, heard, or thought makes your nerves send chemical messages to the blood vessels in your penis."Something as simple as this guy's cologne could be the real culprit here. However, If you're freaking out about your sexuality then you need to be honest with yourself and ensure you're not try to mentally block any form of attraction you have to this boy. It could even be sub-conscience. If this boy caught you alone and attempted to kiss you would you be open to it? Would you be offended by it? Would you not be sure how you feel? If you can truly say that being physical in any way with this boy would horrify you and be a complete turn off then it's probably nothing. It could even be the opposite where you think you think you would like it but end up hating every single minute of it if you got the chance. Honesty with yourself is key.The human mind and body can be a tricky thing especially at your age. If you don't think your sexuality doesn't fit in here then it's probably just your body going haywire like any other normal teenager.All the best.
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reader, Allumeuse  +, writes (24 February 2018):
Seriously man, it just happens, you have enough hormones coursing through you veins right now to turn a mermaid male. You will just get random erection and now you've randomly done it a couple of times when this friend is around you have started over thinking it. I used to get a hard on sitting on the bus, I'm definitely not sexually attracted to buses so it must have been something else.
Sexuality comes from the head, not the pants. You'd know if you were attracted to your friend, you'd want to see them, think about them all the time. If this is the case then perhaps your sexuality isn't as clearcut as you think. If it is just a case of unfortunate pavlovian sexual conditioning then just think of something distasteful when it starts to happen- a naked parent, your dog dying are examples, that should make it pretty short lived.
Adolescence is tough, your body can betray you, your feelings can't be trusted- try to have a sense of humour about it- when you're forty the torrents of hormones and emotions will be few and far between and you might even miss them. Good luck.
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