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writes:Which guy do i choose? Both are from the internet.Guy 1) Met twice, one occasion being going to a restaurant. He paid fully for the bill, i did offer and he joked saying i could pay for desert in this other restaurant. He opens doors for me, (rushes to do so). When i did quietly pay the bill without his knowledge he was shocked saying he had been joking. Mid 30;s, divorced as he had a arrange married to some one in canada whom they had anulment and no sex. When face to face, we are so besotted and funny. but otherwise minimal text and calls, he says hate texting yet when i turn my back hes on the phone texting.Guy 2)30 this year, had a very bad relationship -single two years. Says doesnt want to rush and go with flow. He will drop everything and make time for me,to meet me. He texts and calls none stop. Today i was just sitting in the car and he was sexually excited when seeing me.But he doesnt want to go on dates or even out i.e for a drink yet said wants to take it slow.He is very helpful i.e about my carOnly spoke to both for a week. First one goes to america for 6weeks and has said minimal contact with me then. Second one his mums having a operation soon so he wil be main carer and hard for him to getout.I;m 24.Which one guys?views thanks
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reader, KC12  +, writes (19 September 2014):
 I would definitely nix the first guy, as he's already showing signs of dishonesty by saying that he hates texting...then texts away while you are not looking. NOT a good sign.
The second guy I would take it slow with...and get to know him better before making any decisions about him. Also, keep your options open for now...
Somebody even better than these 2 guys might come into the picture. ;)
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (17 September 2014):
 Chose neither. Pick me instead. I don't have any baggage, well maybe a big suitcase in the loft, and don't have ex wives or go to America. Sorted.
Seriously I wouldn't choose either man.
Guy 1) Says to YOU he hates texting but cant stop fiddling with his phone texting others when he thinks your not looking. Red flag. His door opening routine comes across as fawning and trying too hard. Men who make a big performance of opening doors are not gents, they are trying too hard and come across as vomit inducing. Oh and he is going to the US so why bother.
Guy 2) Seems too keen. After his bad relationship is probably still hurt and insecure and lonely hence he is constantly all over you. Bad sign. He may be good at an oil change or removing a burnt out clutch but his dating abilities are confined to the future by the sounds of it. Bearing in mind his mom is going to take up a lot of time and he already wants to avoid dates and go slow, what are you going to get out of it? Not much I suspect.
You have only spoken to both for a week? Then you have lost nothing.
Mark
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 September 2014):
 I would not choose either. The first one has an unstable life. He made decisions rashfully and can't follow through. He travels a lot too so you never know where he will end up. The second guy sounds like he is damaged, both emotionally and financially. There is potential to be controlling too. He won't date but wants your attention the whole time.
I believe when you date you present your best self. The two of them don't even care about giving you the best impression.
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