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writes:My dad had been going out with this girl, I met her friend's son, and instantly developed a crush on him which carried on through the years. My dad ended up dumping the girl he was with and getting with her friend, which was the mother of the boy I liked (yikes). Throughout the years of them being together this boy and I never viewed eachother as family because we both had undeniable feelings for eachother. I ended up leaving the picture for about 5 years, my dad and his mom ended up getting married, and he ended up being a really good man but never really dated. 5 years later I started coming back around and instantly remembered all of the feelings I had for him, little did I know he was falling in love with me too. One night as we were hanging out he confessed he hated that our parents were together because he had feelings for me. Both of us being adults, decided to pursue a relationship regardless of the circumstance. We informed my father and his mother and they were caught by surprise but understood nonetheless. We are still together and happier than imaginable. My question is, is this in any way wrong of us? Or is it just a complex situation?
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reader, liddel +, writes (20 February 2018):
It's going to be ugly if you break up. Then you will see each other at family occasions. Otherwise, like you said, you are both adults and frankly, there is nothing immoral about it.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (20 February 2018):
I have a second cousin who was courted by a much older fellow (both were teachers at the same school). They got married and then her brother (about the same age as her) married the fellow's daughter. All seem to be happy some 25 to 30 years later. Both couples now have great grown-up kids of their own.
Your situation may be a little different (not really complex) but it is nothing to be ashamed of. You are "happier than imaginable." What can be better than that? I think it makes a cute story. And thank goodness your parents are OK with it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 February 2018):
 I think it's just a really messy situation but legally I don't think there is an issue here.
IS there anything "wrong" in it? I think if you two had been step-siblings and grew up together it would be kind of gross. (If I am to be honest) but since you didn't grow up together, your parents just dated and got married I don't really see the big deal.
Does it seem complicated? Yes.
Does it seem a bit odd? Yes. Given the MILLIONS of available partner out there, it's a little odd to me that you two focus on someone who is your parents partner's child. But it happens.
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