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writes:I have been single for about the past 2 years and I hate every second of it. I have been rejected by at least 50 women and I am at my breaking point. I don't want to approach anyone anymore because I know that I will just be rejected. I can't even find a woman who wants to talk to me. I can't find a woman that wants anything to do with me. The funny thing is that if one woman gave me a chance, or even let me earn the chance, I doubt that she would be disappointed. Instead, it is just rejection. All of my friends are married or nearly so, I am the odd man out everywhere.Today, I mustered up enough courage to talk to a woman that I thought might be interested in me and I totally blew it. I must have come off as the dumbest, most inept person on the planet. I am sure I ruined what little chance I had, if any, with her. Any advice? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, malvern  +, writes (15 September 2008):
 You need to get to know women as friends first and girlfriends second. Instant chat ups rarely work. The women need to get to know you and make their own judgements. Join a dancing class like Salsa, French Jive, -where there are plenty of women. There's always a shortage of men so you will get to dance with them all and gradually you will get to know them. Don't worry if you can't dance, most people make a mess of it and we all have to start somewhere. I'm female and I've been doing Ballroom & Sequence dancing for 8 years now. I joined to learn to dance but I've had several relationships over the years and made some very good friends.
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reader, kinkydude +, writes (15 September 2008):
Man, your really psyching yourself out. First off, your still really young. Identify those issues which you believe are holding you back from not finding someone, and work on it.
Another thing, don't try and randomly meet chicks. If something happens, it will be probably be related to a common interest or work. You could also try meeting women on-line. Worked for me. I met alot of women I didn't like, but I met one I did, and we've been together 5 months now.
Some times when our confidence is low, its difficult to meet people. It kinda oozes out of us....
I tend to think, that if you have a lot of love in your heart, and are generally a loving person, finding a mate is an inevitability. Although, I understand the space your in, and have been there myself at least 2 times. so take heart...you're not alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Hey...i will talk. just answer this.
Why do you think your getting rejected?
Besides, you have many many years ahead. Dont loose hope. Love is a never ending time.=). Maybe the girl your looking for is right in front of you and your trying to hard.
Keep in touch...
(-;)3 bunnie
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): I'm 24 and have never been with a girl in my entire life. That said, I fully intend to succeed with a girl someday and aren't about to give in to despair just because things haven't progressed as well as I'd hoped. You say you've approached 50 women. I think it's obvious that you're coming across as too desperate and needy - and this, my friend, is what is turning these women off. You MUST be patient and (I know this is hard) relaxed about it all. Patience is key and even if some girls won't go out with you, there are about 3 billion women on the planet, so... And don't be bothered by the fact that your mates are all in relationships. I used to be too. Then I realised that I have it all to look forward to. So head up and don't allow yourself to get too dejected. And remember - if you EXPECT failure then fail you shall.
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