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*uzuki
writes:Im a little confused..ive been seeing a great guy for months and although hes a little forgetful we have a ball and i have no other complaints. But...it was my birthday on Friday and even though he had a wedding to go to that morning in England for 3 days...I thought he would send me a card? Before he left he said he would make up for it when he got back. But was it too much to expect a card? I ignored his calls all weekend and when he finally got me on the phone he got the cold shoulder...I'm very hurt that I must be so far down his list of to do's. Should I just let him go?
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reader, Siam  +, writes (21 June 2009):
Hi
I hate to say it -its the thought that counts -guys or girls for that matter who 'forget' are thoughtless.
If it was a business meeting, or work appointment, they would remember.
With all the facebooking, palm pilots, internet etc etc its impossible not to book in a reminder to remember someone who you care's significant day and lets face it, its about making someone you 'want to impress' about happy -small price?
It's not about gifts but the gesture, it's what it represents. You find out a lot about someone who 'forgets' stuff like this. Laid back? another expression for selfish.
Get someone who cares.
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reader, suzuki +, writes (22 September 2008):
suzuki is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell just for the people who kindly answered me...I still havnt got even a call since he came home last night...so I will have to take it for granted that he cant be assed making up or saying sorry...its a bitter pill to swallow when you hold someone in such high regard...and they think so little of you back...x
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 Give him a chance to make it up to you. He's probably a flake at sending cards - I know I am. I know my boyfriend is. He doesn't even remember to send his Mother a card. Men, what are you going to do?
Did he call you on your birthday? Did he remember to acknowledge it? And, maybe he's planning something really special for when he returns. He said he's make it up to you - give him a chance to do so.
Happy birthday, sweetness!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (22 September 2008):
 like kinkydude said alot of men dont think when it comes to stuff like this
And to be honest if we remember a birthday we dont even think about sending cards. For me it just doesnt clock into my head.
Yes he will be sorry and say it, but just dont ignore him tell him how you feel and try and move up and past this. Child games in a relationship solve nothing
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reader, kinkydude +, writes (22 September 2008):
hi! One of the problems with us men, is that we can be quite forgetful about things. We may love you, care about you, not want to hurt you. But we just don't have great memory. Its a man thing. But he may still love you and cherish being with you. I would tell him that you were hurt. Be honest with him. he'll have his excuses, but he'll surely admit he made a great mistake, and it shouldn't happen again, in all probability, depending on just how much of his man memory is impaired.
I'm sorry to say that you're way of handling things is a- woman thing- and isn't really cool. The cold shoulder, not saying what youre feeling. All that is definately a female thing to do. And we love you for it, but as far as maturity...not a good thing. Be honest about what you're feeling, and give this guy another chance. See what happens. Hey, he may not be the one for you, in the end. But ya never know, and you can't just blow it because of our greatest fault- u know, the memory thingy.
Good luck
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