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writes:I have a new BF and he suggested we try anal sex. I have never done this before and so he said it wont hurt if I either relax or i could prepare myself by waring what he called a Butt Plug as this would make intercourse easier. Is it alright /safe to ware this for long periods of time or can they cause injuries. Thanks
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reader, liddel +, writes (20 February 2018):
Some women really like anal sex but most don't. Unless he's unusually large, with patience and lubricant, (astroglide is your friend, they say you can park a car in a doghouse with that stuff), it will work and you can give it a try. You can try it with fingers first and get an idea if it brings you any pleasure. You can use smaller toys but make sure that it has something to stop it from going all the way in. Like if it's a dildo, it needs to have balls attached. If you were to use a dildo or vibrator that can go all the way in, there's a possibility it might have to be surgically removed as your large intestine is 5 feet long and can become lodged. With a vagina, those types of toys are easier to fish out as a vagina is limited in depth.Personally, I'm not at all interested in having anything inserted into my backside and would be wary. It may be that this new boyfriend is very interested in ass play and being with him will always involve this. You may well like it. In our younger days, my wife loved this and did it with other boyfriends before me. So from time to time, I would fulfill this desire for her. To me, it was just kind of gross but she really liked it and I've always been willing to do what I could to please a woman. The thought that she liked something that was out of the norm was a turn on but the actual act wasn't a favorite of mine. Keep in mind, that I was just "driving the bus", (or Volkswagen Beetle as it were) and not the recipient.It is a bad idea to go from anal to vaginal without a shower first. If you do, expect some awesome infections and lots of gyno visits. .So, my opinion is he has 8 fingers and two thumbs, presumably. That and lube is where you start. (if he says his fingers are lubed enough from your vagina, bad idea. Insist on lube) If you like the feel of his little finger, the next time you can proceed to a larger finger, all the way to his thumb. In the back of my mind, I see his desire for you to wear a butt plug for hours as a control issue. Neither you nor I know but you might like the fingers and his penis and plugs up your bum but there are plenty of places to start short of having rubber plug up your bum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2018): If yu are comfortable with him haveing sex in there, please make sure no sperm goes into your vigina when he cums.It would be all too easy for him to switch from vigina to anal and you could (if you dont have protection to become pregnant.) If your boyfriend is on the small side then it might not hurt too much but otherwise please make sure to tell hum to go easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2018): Wearing a butt plug will not prepare you for anal sex.Where it would all go is muscle and it would go right back to where it was in the first place.Maybe he has a fetish about you wearing one but no it will not make anal sex more easy not even close.Anal can be very painful.Get some anal numbing cream and make him wear a condom.Trust is important here if you are in pain he must stop..if you think he will not do not do it.It may bleed somewhat as the muscle up in there may tear.Personaly I would never do it my anus was made to poop out of and that is it.Does he watch porn? Butt sex is no way the way it is in porn..alot of porn is faked.Talk to your doctor about the risks with anal tearing you do not want an infection there for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2018): Maybe he could try wearing one first since he has an anus too? Then he can advise you as he’s then had the experience?
PS is he youre age? Cause if he is he’s no sexpert lol.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 February 2018):
 A quick google search yielded MANY MANY results...
http://thehealthybear.com/butt-plug-guide/
That was the first that popped up. Strange for someone your age group to not go straight to google.... but ask random strangers about this.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (18 February 2018):
 "What he called a butt plug" - No, OP, that *is* their ACTUAL name.
Do YOU want to try anal sex? If so, he MUST wear a condom every time, be happy to stop mid-entry and you MUST be able to trust him. Also, lots of lube would be needed, as well as taking things *very* slowly.
Do proper research, not just asking strangers online. Heck, ask a doctor, if need be. However, I can't imagine wearing a butt plug (for longer than a short intimacy session) would be comfortable.
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