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writes:Quick question... basically why do some guys, even the good guys... why do they turn against a girl if they like them a lot? Like why are they horrible to them or change the way they are with them depending on who they're with and where they are! Why do they basically not show any nice signs of liking you (or just afw like staring) but then they act like they really dont like you at all not even as a friend?Or if someone says something bad about you they let it affect them... I dont get it. Its happened to my mate and from seeing this guy we'd all say he really likes her but im just wondering in general. WHY do guys act like this. Its quite sad actually because some turn out to be the nicest most caring guys. Reply to this Question
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reader, lazyman87 +, writes (22 November 2009):
one possible explanation is that the way us guys talk. it could be a sign of friendly 'banter'. it could easily be a sign we like you if we're a tad mean. depending on the context it's a good or bad sign.
if he's always mean and never wants to be around you then forget it. but if he says it with a cheeky tone, a cheeky look, then it's entirely friendly. we take the mickey out of each other alot. male bonding.
i don't know if this is true in your case, you'll have to analyse it yourself, and i hope you see what i'm trying to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): I am sorry, but your question is a little unclear and general, but I will try to answer based on what I think you mean.
You want to know why a guy who has indicated interest and caring in a girl at one point suddenly acts cold the next or in the presence of certain people?
I would say that it is because he is not all that interested in her and doesn't want to give her false hope that he wants to be with her or date her, and since boys are sort of neanderthals, they can't communicate this in any other way.
Sometimes though it may just be a matter of confusion or indecision on their part and they may not want to be razzed by their male friends for liking a girl they may not know or be keen on....
Either way, I wouldn't take it too personally and if some guy acts like that towards you the best thing to do is to back off and give him no attention either positive or negative and see if he changes his attitude...then you will know if he was just being that way and likes you, or if he really has no interest what so ever.
And just because a boy doesn't have interest in a girl, that doesn't mean she isn't a great girl, it is just his issues that are keeping him from being any other way towards her....so keep on walking, walking away from that, no one needs that stuff any way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): People have "funny" acting ways all the time. I honestly don't know why guys act in that manner.....I guess people will treat you the way in which you allow them to treat you. Dr. Phil cites that you have to teach a person how to treat you...now that may and may not work. I say if a person isn't treating you with the up most respect leave them alone regardless who they are. Life is too short to analyzie every little thing a person says or does. Once a person has showed you who they REALLY are, and once you have given them the opportunity to get their act together and they do not---cut them lose. Don't allow such people to be part of your life whether it's a relationship or a friendship.
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