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i'm a university student from england (with irish heritage). i'm a good person, i will offer advice here just like with friends in real life, honest and from the heart, without prejudice.
how am i qualified to help people? well, from life experience and not much else, but i guarantee that what i say is what i honestly believe.
i'm 22 and single. i found that fancying my best female friend gets me nowhere even though she knows everything our friendship is going strong. i'm not one for casual sex so i'll offer advice on sex from a conservative point of view, but at the same time i know that it happens and won't judge you for asking about it.
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To fit in, I told some lies. Now, my reputation and confidence is in ruins, at school. Advice?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a problem with school, I no most people my age hate school, I do really well there in my work, but social wise, I'm a nervous wreck. I told a stupid lie in year eight and I'm afraid it's ruined my life even though I thought it ...
A. 15 January 2010: i wouldn't give details of the school over the internet, f the last line is what it sounds like.
everyone seems to dislike you because of the rumours you essentially spread. is it too late to come clean? would that just affect your reputati... (read in full...)
Foreskin problems...any advice?
Q. im 14 almost 15 soon...and uncircumcised want to know is it normal that my penis' foreskin suppose to be hard to pull back...and that if i masturbate..am i suppose to have the foreskin pulled back cos i dunno if its just me scared of pullin it bac...
A. 15 January 2010: i was the same at your age. i gradually eased it back carefully over a long period of time so each time a bit more bell end was showing. keep gently doing that.
if you continue having problems, or any questions then i would see a doctor but for now,... (read in full...)
Has my player of a boyfriend actually changed?
Q. Hello, I'm 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now. I am in my last year at school and I have been with this boy before a few times. He used to be the ultimate player, liar and cheat all in one and I was really hurt. I have bee...
A. 4 January 2010: i think at your age he hasn't got the maturity to change. you are at a very high risk of becoming just another girl he has had sex with. if i were you i would wait before having sex.
give it time, don't commit yourself... yet. can you detect a... (read in full...)
His parents have banned him from going out/seeing me!
Q. My boyfriend's parents have banned him from seeing me, taken his phone off him, and his laptop, which he paid for, and refuse to let him leave the house unless one of the them is with him! He'19!! They hate me and blame me for everything that he ...
A. 4 January 2010: i think there is more to the story than you are telling because it sounds so illogical that a 19 year old would be banned from seeing his gf. we're not nosey but if you have any thoughts on what caused the ban then we can offer better-tailored ... (read in full...)
Do guys really have so many erections in a day?
Q. Your possibly gonna laugh when you read this but i;ve always been curious and i'd rather make myself look stupid on here than in public lol! but is it true that guys really get loads of erections a day some say 5 some say 10 some say more or is i...
A. 4 January 2010: yeah we can get a few erection throughout the day. but we are highly skilled at hiding it, and we hone those skills daily. most of the time we can't help it, it just happens. so yes, if we can't stand up and fail to give a convincing reason, talk to ... (read in full...)
How to make her first time special? (and calm my nerves about it?)
Q. I have been with my gf for 4 months and she rocks my world. Our relationship is great, but we haven't had sex yet. She's a virgin and I'm beyond nervous about it. I lost my virginity when I was 17 and it was a drunken mess. I really want to make ...
A. 3 January 2010: i don't quite buy into this hotel thing. it sounds too predictable, and to me a bit sleazy, although i wouldn't suggest that sleaze is the reason you'd do it.
i think you should let it happen spontaneously, don't plan anything but have a condom i... (read in full...)
We're both virgins but he loses his erection whenever we try to change that!
Q. me and my boyfreind have been together for almost a year now. we really love each other but theres just one problem- we still haven't slept together. We both really want to but whenever we try it just doesn't happen. He looses his erection and can't ...
A. 3 January 2010: i agree with all previous answers about nerves.
you need to get used to being naked around each other, maybe try bit of mutual masturbation first. given time it will be ok, just not yet.
best of luck. relaxation is the key for the two of you.... (read in full...)
