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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for two years, we got engaged but his daughter had become jealous and wanted me out of there, so we are no longer engaged. He engages in alot of pornography, and while snooping I came across lots of fantasies about daddy's little girl growing up and having sex with him and incest. also tons of cheerleading, basically all highschool age to college girls. His daughter is quite mentally ill at the age of 14 and very sexually charged. My question is is it possible this man is capable of molestation?? or is his unhealthy daddy daughter relationship the reason she might be ill? I get the feeling he is very attracted to his daughter?? and possibly her friends?? I am raising a young daughter and I am afraid of what all this means.
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reader, KC12 +, writes (30 November 2013):
 There are too many red flags here. You need to think of yourself, and your daughter and get out of this situation.
1. End the relationship ASAP (if you haven't already) and cease all contact with him, especially to protect your daughter.
2. Report him to social services and the police.
3. Move on with your life, away from this "man."
You do NOT want to be in this situation, and if something does happen and he does get in trouble for molesting his daughter and others down the road...you'll be questioned as to how much you knew/suspected, and why you didn't do or say anything about it.
Also, wouldn't hurt to check Meghan's Law List and make sure he's not already on it. Investigate him via Intellus or other site for police records, etc.
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (30 November 2013):
This person should be flagged to the relevant authorities asap.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (30 November 2013):
I'm a big believer in a "gut feeling". If you think something is wrong then I would go with that. But in saying that you also have to becareful in accusing someone of child molestation if you don't have proof.
Is is actually looking at child porn? That is a crime. That is a serious crime of these young girls be victimized over and over again. We as adults need to protect our children from monsters like this. It is all our responsiblility!
Why does his daughter have mental health issues? Where do they stem from?
If I thought any guy was sexually interested in his 14 year old daughter and/or her friends. I wouldn't walk away, I would RUN!
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reader, like I see it +, writes (30 November 2013):
 Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, report the home and situation to Child Protective Services. They can escalate the situation to police if they believe there is reason to do so.
Whatever you do, please DO NOT keep dating this guy if you suspect even for a moment that your young daughter's well-being is at stake. The day you became a mother you became responsible to protect her interests before your own. You can find another boyfriend, but if this one hurts he, that lost innocence is something she can never get back.
Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (30 November 2013):
 Anything is possible but without proof this is a very serious accusation. Unless you find underage porn all you could assume is that he is a perv, a porn addict and her daughter is emotionally unstable due to puberty and from the anxiety of living in a broken home. If you do find underage porn then he is breaking the law and you can look at this as a deal breaker. The daughter will look at you as a rival, incest or not. The fact you have here is that your relationship can't progress further until the daughter can warm up to you. I would also see that sexually, young girls are his thing and I would worry that sex with the same age would not be so satisfying for either of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2013): It means that you have recognized a red flag and keep him away from your daughter !
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2013):
Everyone one will have a diffirent opinion on this but I think you need to at least voice your concerns with the police family unit or social services .. There is enough evidence that something isn't quite right ..
I think if you sat on it , you might later become haunted if anything in the future did come to light .. By talking to a professional you then leave it up to them to get a picture of the situation interview the girl etc . I'm not a fan of social services, but under the circumstances I feel you need to at least voice your concerns
Not as a jealous ex but as a concerned mother ..
Where is the girls mother, if you don't mind me asking??
Or the girls grand parents .. I would even maybe write them a letter give them a heads up ..
Take care and lets us know how it goes.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (30 November 2013):
 i was in this situation sort of and it turns out my suspicions were true but to a much larger degree! i suggest reporting this to cps or to one of the girls counselors/drs. i also was in special ed and knew a few girls just like her.
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