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writes:This is probably a question that will get vastly different answers, but I have been curious to know the answer to the following question: What is the etiquette of oral sex?When you go down on a person, do you expect to kiss them after or do you run to the bathroom to brush your teeth? Personally, I normally refuse oral sex because it means that I won't kiss them after and I love kissing. However, I am not sure if there are unspoken rules or etiquette about this sort of thing.Love to hear from men and women.
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reader, agent86 +, writes (7 January 2012):
I enjoy giving my wife oral sex. After giving her a long session and bringing her to climax I think it is the least she could do is kiss me. I would kiss her if it was the other way aroung. I will say we don't have oral as much due to the lack of kissing after oral.
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reader, vickivonvicki +, writes (5 March 2010):
I am 41 years old, and have had a number of relationships in my life. I have been with a man for the last 18 months and he is the one and only man I have ever been with who brushes his teeth or uses mouthwash right after he performs oral on me. I have always found this highly offensive and have told him. But he still brushes afterward...only now he uses excuses like....well I just ate lunch or its bedtime now. He used to want to wash him package off with soap and water when we were done with intercourse but I have discouraged this. Its just so odd to me. I dont know how to get over it. HELP!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 I can't even begin to imagine having a problem kissing a girl after she's been down on me, giving me blowjobs is behavior that I like to encourage and reward. Frankly, the other way around I'd be a little offended. If I've been down on you for 15 - 20 minutes enjoying all the yumminess but now somehow it's unpleasant to kiss me ....? Just doesn't make sense.
Be really careful about how you brush your teeth immediately around the time that you are having oral sex as tooth brushing can produce small cuts in the gums which are a risk factor. Equally be really careful about giving or receiving head if one of you has a piercing in your mouth or tongue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): me and my boyfriend never kiss after we go down on each other till we have had something to drink, we always have something to take a drink of then we carry on to the kissing.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Never talk with your mouth full.
Say grace after you eat someone out.
hell, it all depends on the people involved. Do what ever works for you. There is only the two of you so who cares what polite society thinks of it?
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 I can't speak for others, but my lad and I have no problem kissing afterwards. It just seems natural - after you've pleased the other person so much, you want to give them a kiss. =)
We do tend to refrain from full on tongue kissing straight after, but only for about ten minutes or so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): We give kisses to each other after oral sex. If having a mouth in contact with genitals is good, then a mouth to mouth contact is fine afterwards too. In fact, it's kind of sexy. But this is only in the committed relationship. If you're not in a truly monogamous relationship, it might be a good idea to use condoms and the dental dam.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): I kiss after giving and receiving because its my vagina. my boyfriend has the same concept. its his penis. plus if he cums, or you cum, its already down your throat...or spit out lol. its just like if you were eating, its already swallowed and out of your mouth so you're good to go. if its still in your mouth then its gross. you get it? lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): I don't know the etiquette either. I think it is always awkward. Have any of you guys ever heard of snow blowing? It is kissing with cum still in your mouth...basically it gets recycled. I guess it is a kinky fetish (liking the taste of your cum). I don't find that idea even remotely sexy.
I think for men, they don't care as much and you have a choice of receiving the cum or not. With a woman it is different...no choice. If a man finishes going down on you he has you all over his face. Yum?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): Me and my boyfriend both kiss afterwards. It's a normal thing for us, which we both feel comfortable with but everybodies different and have there own preferences x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): I have never had oral sex with someone who I was not in a serious relationship with, so etiquette may be different for those in relationships and those who are with someone they do not know as well. But for me and my boyfriend, we kiss each other immediately after giving and receiving. Kind of gross to some but it does not bother either of us.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 well when i give oral, or receive. i never kiss after - my boyf doesnt either. i guess its a hygiene thing for us. some ppl do though. after, we usually cuddle for a while and then i brush my teeth. just because you love kissing you shouldnt pass up on either - it takes a few seconds to clean your mouth out and then you can go back to kissing!!
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