She says she loves me to the end of the earth but doesn't want to lose our friendship...
Q. So i have known this girl for most of my life, i met her freshmen year of high school and i am now 21. My problem is that i am confused. I really care about this girl, and she told me recently that she loved me to the ends of the earth after saying ...
A. 3 January 2010: dude! i am in the exact position as you. the girl in question for me knows me well enough, that i was able to tell her absolutely everything, and we're still friends. i risked our friendship by telling her my feelings, but she understood, and we ... (read in full...)
G/f laughed when I told her the size of my penis
Q. I'm 14 and I am with my gf for 2 yrs now. We love each other and O don't think we are going to stop anytime soon. She asked for my penis size wen erected one day so i actually measured it and I got somewhere around 3.7 inches. I told her and well ...
A. 1 January 2010: you're 14. i would say when you're 'fully grown' it'll bigger. hardly any boys are fully grown at 14. your girlfriend should realise that.
if you want to cum slower, take your mind off erotic things once in a while. think about mundane things. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that her ex called her fat?
Q. one of my friends just broke up with their boyfriend, and i was talking to him and he called her fat, do you think i should tell her?...
A. 1 January 2010: it won't achieve anything. it came from her ex - we all make malicious comments about our exes (well, some do). the intention of the comment was probably to hurt her. don't give him the pleasure.... (read in full...)
How long will it take to build up my lasting time again?...
Q. My girlfriend and I just got back together after a 2 month breakup. I haven't had sex since the breakup and only masturbated once or twice. Now that we are having sex again I'm having a hard time controlling the time I last. How long will it take to ...
A. 1 January 2010: play with yourself occasionally!! you'll build up your stamina, nobody likes an early finish (insert work-related joke here).
if you wanted to delay ejaculation, that is possible. you'll feel the thrill of climax without getting the baby gravy an... (read in full...)
He is sweet to me but his friends call me bad names
Q. Helo I'm Chloe. I'm 13. I've got a boyfriend. Me and him have been fine. Getting along perfectly. We have been together for nearly 7 weeks. Not a single argument. But his friends are always calling me spotty and ugly. I do have a major spot pr...
A. 31 December 2009: don't worry about his friends. they are being childish (as they are children). the main thing is that the two of you are happy.... (read in full...)
My lips are very dry and swell.....why?
Q. I'm not sure why, but ever since going on roaccutane 2 years ago (I've been off it for a year), my lips have been incredibly dry. I use blistex/paw paw ointment several times a day and have had pregnazone to try ease swelling. Any ideas?...
A. 27 December 2009: it would be best to see a medical professional rather than ask on here on the off chance someone can help.
wikipedia reports (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isotretinoin roaccutane is a trade name of isotretinoin)that dryness of lips and skin is ... (read in full...)
What if I still like him and he just wants to be friends...how do I deal with this situation?
Q. I think that I'm giving up on him. I went through telling him how I feel and that i like him but its been way too long! In class sometimes I catch him staring at me and when we catch each others eye I look away because Im embarassed that I was ...
A. 9 December 2009: i generally agree with oldersister.
not many guys your age would want to just stay friends with a girl crushing on them. he has all the makings of a best friend, heterosexual or otherwise :p (last bit was a joke btw!)
there are various things y... (read in full...)
20 and never had a serious relationship!
Q. am 20 and ive never had a serious relationship... am a nice girl with a big heart.. friends loves me and everyone i meet says am a lovely person..guys all say am pretty and sexy. but i want a guy who would love me.. am always alone on ...
A. 9 December 2009: don't worry! the lads that only want sex aren't right for a girl that wants a serious relationship. a lot of guys tend to want sex, but some of us aren't like that.
trust yourself that you'll find the right man for you. you don't know when you... (read in full...)
Should I meet for sexual activity? I don't want to date him and I'm 15.
