| A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes: I've been moved reassigned from LDR to "friend" and she can't understand why my attitude towards her has changed. She's been hinting at it for a couple weeks now by telling me what she wants in a man (none of which I am) and the other night she told me exactly the kind of guy she wants to marry (not even close). I can take a hint eventually so I have backed off a lot as far as communicating to her. Now she asks if I'm mad at her. How do I tell her I don't want to be a "friend"? Am I a bad person because I either want everything or nothing at all? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Analdia  +, writes (15 September 2008):
 you should just tell her.If that's how u feel then that's how u feel.ur actully good because you want her to be in ur life.Itz not like ur saying forget her period.You just ade up ur mind about something and ur sticking to it
A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Dear Poster
No you are not a bad person for not wanting to share the person in your life; I won't either.
I can understand that you feel hurt and confused with all the "hints" but backing of is not solving the problem.
You need to be open and honest with her abut your feelings; you have to tell her that you are not happy to be "just a friend" that you want more;
There is no alternative, but open and honest discussion.
Then you will know where you stand and if she is only prepared to offer friendship you can decide if you are prepared to stay friends or if you want to "back off".
Don't make yourself unhappy and miserable by delaying the "talk"; The sooner you discuss this the sooner you will know where you stand.
Be strong and sort it out.
Good luck, best wishes and keep SMILING.
Keep us posted.
...............................
A
male
reader, kinkydude  +, writes (15 September 2008):
she may think that you're all those things she's been telling you. Perhaps, she's into you. Be a man and tell her you're interested...take her out for coffee
...............................
|
