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writes:I need some advice. My boyfriend of 2 months broke up with me the other day because he was scared that I would hurt him and that he was too in love with me. He races motocross so we hardly ever get to see one another. Anyways, he told me that he wanted to get to know me better before we got together because he asked me out 2 days after we met. He says that we rushed things and wants to be friends with me until he knows me enough. But I don't understand I mean we've been together 2 months and it wasn't a problem then. So how do I prove to him that I'm not going to hurt him, that I'm not the same and that I really do love him.? Should I let him go or should I hold on? Help me please ;(
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): bullshit. he is lieing. he does not love you, he is making excuses not to date you.
do yourself a favour and try to forget this piece of work. you deserve better. and you will find a better decent man who would at least be honest. plse just let things be, do not humiliate yourself by trying to get back with him. what a nonsense man. (could call him more disgusting words, but trying to play nice now)
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Wow, people are still using that line.. It's the oldest excuse in the book. I broke up with a guy in high school, and that was my excuse..
Please don't buy it, he just wants out without the drama, so he's using that excuse. Don't be his fool and just walk away.
good luck.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Two thoughts came to mind reading this... either your boyfriend was hurt traumatically from some past relationship, or he feels so strongly toward you that he has begun to doubt himself and his feelings.
I'm not sure how to tell you to bring him back; something needs to reassure him he's not making some kind of mistake in judgement. I am betting that he is hoping that back-tracking and trying to fill in those gaps that are causing him to wonder if he's made the right choice. He's looking for that sign that you're not like all the rest -- all that previous baggage...
If you want this, be prepared to fight for the love you feel. Sure, prove yourself... but don't beyond as far as you feel comfortable doing. Fight for what you want, but know when to realize the fight's over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): Oh dear, you've got this all backwards and he played you big time. He doesn't want to be with you and gave you a bunch of lines to make you feel better about it. He probably already has another girlfriend and please walk away!
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 I'd let go.. it seems like he's really not that into the relationship. He gave you like 3 completely different and not to mention rediculous. They basically said "It's not you, it's me". Dear, you can do a lot better..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): sweety im going to have to tell you that you need to move on... not to be mean or anyting but "i love you too much and that might hurt me" is a break up line like "its not you its me" :( im sorry
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (24 June 2009):
 This doesn't make sense. He had plenty of time to get to know you during those two months. Do you think that he could be seeing someone else?
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