Q. I am meeting with this boy this friday from my school. He is just so mmmmmm sexyyy its weird coz i never fort i wus ever go out with him before in my life. i think he wants to have sex with me but so do i ha i dont wanna go out with him tho j...
A. 9 December 2009: if you really want sex then i suppose there's not too much that will stop you, so if you do, be careful.
i wouldn't if i were you, i'd still meet up with him and see how it goes. i hate casual sex (one night stands and friends with benefits... (read in full...)
How can I find the right person?
Q. well, I am 21, i so much want to be in a relationship, a serious one.i dont like to feel loneliness. I really want someone nice in my life. Can someone tell me where i can find the right person?...
A. 8 December 2009: i'm in a similar position to you and i'm sure that you don't 'find' the right person, it just happens. apparently.
i always find that when i want to meet someone new i never do, but if the thought doesn't cross my mind then i have been much mor... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "drunk dick"?
Q. I recently had sex with this guy and he was drunk... I did things with him sexually before and he could always "finish" even when I gave him a handjob ... but he couldnt when we had sex and it brought down my ego... he said it was beacuse he was ...
A. 8 December 2009: don't worry, "brewer's droop" affects a lot of us when drunk. usually it's ok, but after drinking so much, there are very real medical reasons for it. I live with a medicine student who told me exactly what happens but i can't remember what he ... (read in full...)
Is 2 years too big an age difference?
Q. Im 17 and im in love with a girl shes 15, is 2 years a huge age gap for us if we date? ...
A. 4 December 2009: at least in the UK and Ireland 2 years is perfectly acceptable.
i would argue that as long as you don't have sex with her when she's underage then it's not only ok, but also normal. when i was 17 i briefly dated a (very mature) 14 year old girl... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he initiate sex with me, after the many times I have slept over at his house?
Q. Why wouldn't a guy have sex with his girlfriend? I've slept over at my boyfriends house countless of times, but he has never tried anything. We sleep together in his bed, spooning or cuddling, and just kiss or even make out but after that it's ...
A. 4 December 2009: just re-read your query.
if you spoon he probably is showing a sign of sexuality.
he has room-mates, doing anything more sexual may be risky regarding getting caught. that is something he may be thinking about too. getting caught in the ac... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he initiate sex with me, after the many times I have slept over at his house?
Q. Why wouldn't a guy have sex with his girlfriend? I've slept over at my boyfriends house countless of times, but he has never tried anything. We sleep together in his bed, spooning or cuddling, and just kiss or even make out but after that it's ...
A. 4 December 2009: i recommend you talk to him about it because there must be a very good reason he often sleeps with you and never tries anything. is it religious? is he insecure? you need to know what's keeping him from showing any sign of sexuality.
i wouldn't... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before we have sex?
Q. Hello, I am 18 years old and I am a virgin I have a boyfriend who is 24 years old and we have only been going out for a while I do want to end up having sex with him but I am kind of scared but also at the same time I don't know how long we...
A. 3 December 2009: i'd wait until you truly love and trust each other. it's the only way i'd say you won't necessarily get hurt.
the tricky part is his age. if he's a bit of a player, i wouldn't touch him if i were you. if he's seriously into you then, and only the... (read in full...)
What should I do about my parents rule?
Q. ok so im 16 and my bf is 19 and i love him more than anything but my parents have this 2 year rule that i cant date anyone that is more than 2 years older than me but they wont even meet him and give him a chance he is a great guy nd ive been wit ...
A. 27 November 2009: i agree that parental rules are there for a good reason, and i fully respect them. i was in a similar position to you, except i was the older guy by 3 years.
i feel that they should at least give him a chance. the impression i get is that the rule... (read in full...)
I am crushing on a student of mine! Help!
Q. I'm a teacher. I have recently found myself attracted to one of my 6th form students (only 17 years old :S) I would never act on this but feel continuously guilty. I am in a long term relationship which makes it even worse. What can I do to stop ...
