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writes:ok so im 16 and my bf is 19 and i love him more than anything but my parents have this 2 year rule that i cant date anyone that is more than 2 years older than me but they wont even meet him and give him a chance he is a great guy nd ive been wit him for 9 months idk wat to do bout my parents tho.....What should i do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): That parental rule reflects law concerning statutory rape. You might want to check on your state's age of consent before you do it because depending on the state your boyfriend can get arrested for having sex with you.
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reader, lazyman87  +, writes (27 November 2009):
i agree that parental rules are there for a good reason, and i fully respect them. i was in a similar position to you, except i was the older guy by 3 years.
i feel that they should at least give him a chance. the impression i get is that the rule is there for your protection. it's almost like your parents don't trust any guy 3 years older than you than they'd trust a guy 2 years older than you. if i were you, i'd try to show that he is a good guy, but the only way you can do that is if he meets your parents.
i wouldn't nag them or act in any way that can be called childish. be patient and mature and hopefully everything will work out. xx
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reader, 24yeahright  +, writes (27 November 2009):
Here's what you do. You lie.
Pretend you're not seeing the 19 year old anymore, and then in a month tell them you want them to meet your new 18 year old boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): you can try to talk to them reasonably and try to get them to see things your way but ultimatly that have the power here. as long as they are paying your way in life and providing you with a home, etc...they really have the power. i dont see a lot of options for you here,. hold on for a couple more years and then when you finish school you will be equiped to make more of your own decisions. Parental rules in most cases are there for your protection...and hopefully because they love you and want whats best for you. maybe you can reach a compromise with them.... goodluck sweetie, mal
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