A. 25 November 2009: just for the benefit of others, the asker is female, and i assume the subject of her crush is male.
you're stereotypical ;)
i think it could be a sign your current relationship isn't working as well as it could. don't tell us, but are you happ... (read in full...)
How can I makeout properly with her? And any good songs for me to play on the guitar for her?
Q. I now have a girlfriend and I really like her. We have kissed, and tried to makeout but that didn't work. We started, but then we bumped lips and teeth and it stopped. How can I makeout properly with her? And what are some good songs to learn on ...
A. 25 November 2009: sadly i gave up the guitar a while ago, but plain white ts - hey there delilah is a good one, you want something romantic that she'll appreciate but avoid anything cliched! babybird - you're gorgeous may be too cliched but it's your choice. tender ... (read in full...)
He didn't "cum", did I do something wrong??
Q. Ok everyone, this is actually going red writing this but i need to know, i recently slept with this guy i meet about 2 weeks ago we slept together on a sat and on following monday, and both times he didnt cum, in fact i did loads and with other se...
A. 22 November 2009: not answering the question but this is for double m. the snip i think = vasectomy. spliff = slang for cannabis/marijuana cigarette. OP - make him relax, make him at ease with everything, if he;s nervous then he won't be able to perform as well... (read in full...)
Why do guys turn against girls when they really like them?
Q. Quick question... basically why do some guys, even the good guys... why do they turn against a girl if they like them a lot? Like why are they horrible to them or change the way they are with them depending on who they're with and where they are! ...
A. 22 November 2009: one possible explanation is that the way us guys talk. it could be a sign of friendly 'banter'. it could easily be a sign we like you if we're a tad mean. depending on the context it's a good or bad sign.
if he's always mean and never wants to... (read in full...)
Fifteen and I want a baby now! Mature advice needed.
Q. Please help. I'm quite mature, and I have support from my family and friends. I've always wanted a baby, since I have hit puberty, I think of what it would be like, and how hard it'd be but at the same time how wonderful it'd be. I know it costs a ...
A. 20 November 2009: WAIT! for a start sex at your age is illegal. you have a childhood to enjoy, give it a couple of years at least.... (read in full...)
Bf has 11 inch penis... how can we make sex more comfortable for me?
Q. Please take this seriously. Me and my boyfriend have been trying to have sex for a while, we have been going out for 5 years and trying for the last few months. It is really hurting me, and it is becoming unpleasant, we just end up arguing....
A. 20 November 2009: this is difficult to take seriously, has he considered a career in porn? ;)
seriously, i think it would be an idea to use fingers before vaginal sex, to get you as wet as physically possible. that would lubricate your vagina and theoreti... (read in full...)
Do nice guys finish last? Help me get a gf!
Q. I'm a 25 year old virgin and I've never been in a relationship I feel at this point it's almost hopeless, the bad part is, is that, I'm almost ready to accept the fact that I will live out my life being alone and never understanding wh...
A. 20 November 2009: i am in a similar situation regarding love at least, though i'm not a virgin and have just turned 22.
i fancy a nice girl, and i asked her if nice guys finish last, and she says no. she still doesn't fancy me not sure if i have to be mean for a bi... (read in full...)
Any good tips for online dating?
Q. I turned 22 a couple of weeks ago. I've decided to try this online dating malarkey now. basically, how do i present myself in the best possible yet most honest light, and have a chance of finding someone? i always used to associate online ...
A. 18 November 2009: thanks all, i'm using plentyoffish.
k_c100 - thanks for the very detailed reply, i'm going to try to meet someone in real life but my self-esteem took a hit, so i'm trying all avenues.
satindesire - i'll pick up on something on their profile... (read in full...)
Any good tips for online dating?
Q. I turned 22 a couple of weeks ago. I've decided to try this online dating malarkey now. basically, how do i present myself in the best possible yet most honest light, and have a chance of finding someone? i always used to associate online ...
A. 18 November 2009: @satindesire - yes i do, admittedly i haven't been a member for long (a few days) and i'm using pof.
the photo is 3 years old but i look the same, and it was the only decent one i could steal from my facebook account. most photos of me are when... (read in full...)
How can I learn to be more confident and get over the fear of rejection?
Q. Hey guys, There is this guy that i strongly like and I've known him for almost 2 years. He's more than a friend but less than a best friend. Sometimes it looks like he likes me and other times it doesn't and i'm so confused right now. I can't handle ...
A. 18 November 2009: smile all the time. be comfortable in any situation, talk yourself confident. tell yourself you are a damn sexy girl and you'll believe it, then you can act like you believe it. you'll be much better.
try flirting with other lads (boys), nothing ... (read in full...)
Any good tips for online dating?
Q. I turned 22 a couple of weeks ago. I've decided to try this online dating malarkey now. basically, how do i present myself in the best possible yet most honest light, and have a chance of finding someone? i always used to associate online ...
A. 18 November 2009: cheers mate for that :)
i do talk to random girls, i chat on nights out to random girls. but i feel awkward, not because of that, i feel they might question my motives, especially in bars.
i don't want a one-night stand, i don't want casua... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's mum is a pain in the bum!!!
Q. ok i recently posted about my gf and her mum well her mum has used her brains to get her daughter to think she was ok so she could text me. The following thing: I am warning you... dont ever contact my daughter again... she is 19 and does not ...
A. 18 November 2009: regarding the police, age wise you're fine, it's probably just her mum's perception of older men.
as long as you stick to the law and don't rape her i can't see much of a problem. a girl i went to school with married a man older than you.
... (read in full...)
Should I smoke pot before sex?
Q. Would smoking pot before having sex make it hurt less the first time?...
A. 18 November 2009: i wouldn't.
if you want to get stoned before sex, it's only reasonable to assume your boyfriend would too. frankly i find it difficult to get it up when i've had a smoke.
stay off the pot for sex, especially the first time, nothing should d... (read in full...)
Am I in "best friends for life" territory?
Q. hello everyone, i'm probably in 'best friend for life' territory with a girl i know from uni. i'm 21 (soon 22) and she's 20. i have feelings for her, massively. i told her over the phone in summer, and she took it very well. we're not together but...
A. 18 November 2009: i know it's a while sine i asked, but just to update you all: i'm getting over her, i'm quitting smoking, taking up slow jogging, doing things to get her out of my head.
i brought the subject up recently, and if she secretly liked me then she woul... (read in full...)
How can I spend time with her in my own home before I leave for active duty?
Q. I am 18 years old and enlisted in the United States Airforce. I have a girlfriend well ex now girlfriend who is 16 years old. I have been dating her since i was 14 years old and I lost my virginity to this girl. My first true love and basically only ...
A. 21 October 2009: as far as the age difference goes, i don't think it's a problem, but maybe it's different in the States with age of consent law, for example. i for one think the age difference is nothing worrying.
but if she's your "ex" then maybe it's time to ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know how to decide between the two...
Q. Well... This is something that I don't know how to deal with. How do I do the right thing? There are two girls who I like. The first one I am really close to. She knows how I feel about her. Thing is though, she never rejected me as such...
A. 10 October 2009: i feel you're in a similar situation to me with your friend. i'd ignore the one you barely know, it's probably lust not love, lust doesn't last.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-in-best-friends-for-life-territory.html
this is my qu... (read in full...)
Am I in "best friends for life" territory?
Q. hello everyone, i'm probably in 'best friend for life' territory with a girl i know from uni. i'm 21 (soon 22) and she's 20. i have feelings for her, massively. i told her over the phone in summer, and she took it very well. we're not together but...
A. 10 October 2009: Thanks both so far.
she'll never get with her ex again, he cheated on her, she hates him, but still feels an affinity to him. it's really weird. trust me they will never get back together.
i have to be patient but this is stopping me from... (read in full...)
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